A Tale of Two Boxes: Contrasting Sexual Ethics

Let's imagine everyone has two boxes, one in which they place all the sexual acts they believe are wrong, and the other in which they place all the sexual acts they believe are okay. Not only do conservatives and progressives divide acts differently between the two boxes, they also label the two boxes differently. (I've already discussed this illustration in posts on political rhetoric regarding gay marriage and evangelical views of rape, but I wanted to set it on its own for those who may want t … [Read more...]

Rape. That’s a kind of premarital sex, right?

*Trigger warning for survivors of rape or sexual abuse.*In case you haven't noticed, rape has been in the news lately - or, more specifically, Rep. Todd Akin's comments about how women's bodies can shut down their reproductive functions in the case of "legitimate rape." This brings to mind something I've been meaning to write about rape, actually, ever since I wrote that post about "the tale of two boxes." In that post I said that "conservatives divide sexual acts into “wrong” or “okay” based … [Read more...]

“Humanism” and “Atheism+”: What’s the Difference?

Over the past year, it has become increasingly clear that there are portions of the atheist community that are sexist, misogynist  homophobic, and transphobic. Those atheists who care about feminism and LGBTQ rights have become increasingly upset as this has played out. Many have been wondering where we go from here. Blogger Natalie Reed and I both wrote posts on this issue last week: here and here. Now blogger Jen of Blag Hag has weighed in calling for a third wave of atheism. "It’s time for a … [Read more...]

If he’s Jesus and I’m the church, that’s not equal

"Husbands and wives are equal, they just have different roles." Do you have any idea how many times I've heard that? At one point I believed it, but somewhere along the line I realized it couldn't be true. Why? Because the husband's role always ends up being "being in charge" while the wife's role is "doing as told." I'm sorry, but that's not equal. That can't be equal.But I also remember hearing another constant meme - that marriage is a reflection of the relationship between Jesus and the … [Read more...]

Why I’m Glad I’m Not a Christian Feminist

As I follow the blogs of women like Rachel Held Evans, Sarah Moon,  Dianna Anderson, and Danielle Vermeer, I can't help but admire their desire to fight for gender equality within the church. I didn't stay to fight that fight. I left. But because I see religion as something that will always be with us, or at least for the foreseeable future, I applaud efforts to make religion less patriarchal and more egalitarian.And really, what I find especially impressive is their ability to take a deep br … [Read more...]

A Taxonomy of Creationists

There was a post on the Friendly Atheist a while back which got me thinking about the reasons people embrace creationism. I had thought that there were two types, in a sense - those who were misled, and those who were intentionally doing the misleading.See, being raised a young earth creationist I grew up trusting what my parents, my church, and organizations like Answers in Genesis told me. It wasn't until, as an adult, I examined the issue for myself and found that not only was young earth … [Read more...]

Worthwhile Reads: On Expectations

When I post a collection of blog posts and articles that I consider "worthwhile reads" I generally try to come up with a theme that unites them. These three posts all have this in common: They all deal with expectations. Danielle dissects an e-card on fathers and daughters, Haley explains that parenting is about being willing to let your children write their own lives, and Vjorak asks just what evangelicals and fundamentalists mean when they argue that Christianity has been "banned from the … [Read more...]