Worthwhile Reads: Rape Roundup

In the midst of the whole Todd Akin induced furor over rape, several posts came to my attention that I wanted to highlight. The first reveals from personal experience that Akin’s ideas about rape are not as uncommon as some would have us think. The second uses this as an opportunity to talk about how fundamentalists generally deal with rape. And the third discusses the conflation of rape and, well, sex, much like I did in my post on rape and premarital sex. Read more

Give a big welcome to Dan Fincke, JT, and Chris!

Guess what? I have a new neighbor here in the Patheos atheist channel! Actually I have several new neighbors! Yay! Dan Fincke of Camels with Hammers has just today moved to Patheos from my former home, FreeThought Blogs. Dan was raised evangelical, went to a Christian college to study philosophy, and graduated four years later an atheist. He has his Ph.D. in philosophy and writes some fascinating things on ethics, atheism, and religion. Read more

Navigating the Cultural Transition

If you grow up in one culture and move into another – say, moving from the United States to France, or from India to the U.S. – it will take you a while to adjust. There will be changes in language, clothing, customs, holidays, even figures of speech. The same is true for those like me who grew up evangelical or fundamentalist and are now a part of what you might call mainstream American culture. Read more

The Purity Culture and Sex as a “Duty”

The teachings of the purity culture led me to believe that I owed my husband sex, that it was his due, and that if I didn’t give him sex, well, he would look elsewhere and I would be at least partially to blame. I was taught that men (unlike women) needed sex about three times a week in order to be fulfilled, and that it was my job – my duty – as his wife to do this for my husband. Or else he might, you know, cheat. Read more

Whose Politics Is It Anyway?

Yesterday I was watching Rachel Maddow with Sally. Rachel had Elizabeth Warren on, and I turned to Sally and said “That’s Elizabeth Warren. We like her.” And then I froze. I know that I like Elizabeth Warren, but that doesn’t mean that Sally does or has to. What was I saying? When I was a kid, my parents always said it like that. It was never about “this is the candidate mommy and daddy support”; instead it was always “this is the candidate we support.” As in, the whole family. Read more

A Questions of Comments and Policies

In recent weeks, more and more of you readers have been leaving comments. I like that. I have always enjoyed reading the discussion on my posts, and I’ve learned a lot in the process. It does make things complicated sometimes, though. When beliefs and political opinions clash, well, people can get upset and up and arms pretty quickly, and it’s no wonder. So I’ve been thinking lately about my comment policy. In some sense, blogs are extensions of their owners…. Read more

Raised Evangelical: Angie’s Story

“I am Angie, a 24-year-old recent college graduate who is married. When I was around 5 years old my mom and dad became involved in the Church of God denomination; they became more and more involved as I grew up and my father served as youth pastor to our church during my teen years. My parents were “Pentecostal holiness,” which is part of the fundamentalist movement with a focus on “old-fashioned values” and gender standards from an older time. I grew away from my parents’ beliefs in college and am now an atheist. Read more

Crowd Sourcing: Arguments Against Abortion?

While reading the comments on a couple of my recent posts about abortion, I realized something. I have pro-choice readers who very informed on the topic and know the arguments backward and forward, pro-choice readers who are less sure on some of the arguments, and readers who are against abortion for a variety of reasons. And then I had an idea. I think it should be possible to bring the excellent arguments and information I’ve seen from some of you… Read more

What does it mean to be “anti-woman”?

In the comments on yesterday’s post, several people insisted that requiring women to always risk motherhood when having sex wasn’t “anti-woman.” And then I realized something. We’re defining anti-woman differently. We – progressives and conservatives – mean different things when we say or hear the term “anti-woman.” Social conservatives generally do not believe in gender equality, and by that I mean that they believe that men and women have different “roles” to play in life. Men are supposed to be… Read more

When It Really Is about Controlling Women

A reader offered the following in a comment on a recent post on abortion: “What I had really wanted to say is that, except in the case of a rape, the pregnancy had to have resulted from a voluntary decision on the part of the woman, and therefore she should take responsibility for it, and carry the baby to term.” I’ve been encountering this argument with growing frequency, and it really bothers me. Just last week my awesome husband helped… Read more

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