CTNAHM: A Letter From the Wife of a Visionary

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 78—80Last post was chock-full of ways and reasons for a man to mold his wife into what he wants. I was expecting more of the same today, but was (cautiously) pleasantly surprised.  Today, we get to talk about the Visionaries that aren't successful. Depressed VisionariesVisionaries are much more likely to have mood swings and even depression than are the other two types of men, for they have hi … [Read more...]

Love Misapplied

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I grew up hearing about Chris Jeub. He was a big name in NCFCA homeschool debate circles, and while I never met him I did use the evidence briefs he put out. The Jeubs had 16 kids and were deep into the patriarchal and controlling ideas at the heart of the most conservative strains of the Christian homeschooling movement. In fact, they kicked their daughter Alicia out of the family and shunned her completely when she became "rebellious." However, Chris says that he and his family have since left … [Read more...]

Interfaith Marriage and Interfaith Parenting: A Reader Asks


A reader recently emailed me with some questions and I thought you all might be able to help him out. First I'll quote from his emails (he has given me permission to do so) and then I'll give some guidance for your responses. I married my Baptist wife while I was still searching within Christianity. I was enjoying going to a Presbyterian church in Tulsa because the sermons the pastor preached were often from a viewpoint that I hadn't heard in the version of Christianity I experienced growing … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: The Bitter, Critical Woman


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 178---180This section is weird for me. Why? Because, well, I found myself agreeing with it, for the most part. And not just that, but I found it speaking to my own personal life and experiences. This week we are looking at a letter, and the one sentence of commentary Debi attaches to it. This is still in the chapter on women loving their children, which make it odd, because at first glance (and second glance, and third glance) it has very little to do with, … [Read more...]

Oh Yeah, That’s Totally Repentance


As I noted before, Doug Phillips very clearly only stated in his letter of repentance that he was resigning from Vision Forum Ministries, the nonprofit branch of the enterprise, and did not state that he was resigning from Vision Forum Inc., the commercial branch of the enterprise. As regular readers will know, Doug Phillips, a prominent leader in the Christian homeschooling movement who preached a return to biblical patriarchy and had gained a large following, is in the midst of a bit of a … [Read more...]

Doug Phillips’ Get Out of Jail Free Card

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There is little that bothers me more than the excuse-making that comes out in full force every time a Christian leader is found engaging in some form of moral wrongdoing. You see, so long as that Christian leader says "I'm sorry" properly, they're apparently immune from any form of criticism, whether now or in the future. In the wake of Doug Phillips' resignation, I have seen literally dozens of comments across the blogosphere in which individuals have praised Phillips and denounced bloggers who … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: How to Mold Your Wife to Bless Your Need

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 75—77We are still talking about Mr. Visionary. Today, though, we get to talk about Mrs. Visionary.  No, not a woman visionary, but the wife of Mr. Visionary.  These sections are all about getting the most help meet out of one's wife. I know you're as excited as I am. The Visionary's Help MeetA radical visionary can be saved from dead ends and useless eruptions by his wise help meet's simple wo … [Read more...]