Kate’s Questioning: One Girl’s Journey


Kate recently wrote a post called "My Story: Questioning." In it she wrote a touching and almost poetic account of her own journey from a Christian homeschool past to a more open future. Her story is well worth reading. I want to excerpt the beginning of it for you and then send you over to Kate's blog to read the rest. Kate, as you may remember, grew up with my in the homeschool community years ago, my childhood friend. I lost her when I left all that behind, but in recent years I have gained … [Read more...]

TTUAC: “Child Development” My Foot!

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To Train Up A Child, pp. This is the third and last installment in the chapter on children's natural development. Have you noticed anything Michael hasn't talked about in this section? Hmm, let me think. How about children's natural development?I feel like the way Michael is handling this section is very similar to the way Debi handled her section on sex. Debi never actually told us anything about sex. Instead, she told her readers that men need sex, that men connect their value to their … [Read more...]

Michael Pearl Is Not Original

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Michael Pearl's To Train Up a Child is not original, not in the least. It's actually a rehashing of ideas that had been floating around in evangelicalism and fundamentalism for literally hundreds of years. Let me offer a few excerpts from various evangelical or fundamentalist sources to illustrate what I'm talking about.First, have a look at what Susanna Wesley wrote in 1732: When turned a year old (and some before), they were taught to fear the rod, and to cry softly; by which means they … [Read more...]

The Lesbian Duplex 3: An Open Thread


This space is for conversation between commenters.* If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here. And so on. Every so often, as the number of comments on a given Lesbian Duplex post becomes unmanageable, I put up a fresh post. For those who are interested, I also have regular open posts specifically on children and parenting issues. F … [Read more...]

Freaking Out over Adolescent Rebellion . . . during WWII


I grew up hearing that young people today were especially sinful, rebellious, and hedonistic. I grew up hearing that young people were rejecting faith in God and turning to juvenile delinquency in larger numbers than in the past. I grew up hearing that as a result of parents turning away from corporal punishment, adolescents were wayward, drug addicted, and suicidal like never before. Then I learned in college about the 1960s and the Baby Boomers. I realized that this idea that adolescent … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: You are Responsible for Your Spouse’s Temperament


A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 63---64Today we're starting the sections about the 3 types of men.  If you recall, "Created to Be His Help Meet" introduced this topic.  It'll be interesting to see how Michael interprets this for his masculine audience.   Not All Husbands are Created EqualUpon examination  we find that not all husbands are created equal.  They range from hen-pecked pushovers to monarchical slave drivers, from … [Read more...]

Children Are People 1: An Open Thread


Reader Hilary suggested I open a space solely for discussion surrounding children and parenting issues, so here it is, by request. Stories, questions, ideas, links---have at it! You do not have to have children yourself to participate. This space will operate as a chatter thread alongside the Lesbian Duplex, and I'm adding a chatter link to the tabs below the site header, which will direct you to either or both. Every so often, as the number of comments becomes unmanageable, I'll open a new … [Read more...]