A Documentary Look at Courtship


There's a documentary being made about the courtship of a young woman named Kelly. Kelly's story is interesting for a number of reasons (for example, she was raised in a secular home, converted to Christianity, discovered and embraced the Christian Patriarchy movement, and then, in her thirties, found "spiritual parents" to walk her through the courtship process). Let me start by giving you the documentary's trailer:The documentary is still in production, and its website is actually a … [Read more...]

Evangelicals, Homosexuals, and Child Molesters

boy scouts

It's funny sometimes how much little things can remind you of just how far you've come. For example, I recently came upon this comment on an article decrying the possibility of having gay scout leaders in the Boy Scouts: Would Obama himself allow a lesbian unsupervised and unrestricted access to his daughters? Is there a double standard here? My immediate reaction was shock that someone would say something like this. My mind went immediately to my LGBTQ friends, including a man we've known … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part II: Developing Spiritual Intimacy

Couple on Beach

A guest post by MollyPart II of An Open Letter to Joshua HarrisA note for readers: Molly is a progressive Christian who is looking at Harris' book and teachings through that lens. Please bear this in mind as you read this installment and be respectful with your responses.  Dear Josh,The last time we parted ways I left you with a quote from Julia Feder, an author featured at Women In Theology: sexual intimacy is only one form of relational intimacy—emotional intimacy, int … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part I: Developing Relational Intimacies


A guest post by MollyPart I of An Open Letter to Joshua HarrisDear Josh (May I call you Josh? You may call me Molly.)I recently finished reading your book I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Romance and Relationship, and I want to share my reaction. I’m halfway through earning my Master of Divinity degree at a Presbyterian seminary on the East Coast, and my focus is looking at how enforcing “biblically-based” gender roles aids (or, in the case of most scenarios I’ve read, d … [Read more...]

The Real Victims of Sexual Assault in the Military … Men’s Careers?!?

woman in combat

So, this is kind of horrifying, but some individuals are actually arguing that women shouldn't be allowed to serve in more military positions because when they do the rate of sexual assaults will go up, and that will ruin men's careers. Yes, you heard that right. Men's careers.Here's what leading anti-feminist Phyllis Schlafly had to say: Military women are already complaining about increased sexual assaults, and of course those problems will skyrocket. Only men will be deemed at fault because … [Read more...]

Freedom of Speech =/= Speech Free from Consequences

free speech

Seriously, I'm really getting tired of people griping about how their FREEDOM OF SPEECH is being violated because people don't like what they're saying and say as much. Look, you are perfectly free to call a gay person a pervert. Really! But that does not mean I can't call you out for that, or that I have to be buddy buddy with you, or that I have to endorse your hate. Heck no. And you know what? You are perfectly free to call a woman you don't like a c***. Really! But if you do that, be ready … [Read more...]

When Evangelicalism Was Egalitarian


Some time back I remarked that there was a time when evangelicalism was egalitarian to the extent that it was counter-cultural and was perceived as a threat to the patriarchal order. Several readers expressed interested in learning more about this. So, let's do this, shall we?Growing up as an evangelical, I was taught by both my family and my church that patriarchal/complementarian gender roles had always been a staple of American evangelicalism. I learned that in the twentieth century mainl … [Read more...]