Charting Your (Wife’s) Monthly Cycle

If you're reading the reviews of Michael Pearl's Created To Need A Help Meet, you will know that he recently advised young husbands to track their wives' cycles so they would know in advance when their wives were going to go all hormonal and ballistic on them---when it was their time of the month. Most of those who commented responded in horror to Michael's suggestion, and I was horrified too---but in my case I was also struck by the familiarity.My father tracks my mother's cycle on his own … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Give Your Ornamental Wife a Purpose

A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 98---99This section is interesting to me. In fact, I think it is one of the more intriguing sections I've read. Mostly because Michael comes dangerously close to saying women have needs and desires of their own. Yeah, I was shocked, too. Read on! Your Wife's Greatest NeedIn good economic times the vast majority of letters our office receives are from women criticizing their laid-back, quiet, … [Read more...]

Sally, Sean’s Wallet, and Moral Ethics

When we go grocery shopping, I generally let Sally choose something small for herself. On a recent trip, Sally made a choice that was more expensive than the price range I generally ask her to stick to. I could have had her put it back, but I could see she was entranced, so instead I put back the little marshmallows for hot chocolate and a few other things."Sally, since you wanted that little doll, I had to put some things back," I told her in the car. "So we didn't get the little … [Read more...]

Let It Go

This song from Disney's Frozen just reduced me to tears.I may gripe about the pinkification of the Disney princesses, but I've got to hand it to them here. Tangled was much the same, but this? Wow. This is amazing. I haven't even seen the movie, I've only seen this one song, and already the tears are flowing. Such catharsis.Here are the lyrics: The snow glows white on the mountain tonight Not a footprint to be seen A kingdom of isolation And it looks like I'm the queenThe … [Read more...]

TTUAC: God Spanks His Children

To Train Up a Child, Chapter 5, Part 2Here we learn more about Michael's conception of God. 4. UNDERSTANDING THE CHARACTER OF GODThe parent who excuses himself from using the rod based on an excuse of loving the child too much does not well understand the character and methods of God toward His own people.There is a current thought pattern that has edged into the Christian's thinking. It goes something like this: "Since God is love, He is not discriminating, demanding, vindictive, … [Read more...]

Modern Girlhood and Candy Land’s Sweet Poison

Raising a daughter in today's world is hard. We like to think of ourselves as light years ahead of the 1950s in terms of gender equality, but sometimes I don't see it. And, lately, Candy Land has been one of those places. I am so incredibly thankful that my husband's grandparents gifted us their old Candy Land board, because otherwise I would be scouring ebay for one. When I played Candy Land growing up, we had the 1984 version.Then, in 2004, the game was updated.With this … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Encourage Your Wife—By Telling Her Her Role!

A guest post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated to Need a Help Meet, pp. 97---98 Understanding Your RolesIf Mr. Steady Turtle were to come out of his shell, what could he do immediately that would encourage his wife? First, you need to address her concerns that you are not spiritually minded and are not open to her. I have read her concern in thousands of letters."He is not a spiritual leader. I just pray and pray that he will step up and do what God has designed h … [Read more...]