Growing Up Jeub

As I’ve noted, the Duggars follow and promote the parenting methods of religious leaders who teach that corporal punishment must be used to break children’s wills, that children should be required to smile and not allowed to show the slightest negativity, and that “rebellious” young adult children should be shunned and barred from contact with their siblings. Given that, it would be surprising to find all as rosy as the picture they prevent on television. A recent blog post by Cynthia Jeub sheds light on what it ban be like to grow up in an extra-large Christian homeschooling family propelled into the spotlight. Cynthia is one of sixteen children, and her family, too, was featured on TLC. Read more

Reza Aslan and Bill Maher on Islam

In light of recent conversations on atheism, Islam, and progressive religion in general, I thought I’d share a video I came upon today. In it, Reza Aslan, an Iranian-American writer and scholar of religions, responds to comedian Bill Maher’s recent claims about Islam. I really appreciated this video, as it expresses a lot of the concerns I’ve had regarding the way Americans view and portray Islam. I’ll give a short summary for those who don’t want to watch the video. Reza Aslan… Read more

CTBHHM: Playing Telephone with God

Frankly, this book sometimes reads like a diet book. Follow this advice and you’ll have a perfect husband and to-die-for marriage! Look, Jill did it! She followed this advice and all her problems were solved in thirty days! This can be you! Try it now with our money-back guarantee! Read more

Atheism and Me

An atheist friend of mine recently said that any time I blog about atheism, it is to badtalk it. I laughed and pointed out that I myself am an atheist, and he reminded me that being female does not guarantee one is not sexist. This is true. But in this case, I think what’s going on is a bit more complicated. Read more

Can Heitman Prevent His Daughter from Going to College?

Pastor Karl Heitman recently wrote a blog post titled “2 Reasons Why My Daughter Will Not Go to College.” I pledged to myself that I will not sacrifice my daughter on *the altar of men* by sending her out of my home, care, and protection at age 18 just so that she can get a degree and achieve some worldly status. I will count those years as a precious time for my wife and me to prepare her for the… Read more

But What If They Don’t Do What You Ask?

I wrote recently that I would prefer to teach empathy than obedience. As some readers pointed out, at issue here is also responsibility. If we focus on teaching children to obey their parents and other adults in their lives, we aren’t teaching them to make responsible decisions for themselves. One of the things I try to emphasize to my children when teaching empathy is that they live in an interconnected world and their actions affect those around them. This is part of teaching responsibility as well. Read more

More Thoughts on Teaching Consent to Young Children

We need to think about the messages we send children. When they are still toddlers we need to teach them about personal space—that they need to respect others’ personal space, and that they can expect to have their need for personal space respected and backed up—and as they get bigger we need to teach them about consent. Read more

On Transgender Men and “Living Life As a Woman”

Some readers clarify on the transgender experience. Read more

Introduce Yourself!

It’s been a while since we’ve done introductions, so it’s about time to do it again. When I first started blogging, I never imagined I would end up creating a community. I know that most of my readers probably don’t glance at the comments, and that’s fine, but those who do read and engage there have created something beyond the blog itself. Read more

What to Do If Someone Calls You Sexist: A Short Primer

It has come to my attention that some people seem to view being called sexist as worse than the damage done by being sexist. (It has also come to my attention that many people don’t know what sexism is.) This is all highly unfortunate, to say the least, but I think I can help. Without further ado, here is my short and dirty primer on what to do if someone calls you (or something you said or did) sexist. Read more

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