TTUAC: Children Want To Be Beaten

To Train Up A Child, chapter 5, part 3So, a number of you have noted that Michael is emphasizing that "the rod" is necessary because God said so, period, and has not been arguing that it is necessarily because it is actually good for the child. I've held back from answering this charge because I knew Michael would answer it soon enough. This week we begin to see Michael explain why the rod is absolutely inescapably a positive good for the child---and in fact, that children actually want to … [Read more...]

Must We Do This Again? Duck Dynasty Edition

By now you have likely heard that Phil Robertson, star of the Duck Dynasty reality TV show, has been suspended by A&E for making homophobic and racist comments in an interview with GQ. Samantha covers all of this in her blog post, "I used to be a homophobic racist too." And if you're like me and you are facebook friends with conservative evangelical or fundamentalist friends or relatives, you  have probably noticed the quick proliferation of defenses of Robertson's comments. But rather than … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: You’re Valuable, but Nobody Cares or Notices

A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 99---101I've made mention of this earlier, but this section is more pronounced. It seems that Michael has very little respect for a Mr. Steady. Possibly because he views himself as Command/Visionary? I'm not sure, but the more I read in this chapter, the stronger that feeling gets. Let me know if you agree/disagree. Your Role as a Steady/Priestly ManIn the church, Steady/Priestly men are very … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Debi Speaks on Ruth’s Sex Life (and a Stove)

Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 192---194In this section we get a letter from a woman named Ruth, and Debi's response to it. Remember that we are in the section on being "discreet," so presumably this relates (somehow). Dear Mrs. Pearl,I know that joy comes from complete submission to God and to your husband. Does that mean I should not be frustrated and just plain tired? I have a question. Should one be quiet when you know your husband is making a poor decision? Doesn't being a helper … [Read more...]

I Am Not a Child

Over Thanksgiving we got together with some relatives on Sean's side of the family. One of his cousins, whom I will call Hillary, is about ten years older than Sean and I, and watching her interact with her mother (Sean's aunt) was fascinating. Her mother, you see, can be a bit overbearing. Hillary, don't you think this, and Hillary, don't you think that, and so on. But that didn't phase Hillary. Hillary obviously loves her mom and vice versa and they appear to have a strong and healthy … [Read more...]

Charting Your (Wife’s) Monthly Cycle

If you're reading the reviews of Michael Pearl's Created To Need A Help Meet, you will know that he recently advised young husbands to track their wives' cycles so they would know in advance when their wives were going to go all hormonal and ballistic on them---when it was their time of the month. Most of those who commented responded in horror to Michael's suggestion, and I was horrified too---but in my case I was also struck by the familiarity.My father tracks my mother's cycle on his own … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Give Your Ornamental Wife a Purpose

A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 98---99This section is interesting to me. In fact, I think it is one of the more intriguing sections I've read. Mostly because Michael comes dangerously close to saying women have needs and desires of their own. Yeah, I was shocked, too. Read on! Your Wife's Greatest NeedIn good economic times the vast majority of letters our office receives are from women criticizing their laid-back, quiet, … [Read more...]