Men Aren’t Sex-Addled Beasts, They’re Just Individuals

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Men are no more rapists in their natural state than I am asexual in my natural state.~ Hannah As a young conservative evangelical, I was taught that I had to dress modestly to protect them from "stumbling" into sexual sin, and that it was natural for a guy to keep pushing for sexual favors, and it was my job to say no. I was taught that men were visual and easily aroused, and that men think about sex constantly. I was taught that men were to pursue and women were to be pursued, and that I … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Hugged Dating Hello, Part IV: Casting Out Fear at the Intersection of Emotional and Sexual Intimacy

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A guest post by MollyPart IV of An Open Letter to Joshua Harris “…I have no business asking for a girl’s heart and exclusive affections if I’m not ready to consider marriage. Until I can do that, I’d only be using that girl to meet my short-term needs, not seeking to bless her for the long term. Would I enjoy having a girlfriend right now? You bet! But I wouldn’t truly be loving her and putting her interests first” (19).“In most cases, especially when we’re younger, dating is short term … [Read more...]

What Is “Sexy”?

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Danielle of From Two to One has posed a question: What does sexy mean?  She and I both know the dictionary definition, of course, which is usually something like "sexually attractive or exciting" or "sexually suggestive or stimulating." But things are are often further contextualized than a simple dictionary definition allows.One thing Danielle said especially resonated: In my middle school and teen years, sexy increasingly meant something both powerful and unsafe. It was powerful in that … [Read more...]

Dispatches from the Front Lines of the Abortion Wars

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As I get out of my car, an elderly man in a yellow vest approaches."I'm here to volunteer," I tell him."Then you're my replacement," he says with a smile, and starts taking off the vest."How long have you been doing this?" I ask."Oh, about a decade," he replies."Why?" I press."Because it's the right thing to do," he says. He hands me the vest and I look at it, following the black lettering with my eyes."Planned Parenthood Escort"I put it on."This is my first time," I … [Read more...]

Raised Evangelical: April’s Story

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A post in the Raised Evangelical series.Section 1: Introduction Question 1: Please introduce yourself before we get started, providing a brief snapshot of your background an overview of your beliefs today.My name is April. I'm 30 years old, college-educated, married to a former Christian, and the mother of a beautiful 3-year-old boy. I grew up in the Bible Belt, living mostly in Florida and Tennessee. My father was a pastor in the Assemblies of God for much of my childhood, and I rem … [Read more...]

Homeschool Reflection: Not the Stereotype

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A guest post by LinaI once shocked my Rhetoric for Writers class, in junior year of college, when I let slip that I was a homeschooled pastor’s kid. A guy sitting near me paid me what I considered the highest compliment: “Wow, I never would’ve guessed. You’re so…normal.”In many ways, I was. I was part of a homeschooling family, but not the stereotype: I wore shorts, my brothers all went to public high school, and I could hold a conversation just fine, thank you. When I went to college, I … [Read more...]

Point, Counterpoint: Talking about Gender Differences

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Conservatives insist that there are huge differences between the genders while feminists insist that inasmuch as gender differences exist, they are social constructs. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, conservatives insist. Or are they?I recently stumbled upon an article by Suzanne Venker published on Fox News. The title? "To Be Happy, We Must Admit Men and Women Aren't Equal." Venker is on the "men are from Mars, women are from Venus" side. Let's look at her article and then turn … [Read more...]


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