I struggled with fear of demons my entire childhood. I would lay awake in bed with my eyes clenched shut, afraid that if I opened them I would see a demon at the foot of my bed—demons, after all, could make themselves visible to the human eye if they so chose. I was afraid I would invite a demon to attack me by thinking the wrong thoughts, and fearfully tried to keep my mind away from anything that might seem like an invitation. Read more

It’s time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here also. Every so often, as the number of comments on a given Lesbian Duplex post becomes unmanageable, I put up a fresh post. I’ve added a “chatter” tab under my blog banner that will direct readers to… Read more

I suspect we often turn to expletives, personal attacks, and strawmen as a sort of shorthand when finding more accurate language seems like too much effort. I would argue that that taking the time to compose that more accurate language is both useful and effective. We can do better than the cesspools at the corners of the internet. Let’s hold ourselves to a higher standard. Read more

The mommy myth is harmful a number of levels. It devalues the important (nay, critical) role of other adults in children’s lives, treats the love of a mother as more important than the love of a father, and makes it harder for us, as a society, to recognize or deal with abusive and neglectful mothers. We need to stop placing mothers on a pedestal. Mothers don’t need deification, they need community support and accountability. Read more

Farris has established Gwen as open to God and open to church and Christianity, even if it is not currently a part of her life. I’m left to wonder about Gwen’s college years (if she’s a nurse, she must have gone to college). If Gwen’s conversion moment didn’t “take” and her life was full of daily concerns, did she party like Donna? Somehow, I doubt it. It seems as though Farris wants Gwen to be both a good, godly woman and fallen away from the church of her youth. Read more

I didn’t leave one tribe, with its demonization of other groups and tribes, ample use of the No True Scotsman fallacy, and insistence on valuing in-group loyalty above all else, to join another tribe doing the exact same thing. Read more

This is not about picking on fundamentalism for the sake of picking on fundamentalism. Organizations like GRACE are important because they show that conservative Protestants can find ways to reconcile their understanding of the Bible with support for victims. They just need to actually do so. And unfortunately, BJU appears to be choosing a different path. Read more

You may have heard that the only countries in the entire world who have not ratified the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) are the U.S., Somalia, and South Sudan. While this was once true, Somalia ratified the treaty in January of this year, and South Sudan’s government has begun the ratification process. In other words, out of all of the countries in the world, the U.S. stands alone in refusing to ratify the CRC. Read more

I suspect that Anna feels judged by the people who who balk when they find out that she wants more children than average. “Children are so expensive!” they tell her. I wish that, instead of responding with “children aren’t expensive but greed is,” she would respond by saying “yes, but for me they’re more than worth it.” Children are expensive, and wanting your children to have opportunities is not greed. Read more

I recently came upon an article titled Motherhood: The Strongest Bond. For whatever reason, the article title was later changed to The Most Powerful Thing You Can Say to Another Mom. The basic idea is that we who are mothers are united in a powerful way by our love for our children and our willingness to sacrifice for them, and that that gives us a common sense of understanding for each other. Here’s an excerpt from the article: . . . And… Read more

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