CTNAHM: How to Mold Your Wife to Bless Your Need

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 75—77We are still talking about Mr. Visionary. Today, though, we get to talk about Mrs. Visionary.  No, not a woman visionary, but the wife of Mr. Visionary.  These sections are all about getting the most help meet out of one's wife. I know you're as excited as I am. The Visionary's Help MeetA radical visionary can be saved from dead ends and useless eruptions by his wise help meet's simple wo … [Read more...]

How Doug Phillips Wreaked Havoc on My Family

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My parents homeschooled me K-12, and during those years they fell under the influence of several Christian leaders who spread toxic dogma and find their following within the Christian homeschool movement. My parents never followed Gothard, but they did follow both Michael Pearl and Doug Phillips. I've talked a lot about how their devotion to Michael Pearl taught them to think that if they raised me "right" they could ensure that I stayed on the straight and narrow, copying my parents in my … [Read more...]

“The Female Sin of the Internet”

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The very first blogger to write about Vision Forum president Doug Phillips' statement of resignation and repentance (it seems he had conducted a lengthy affair) was Julie Anne of Spiritual Sounding Board. Julie Anne is a homeschooling mother of seven who spent years in a spiritually abusive fundamentalist church following the trends and theology of the most conservative circles of the Christian homeschooling movement. In 2012, for a variety of personal and family reasons, Julie Anne left and … [Read more...]

Why I Let My Children Eat (Almost) Whatever They Want

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I wrote recently about why I give my daughter Sally unrestricted access to her Halloween candy, and that generated some interesting discussion as people reminisced about their own childhoods or explained their own parenting decisions. But one comment, left by a reader named Brandy, got me thinking about teaching children about healthy eating. Brandy offered this concern: I guess I am struggling with this because of my own past. I was brought up with full access to junk food. My Halloween candy … [Read more...]

TTUAC: I Made a Child That I Don’t Like

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To Train Up A Child, pp. This week we finish the chapter on parental anger. I MADE A CHILD THAT I DON'T LIKEThe reason you are angry toward your children is that you don't like them. "Oh! I love my children very much." I didn't say you didn't love them. I say there are occasions when you just don't like them, for the simple reason that at such times they are very unlikable. It is impossible to like a whining, selfish, self-centered, spoiled brat. Okay, ugh. Look, there are times I … [Read more...]

Guest Post: A Courtship Story, Part 7: I Do

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A Guest Post by MelissaOriginally posted on Permission to LiveNote: I’m reposting Melissa’s series, originally written in February 2011, with her permission. Why now? Put simply, because it was one of the first things that came to my mind when I heard about Jessa Duggar courting. This is something I wish she could read. This is for Jessa. For all the posts in this series, click here.  We spent most of our time together at our family homes, so we also spent a lot of our time togeth … [Read more...]

Let’s Talk about Halloween Candy

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When I was a child, we didn't do trick-or-treating, but we did go to our church's harvest festival each year, which means we children did end up with piles of candy. Each year my parents put all of that candy up where we couldn't get it and let us eat it for only one half hour each Saturday over the next couple of weeks, until it was gone. This was a terrible idea. Not only did it reinforce that nothing was really ever ours, it also meant that every Saturday for a month we would cram ourselves … [Read more...]


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