The Stay At Home Daughters: A Dream Greater Than Stardom?

Do you remember my post on diminished dreams? I recently came upon a book called Joyfully at Home on the Vision Forum website, and I think the promo has to be the saddest thing I've read in a long time: By age fourteen, Jasmine Baucham’s little-girl dreams of becoming a mommy were supplanted by bigger visions of winning the Pulitzer Prize or an Oscar and appearing on Oprah. She began viewing the calling of home and marriage as second-rate. Then her world was radically challenged by the S … [Read more...]

Education and Indoctrination

Today I ran across a post called "Welcoming Doubt to Christian Education" on the Christianity Today blog. The author discusses the pitfalls and failures of Christian education, and then differentiates between education and indoctrination as follows: Human history is a series of pendulum swings from one extreme to another. This can be as true of individual growth as it is of culture, and some swings should not be prevented. But in the faith journey, perhaps such severe swings point to a … [Read more...]

A Clarification Part 1: Things I Don’t Have A Problem With

This morning I heard from several readers who echoed a similar refrain. They told me that their wives are homemakers because they want to be homemakers and find it fulfilling, that they homeschool (or will homeschool) because they enjoy it and find it a good fit for their family, and that I should remember that even as I have chosen to leave Christianity, others have found it fulfilling and meaningful. So I thought it I should take a moment to make a clarification. I don't have a problem with … [Read more...]

Just what is indoctrination anyway?

I have been hesitant to use words like "brainwash" or "indoctrinate" here because of their negative connotations. However, a recent commenter made stop and think about these terms. I don't think you can educate a child, live with a child, raise a child - without indoctrinating them to your world-views. This commenter essentially argues that however you educate your child, you are indoctrinating her into your world view. You can't help it. The argument then essentially goes "sure your parents … [Read more...]

Why We Keep Silent

Over the past couple of weeks I’ve received a good number of emails from people who grew up with similar beliefs. They write to thank me for for my blog. “More of us need to speak up,” they tell me. That made me wonder? Why don’t we? What keeps us silent?First I think is the desire not to upset our parents. After all, parents who come to the beliefs of Christian Patriarchy do so because they love their children and want what’s best for them. When we speak out we need to work to distinguish b … [Read more...]

“Your parents were not incorrect”

I received an anonymous comment today on the last segment of my story from an evangelical desirous of explaining to me that my parents acted rationally and not wrongly when I began to question their beliefs, and that I need to realize that they are acting out of love in what they do. I appreciate the comment, but there was an inference was that I shouldn't be upset because of what happened or speak out against these beliefs because it's just another "world view" and I need to respect that. … [Read more...]

A Complementarian Responds

A few days ago I received the following comment in response to my Men and Women in Christian Patriarchy post, and I thought it illustrated an excellent point. Growing up, I was taught that men and women are equal but have different roles. My point in my Men and Women post was that "different but equal" is a lie. I used an article by Debi Pearl to illustrate this point. The following commenter took issue with what Debi said, but tried to back up the "different but equal" party … [Read more...]