In Which Sally Talks to Adults


We'd only been at the get-together five minutes when I realized that my daughter Sally was engaged in a romping game of tag with a twenty-something family friend of my in-laws. At Sally's instigation, the game soon turned to hide and seek, and Sally was giggling under a table while her new friend was walking around the table pretending to not be able to find her.This is not the first time this has happened. When Sean had some of his friends over for a cookout last summer, Sally was quickly … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: How to Fix Your Wife’s Unhappiness

unhappy wife

A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 94---95We are still talking about the wives of Steady Men. Today, we're discussing how discontent they tend to be, and the fixes men can take for this.The Making of a ShrewI feel sorry for Go-to [women Visionaries, basically] wives married to Steady Men. They are like kids visiting the zoo strapped into a stroller. Consider this: When a woman is married to a bossy, dominant Command Man, pe … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sexually Abused Children as Broken, Diseased

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Created To Be His Help Meet,  pp. 185---186This week we get to read the end of Debi's chapter on loving one's children. The HallThere is no permanent cure for genital herpes and many other forms of STDs. Yet one in five young teens in the USA has a sexually transmitted disease. Many statistics also tell us that one in four little girls will be sexually "messed with" by the time they are four years old. One in four little boys will be the victims of homosexual abuse. Our children are in … [Read more...]

When “Respect” Involves “Disgust”


Growing up in a conservative evangelical home, I believed that we were the ones who truly respected women. I believed that our young men---the young men in my homeschooling community---were being raised to treat the women around them, of whatever age, with respect. I was wrong, very, very wrong.A reader recently pointed me to an article on World Net Daily that presents a fictional scenario where an "normal" girl, Jane, is ordered by a judge to leave her public school and be educated in a … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Dealing With Drama Queens—And Every Woman Is One

tug of war

Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need a Help Meet, pp. 92---94Today we're talking more about those "female creatures". In an, I'm sure, flattering and equalizing light. Oh wait. Wrong book. Nope; it's more of the sexism we've come to know from Michael. Here goes! Drama, Drama, DramaAs a rule, women occasionally like to be stirred up. Visionaries and command men supply all the tension women can stand, but the Steady man provides only dull stability. … [Read more...]

Matthew Chapman, Child Marriage, and Homeschooling

Matthew Chapman

Yesterday I wrote about my concerns about child marriage in the Christian homeschooling world. In particular, I wrote about the Maranatha story, and included a mention of the marriage of Maranatha's daughter Lauren at age 16 to a man ten years her senior. I included a wedding picture from Lauren's wedding in the post, in order to make what I was talking about real. Blogger Lana of Wide Open Ground, who knew Lauren's family growing up, expressed concern at my use of that picture, saying that … [Read more...]

Testosterone: Biblical Patriarchy’s Kryptonite


Several weeks ago, I talked to my mom about Doug Phillips' affair and the closing of Vision Forum Ministries. My mom talked about how sad that was, and how bad she felt for Doug's wife and children, all of which I'd been expecting. But she didn't stop there, and I hadn't expected her to."Well," she concluded, shaking her head, "he's male."And she clearly felt that explained it. But I was not content to let that go. "Actually mom, most guys manage to not cheat on their wives," I told her. … [Read more...]