On Shoveling Snow and How Patriarchy Hurts Men Too

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Today I did something I've never done before. I shoveled snow. No, I didn't grow up in the south. I grew up with snow. I just never shoveled it. My brothers did. Yes, I've been grown and gone and married for years now, but my husband and I live in an apartment where the handy men shovel the walks. And so, somehow, I've made it to my mid-twenties without shoveling snow. It is often said that patriarchy hurts men too, but I don't think this is emphasized nearly enough. My brothers were expected … [Read more...]

A Reflection on Celebrating Christmas as an Atheist

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Do you know what I realized this year? The way I celebrate Christmas with my family today is really very little different from the way I celebrated Christmas in my family of origin growing up. Given that I grew up in a devout evangelical family but that my husband and I are not religious, this at first seems rather odd. In the end, though, I think it simply highlights just how secular Christmas is for most Americans, even those who are religious. Growing up, Christmas meant music and cookies … [Read more...]

To Those Who Make the Magic, Here’s To You!

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I remember Christmas when I was a kid. The music, the cookies, the decorations, the gifts. We didn't do Santa, but it was still a very magical time. I remember how much I looked forward to Christmas. It always seemed like it would never come! And now, I'm the adult. Now, it's my job to create that magic for my own children. You know what no one told me when I was a kid? First of all, no one told me how much was involved in creating that magic. And second, no one told me that making that magic … [Read more...]

Rebel with a Cause

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Blogger and scholar Adam Laats recently made an fascinating point on his blog, I Love You But You're Going To Hell. In her latest “Wrestling with Angels” column, the singer and author Carolyn Arends describes her recent heart-to-heart with her fourteen-year-old son, an ardent young-earth creationist. No way, her son told her, would he ever want to go to the wrong university, where he would have to “sit in some biology class in a secular school and be told I descended from apes.” Arends … [Read more...]

Literal Hell + Age of Accountability = What?!?

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[The text in the facebook status copied above reads: About 20 children are receiving the BEST CHRISTMAS PRESENT EVER....the presence of our God and our Lord Jesus Christ!] I remember when Andrea Yates drowned her five small children in a bathtub. I was a conservative evangelical at the time, and still in high school, and when I heard about the story I had a problem. I knew I found what Yates had done morally reprehensible, but, well, I couldn't find a way to criticize her reasoning for doing … [Read more...]

Evil and Demons and Sin, Oh My!

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By now you have surely heard of Liza Long's article, I Am Adam Lanza's Mother. In it Long talks about the difficulties of dealing with her mentally ill teenager, of searching for answers, and of the need for better systems of mental healthcare. I will admit to being a bit ambivalent about Long's article. Like her, I feel very strongly that we need find better ways of approaching and handling mental health issues in this country. However, Adam Lanza's mother is dead and unable to tell her … [Read more...]

The Problem with Confrontational Atheist Tactics

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If you hang out in the atheist blogosphere during the month of December, you'll probably hear a lot about challenges to nativity scenes on public property. Often these challenges involve atheists arguing that if nativity scenes are allowed on public property, they should be allowed to put up displays too - along with members of other religions too, of course. In some cases, atheists have won this challenge and been allowed to add their own displays next to nativity scenes on public property. … [Read more...]


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