CTNAHM: Women Are Cursed—Twice!

To recap the last few sections, Michael is talking about women obeying men. He shies away from the word “obey”, and instead uses subjugation, servitude, and under authority. But he means the same thing. Today’s section is all about the two-fold curse on women, thanks to Eve. Yes, ladies, you read that right. You’ve been cursed twice. Technically, I guess three times, since Michael is quick to point out how un-rational and over-emotional women are. Surely that’s a curse, right? Read more

That’s Not Good Enough, Christianity Today—Updated!

In the face of increasingly vocal calls to pull the rapist’s article (you can read my prior coverage here), the editors of Christianity Today’s Leadership Journal have stood firm and refused to take the post down. Instead, they have added an editorial note to the beginning of the article. It’s not enough—not nearly enough—and that the editors think it is shows just how deep the problem is. Read more

Evangelical Narratives, Sexual Predators, and Safe Places

I have written time and again about the evangelical narratives used to excuse rape and child molestations, especially when committed by pastors. I came upon quite a few of these when reading through the comments on the recent article by a convicted rapist and child molester that was published by Christianity Today’s Leadership Journal. (If you haven’t read about the article yet, please do.) I want to take a moment to look at a few of the excuses I am seeing made, and to reflect on what these excuses mean. Read more

Oh Mr. Gothard!

As you probably noticed, my computer glitched and posted this week’s Created To Be His Help Meet post on Wednesday. Oops! If you haven’t read that post, CTBHHM: The Question of Birth Control, feel free to do so now. But for today, I’m going to turn to some of Bill Gothard’s thoughts on procreation, drawing from his Advanced Seminar Textbook. Read more

Christianity Today Publishes a Rapists’ Story

Remember when the Good Man Project posted an article by an unrepentant rapist, supposedly as an example of things to avoid? Well, Christianity Today recently posted an article by a youth pastor who had sex with one of his students and is supposedly repentant—but doesn’t really sound that way. In this article, the unnamed jailed former youth pastor, whom we will call Tim for the sake of ease, describes his offense as an “extramarital affair” and assigns as much guilt to his victim as he accepts himself. She sinned, you see. Read more

Talking to Kids about Social Services, part II

I wrote yesterday about the fear of social services I received from my parents and from the wider homeschooling community. Once I grew up I realized that this fear was both irrational and counterproductive. Social services was not the enemy, and social workers do important work protecting children from abuse and neglect. Sure, social services isn’t perfect, and they sometimes make mistakes. But what good does teaching children to be afraid of social services do? Absolutely none at all. When I had children of my own, then, I determined to do things differently. I wanted Sally and Bobby to see social services not as an enemy but as a friend. Read more

Kevin Swanson Outdoes Himself Advertising for His Book

In a trailer for his book, Apostate, evangelical pastor and Christian homeschool leader Kevin Swanson playacts a dystopian future in which he is in jail for being anti-gay. Seriously. Watch it. It’s amazing. Yes, evangelicals like Swanson really do think they’re going to wind up in jail for being anti-gay. Because we put people in jail for being racist, right? Oh wait. We don’t. Read more

Talking to Kids about Social Services, part I

I grew up afraid of social services. Social workers were something of a bogeyman in the homeschooling community, and my parents bought into it completely. In fact, in a recent conversation on the topic with my mother, she insisted that social workers today do in fact take children away from their parents for nothing more than homeschooling. That she still says this today says a lot about just how high fear of social workers was in our home when I was a child. Read more

CTBHHM: The Question of Birth Control

I know we haven’t gotten there yet, but Debi is going to tell Diana that she should have obeyed her husband. Obeying her husband would have meant having only two children. Why, then, include this part praising the benefit of having five, eight, or more children? Debi’s basically telling Diana that having a large family is wonderful, but that too bad she shouldn’t have because her husband said not to. That does not seem very compassionate to me. Read more

Life. It’s Weird Like That.

My husband Sean was raised in a religious home, so I think sometimes I can forget how different our upbringings really were. This evening I was talking to Sean about the movie Frozen, which come to find out is the top grossing animated film of all time. I reminded Sean of his skepticism on seeing a commercial last fall promoting Frozen as this generation’s Lion King. Sean laughed and admitted that his skepticism had been misplaced—but then he went on. Read more