While researching my previous blog post on Fifty Shades of Grey, I came upon an article by evangelical blogger Owen Strachan titled How “50 Shades of Grey” Harms Women & Jesus Saves Them. I’m going to deconstruct this blog post piece by piece to really dig into the problems with its logic. I should note that Strachan is not a nobody. He’s a professor at Boyce College and president of the Council on Biblical Manhood & Womanhood. Read more

My parents are the ones who set out with a very specific end goal in mind when approaching childrearing—i.e., that the children turn out to share their beliefs and lifestyle choices. I didn’t chose that. They did. But children are wild cards, and don’t always conform to parental expectations—especially when those expectations are rigid or constrictive. In communities like mine, children who don’t conform are too often cast aside, and a prodigal is born. Read more

In general, the thing that has evangelicals up in arms over Fifty Shades of Grey is its endorsement of premarital relationships and kinky sex, while the thing that has feminists up in arms is its glorification of abuse and its perversion of kinky sex. These differences are, of course, rooted in a huge divergence in the two groups’ underlying sexual ethics. Read more

When I was a teen, my father told me it would take a special kind of man to make me submit. I was headstrong, you see. I was opinionated and bossy. I sometimes envied those quiet, demure girls to whom submission came naturally. That wasn’t me. My father couldn’t know, then, that the man I would ultimately marry wouldn’t expect me to submit to him. I didn’t know, then, that I would reject the entire idea of wifely submission before I walked down the aisle. Read more

Having no children is “selfish” . . . but having too many children is “irresponsible.” It doesn’t help that the pope praises his mother for having five children but condemned a Filipino woman for having eight children. Where’s the line, then? Six kids? Seven? When does it move from “the joy of children” to being “like rabbits”? Read more

I wan’t to be clear that this isn’t an isolated thing. When a parent home births and homeschools, they have total control over their children’s documents (including control over the very existence of those documents). I grew up knowing several homeschooling families that didn’t obtain social security numbers for their children. Read more

Remember that while Donna’s creating a case that Gwen is unstable, her actual concern was not Gwen’s instability but rather that Gwen called her names. This is what’s so odd about this entire situation—everything that happens from here on out will happen for the simple reason that Donna has a grudge against Gwen. Read more

It is up to other Emergent Christians to deal with this situation, because Tony Jones is their leader, not mine. If they think Tony Jones is fit for leadership after how he unrepentantly treated Julie—and remember, too, that Tony was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder during the proceedings—so be it. But if that is what they decide, my grave concerns about Emergent Christianity’s priorities will be confirmed. Read more

I just stumbled upon a blog post Lisa Pennington wrote last August, a month before her daughter, Alecia Faith, left home. In this post, Lisa talks about how she handles having adult children living at home. Read more

The more I read of Alecia’s mother Lisa’s blog, the more familiar it all felt, down to the line about Alecia’s actions being “completely out of character from the girl I know.” The truth is, my mother thought she knew me, but she didn’t, because she only knew what I showed of myself, which is what she wanted to see. And when I started to stake out for myself who I was, she clung to a me that was gone, sure that it was the real one, unable to see that what she was holding onto was an echo. Read more

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