College Was To Be My Dowry


My dad told me he was going to pay for my college education as a dowry for my future husband. He said it would be wrong to settle my future husband with debt wracked up for my education when I was going to be a stay at home mom and would never work outside of the home anyway. This is what came to mind when I read the recent viral post Six Reasons Not To Send Your Daughter To College.If I was only ever supposed to be a stay at home mom, you may be wondering, why did my parents bother to send … [Read more...]

I Once Courted Too (Some Thoughts on Jessa Duggar)


Reader Marguerite had this to say in a comment on a recent post about Jessa Duggar's courtship: Since I am not directly familiar with purity culture, I find this all very shocking. Jessa is an adult, and yet her father is dictating to her whom she can even associate with, reading all her texts, and in general completely controlling her life. I doubt she feels that she has any other options at this point, which makes her more or less a helpless pawn in her parents' hands. At twenty! I find this … [Read more...]

TTUAC: This Is What Got Lydia Schatz Killed

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To Train Up A Child, pp. 9---11In this section, Michael finally touches on the topic of "excessive discipline." EXCESSIVE DISCIPLINEDisciplinary actions can become excessive and oppressive when the tool of training is set aside and one depends on discipline alone to do the training. I have observed proud, stern fathers, ruling their house with a firm hand and making sure everyone knows it. The rod is swift to fall, and especially in the presence of company. The children tremble in his … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Don’t Let Your Woman Shop Alone!!

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally Posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 47---48We are still going through reasons why men need women. Today we're discovering that women need protection---not just protection, but the protection of men! I Need to Be Her ProtectorYou were created to protect your wife. Just as women are created to nurture, men are created to protect. There is a need met in a man when his woman looks to him for protection. And there is a need met in … [Read more...]

Homeschoolers Anonymous: A Series on Michael Pearl

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This past week Homeschoolers Anonymous has been running a series on Michael Pearl's child training methods. Over a dozen readers and bloggers submitted their own personal stories toward this series, and they range from analytic to heartbreaking. Many include graphic descriptions of child abuse, so please bear that in mind before clicking. I'll provide a brief excerpt for each post, just to give you a taste, and for readers who may not have time to click through. I've made sure these excerpts are … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Michael Talks to the Ladies


A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally Posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 44---46We're still on Chapter 4, where Michael tells men why they need women. So far, we've established that women need to be needed; it's the man's job to sanctify his wife; and it's the woman's job to be her husband's moral compass. More about that compass today. I Need Her Morality and ConscienceIt is well known that the women are the moral anchors of any society. When the ladies become … [Read more...]

Guest Post: Courting a Stranger


As you may know, the Duggars announced last week that their daughter Jessa is now courting. I've watched the conversation surrounding this announcement, and to be honest, my gut reaction has been to wish people would leave the poor girl alone. This is as close as Jessa is allowed to come to dating, and she almost certainly has all of the happy jitters that come with first love. I remember that time myself and have a lot of empathy for Jessa, and some of the more snarky responses I've seen have … [Read more...]