Debi Pearl’s Logic in a 1963 Ladies Magazine Quiz

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I recently came upon one of those quizzes that sometime grace ladies' magazines, this one from 1963. I include it here because, to be honest, it made me think of Debi.Note first of all the entire premise of the quiz: Does your guy treat you wrong? Have you ever wondered if it's your fault? As regular readers will know, this exact line of reasoning is shot through Debi Pearl's Created To Be His Help Meet. Next note the scoring. This, for instance---"he'll never treat you wrong, because … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: An Army of Two


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 117-118Hold onto your hats, because this week is going to be an interesting one. In this section, Debi is heavy on the military metaphors, and it gets pretty intense. Your husband, dud that he may "appear" to be, is appointed by God to be your immediate Superior Officer in the chain of command. Your position under him is where God put you for your own spiritual, emotional, and physical safety. It is the only position where you will find real fulfillment as a … [Read more...]

Question: What Do Presents, Chocolate Bars, Roses, Chewing Gum, and Packing Tape Have in Common?


Answer: Nobody wants them when they're used.Presents, chocolate bars, roses, chewing gum, and packing tape have all been used by abstinence educators and various Christian leaders and teachers to illustrate to young people how having sex before marriage will ruin them and leave them disgusting and unwanted. Those who grew up in the purity culture probably knew the answer to the question asked in the title before even opening this post.I was reminded of this when reader Laura left this … [Read more...]

Homeschooling and Sibling Relationships


The homeschool literature that my parents read promised them that homeschooling would create perfect sibling relationships among us children, and make us all especially close and really good friends with each other---unlike those public school kids' distant relationships with their siblings, and rivalries rather than friendships, of course. I want to take a moment, then, to talk about sibling to sibling relationships in my family. This is kind of embarrassing, to be honest---I'm not going to c … [Read more...]

Forward Thinking: How Would You Design Our Social Safety Net?

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I’ts that time of the month again! Head on over to Camels with Hammers to see Dan’s roundup of the posts written in response to his prompt on the ethics of cruelty two weeks ago, and with that said, it’s time to turn to our next Forward Thinking prompt.This month I want to do something a little bit different. For this prompt, I want you to imagine that politics is no obstacle, and then explain how you would build our nation's social safety net if you could start from scratch. (To give you som … [Read more...]

Stop Saying Homeschoolers Are Brilliant!


Growing up, I read HSLDA's Home School Court Report and various other homeschool newsletters. I attended homechool conferences and listened to my parents praise the virtues of homeschooling to people they met. I came away believing that homeschooling in and of itself causes kids to excel academically---and that studies had proven this. I heard over and over again that homechoolers scored in the 80th percentile, and listened raptly to stories of homeschoolers getting into Harvard or starting … [Read more...]

That Time I Put Myself in a Timeout

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Sometime last year, shortly after Bobby was born, Sally had the worst temper tantrum she has ever had. Sean was working late and I had the kids. Bobby was fussy and I was trying to cook supper and I don't even remember what set Sally off. But she wasn't the only one who got mad---I got mad too. Really angry, and not just at her. My evening was not going as planned. Sally was lying on the ground, screaming and kicking things. So I chose a course of action and took it. I turned off the stove, … [Read more...]