On the Conflation of “Secular” and “Atheist”


Some weeks ago I reposted an article by Sarah Jones. In it, Sarah explained why she is not a "secular activist." A significant number of commenters objected, arguing that Sarah was conflating the words "secular" and "atheist," and that the two words were fundamentally different. They argued that secularism was synonymous with the separation of church and state, that it was a sort of middle ground where religion and non-religion were on an equal footing, and that it was the belief that no one has … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Pulling a Child’s Strings

strings that tie

To Train Up A Child, chapter 4 part 3 For the past two weeks, I've covered Michael's chapter on "tying strings." Today I will finish that chapter. In many ways, this chapter is completely at odds with the rest of the book. In fact, it is for that reason that it is quoted by Michael Pearl's defenders as proof that his methods properly applied could never have led to the three deaths credited to them. But some readers commenting on the last two posts on this chapter have pointed out some ways … [Read more...]

Day of the Doctor Open Thread


As you may know, Sean, Sally, and I are Doctor Who fans (Bobby has yet to express an opinion on the show, so I can't say for sure about him). The long-awaited fiftieth anniversary episode of Doctor Who came out yesterday, and the three of us curled up together to watch it, a very wiggly Sally perched in between. I'm not going to give any spoilers here, though all bars are off in the comments. I will say that I personally really liked it, Sean has a few qualms, and Sally declared it "cool!" … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Move Away From Your Inlaws—They’ll Contaminate Your Wife

moving day

A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 87---88Today we finish out the chapter on Visionary Men. Mr. Visionary's Five L'sListen Love Laugh Labor LeaveListen: Be willing to stop your dreams long enough to hear your wife's concerns. At her urging, seek counsel from another man of wisdom-a Steady Man, but not another Visionary. That's good advice. Men, listen to your wife! Though I disagree that one's wife has to urge … [Read more...]

Let’s Not Willfully Misrepresent Our Opponents


I'm tired of both the right and the left demonizing their opponents and willfully misunderstanding and misconstruing their arguments. Really. Freaking. Tired. [Edit: I originally offered several examples here, including one referring to "right-wing filth," one hypothesizing about whether or not a right-wing politician's face was "permanently stuck" in a whine, and two comments hypothesizing that pro-lifers would feel "smug satisfaction" if women who cannot afford a pregnancy were to start … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Esther and Her Mother

mother daughter

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 182---183We're still in the chapter on loving your children. Remember, Debi has told women to love their children by loving their husbands, and to love their children by not concentrating too much on loving Jesus. Now, for the first time, we actually turn to loving the children themselves. "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6).God has honored mothers with the blessed privilege of being … [Read more...]

My Father, an Enigma


"Libby, you could be an engineer. You have the mind for it."My dad made this comment while we were in the car, driving by a factory of some sort. I was probably around sixteen. My dad's comment was completely offhand, and I didn't bother to respond. Inside, though, I was baffled. Why would my dad suggest such a thing? Didn't he realize that my lot in life, the lot God had designed for me, was to be a homemaker, raising children, caring for my husband, and tending the home? Couldn't he see … [Read more...]