The Results of Homeschool Mis-Socialization


As I was thinking about homeschooling and socialization recently, I realized something in my experiences that at first seemed contradictory. You see, when I first started college I found frightening something as simple as walking through crowded hallways or sidewalks between class. However, I had never found walking through the crowded foyer in my parents' megachurch frightening in the least, even though most of those individuals were also strangers (that's generally how it is in a megachurch - … [Read more...]

How To Do Rape Awareness Right


**Trigger warning for survivors of rape and sexual abuse.**Reader Petticoat Philosopher just sent me a rape awareness ad aimed at teenagers. It's an excellent example of what rape awareness campaigns should focus on, rather than on things like how women dress.Petticoat Philosopher shared her thoughts as follows: There isn't anything about this that isn't perfect. Why can't we have campaigns like this!? I love it because, for one thing, it's targeted about people who might rape not … [Read more...]

Christian Patriarchy and Gender: Contentment v. Ambition


For as long as I can remember, I heard the values of contentment extolled. Contentment, contentment, contentment, contentment, contentment. Growing up in a family influenced by the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements, contentment was something preached on a daily basis. I learned very early that I must be content.But you know what? This isn't what the guys around me were being told. While I was being taught to be content, they were being taught to be ambitious. They had to find jobs … [Read more...]

Unitarian Universalist Music


Several readers have asked about what kind of music Unitarian Universalist services use. Of course, the quality of the music varies from one UU congregation to another. I'm lucky -- my local congregation has pretty good music.UUs have their own hymnal, with a mix of songs in it. Most are hymns I've never heard before; some mention God in one form or another, but most don't. Instead, most focus more on universal themes like nature, personal growth, love, and peace.Here are some … [Read more...]

How I Lost My Fear of Reading My Daughter Bible Stories

Bible story book

Almost a year ago, I wrote a post about my concerns about reading Bible story books to my daughter Sally. Any atheist parent with religious relatives will have to figure out how to deal with the Bible story books their children will inevitably be given for birthdays and Christmas. This is something that’s been on my mind lately because a Noah’s Ark board book has suddenly become my young daughter’s favorite book.Some atheist parents may just return Bible themed story books when their child … [Read more...]

How the Modesty Doctrine Fuels Rape Culture


I feel a little sick right now, and a little foolish. You know how it is when you see something you didn't see before, and suddenly it's so obvious you can't believe you didn't see it? I've danced around a lot of this, but I've never felt its force so bluntly and so directly. Namely, the emphasis on modesty that I received growing up is the food and fuel of the rape culture. Sarah Over the Moon wrote not long ago about how complementarians benefit from and use the existence of rape, but this is … [Read more...]

Please toot your own horn!


I've noticed that some of my readers have been using my comments sections, where relevant, to point to their own blog or to a post they once wrote. This is completely fine by me, but since some of you have expressed reticence about "tooting your own horn," I thought I'd create a post specifically for tooting your own horn.Do you have a blog? What topics do you blog about? Are there a couple of pieces you are especially proud of? Please share! … [Read more...]