TTUAC: The “Magic Wand”


To Train Up A Child, chapter 5, part 5This week we finish chapter 5, "The Rod." If you've read nothing else of this series of reviews, read this section. This section gives a great deal of insight into how Michael views the rod, and what he alternately calls "spankings" and "whippings." We've noted previously that Michael continually tells parents to spank, hit, and otherwise beat their children, seemingly unaware of any other tools a parent might use to correct or guide a child. In the … [Read more...]

Sally and Me

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As I watched Sally at her preschool's winter program recently, something struck me in the gut, hard. Sally's upbringing will be so different from mine that it will in some ways be like we are from different cultures. I have talked before about growing up in the Christian homeschooling subculture being like being raised as a "third culture kid." I've talked about how our parents, raised in normal mainstream homes, could not understand the experience of growing up like we did, out of sync and in a … [Read more...]

The Lesbian Duplex 4: An Open Thread


This space is for conversation between commenters.* If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here. And so on. Every so often, as the number of comments on a given Lesbian Duplex post becomes unmanageable, I put up a fresh post. For those who are interested, I also have regular open posts specifically on children and parenting issues. Fu … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Dem Wimminz Hormonez

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 106---107Today we are finishing up the section on Mr. Steady. And how does Michael choose to close this section? Does he summarize the traits of a Steady? Will he exhort men to fix their weaknesses? Does he give a list of scriptures helpful for Steadies? Don't be silly. He talks about those female emotions.Female Emotional BreakdownsMr. Pearl,I have a few words to contribute to your … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sex, Charles, and Lesbians


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 196This week we continue with Debi's questions not to ask your husband. 7. Do you ever think of just loving me in the spiritual way instead of always the carnal? I am so hungry for some deep spiritual understanding and communication.Something deep inside him is so dissatisfied, so frustrated that she responds intimately only when she feels right about it. It speaks nothing of his manhood. His soul is sick all the way to its core. He falls asle … [Read more...]

“I Just Don’t Ask Them for Anything, Ever”


I was watching the movie Tangled with my family when we came to the scene where Repunzel is nervously trying to get up the courage to ask her mother (who is actually her abductor, though she does not know that) if she can go and see the lights on her birthday. I turned to my teenage sister Hope and whispered to her."Do you ever feel like that when you want to ask mom and dad something?""Yeah, so I just don't ask them for anything, ever," she whispered back.In many ways, my parents … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: You’re Not a Leader, But Lead Your Family!


A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally Posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need a Help Meet, pp. 104---105 We are getting near the end of the Mr. Steady chapter. Personally, I can't wait to be done with the sections on types. Anyway, today Michael is summing up Mr. Steady's character, and offering advice about how to be better (read: be more commanding).Five T's of a Steady manTell Take action Teach Talk TargetTell her what is on your mind---every day, every night Wow. … [Read more...]