My Top Ten Posts of 2012

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I've put up literally hundreds of posts over the past year, so I thought I'd take a moment to look back at the ten posts that got the most traffic. Unfortunately, something got reset when I moved my blog to Patheos this past March, so this list is actually the top ten posts of the last ten months. I'll add a moment of commentary after each.1o. So you say you don’t hate gay people, Part IVThis post was the one where I introduced the sexual ethics graph I later highlighted in my post A Ta … [Read more...]

The Purity Culture’s Mangled Relationship Advice


Some time ago a reader of this site asked if I could address a concern in his life. He had been pursuing a young lady and beginning to think about marriage, but rather suddenly found that he was no longer attracted to her. She was a godly person and just the kind of woman he could see himself settling down with. But then he looked at her and saw that the physical attracted had just plain disappeared. What could he do? What had gone wrong? So begins a post by evangelical blogger Tim Challies. I … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Remember, It Could Be Worse!

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 45-47 I wanted to send my testimony because you have greatly encouraged me. I send it with my husband's approval. Debi finishes her section on thankfulness with another letter from a reader, this time a long one. Debi offers this letter without commentary, allowing it to stand for itself as an example of the sort of thankfulness she has been talking about. Remember from what we've seen in the past few posts that Debi has been telling women that rather than … [Read more...]

A Few Tips for Bloggers


I sometimes get emails from newer bloggers asking for tips for building a successful blog. I'm flattered that they consider me a successful blogger with wisdom to impart - I've only been blogging for eighteen months, after all! - but I'm glad to share a few things I've learned along the way.First, make sure your blog is easily readable. This may seem like a no brainer, but if your text is too small, or if the colors class, or if the site navigation is confusing, you're going to have a … [Read more...]

Where Are the Liberal Christian Voices?

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Dan Savage recently said the following in a video: Sometimes I forget to qualify “Christian” with “fundamentalist evangelical right-wing bats–t Christian.” And I’ll write something taking “Christians” to task for their abuse of queer people. And I’ll get emails and I’ll get calls from liberal Christians, whispering in my ear, “We’re not all like that. Psst, we’re not all like that.” I call them NALTs now, for Not All Like That Christians. NALT Christians.But the reason so many of us have the … [Read more...]

On Shoveling Snow and How Patriarchy Hurts Men Too

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Today I did something I've never done before. I shoveled snow. No, I didn't grow up in the south. I grew up with snow. I just never shoveled it. My brothers did. Yes, I've been grown and gone and married for years now, but my husband and I live in an apartment where the handy men shovel the walks. And so, somehow, I've made it to my mid-twenties without shoveling snow.It is often said that patriarchy hurts men too, but I don't think this is emphasized nearly enough. My brothers were expected … [Read more...]

A Reflection on Celebrating Christmas as an Atheist


Do you know what I realized this year? The way I celebrate Christmas with my family today is really very little different from the way I celebrated Christmas in my family of origin growing up. Given that I grew up in a devout evangelical family but that my husband and I are not religious, this at first seems rather odd. In the end, though, I think it simply highlights just how secular Christmas is for most Americans, even those who are religious.Growing up, Christmas meant music and cookies … [Read more...]