Raised Quiverfull: The Bible


How often did you, your siblings, and your parents read the Bible? Were you guided by your parents or pastors in how to interpret the Bible, especially certain passages, or were you generally free to form your own ideas about what the Bible said? Joe: Suffice it to say that I have read through the whole Bible about forty times.  We were required to read it daily after school. During the summer months, while on summer vacation, we had to read it every morning before breakfast.  Our i … [Read more...]

I had a piece posted on Offbeat Mama today

It's called What Your Language: How We Emphasize Family Diversity When Talking To Our Kids. I wrote a similar post here a month ago, called On Raising Progressive Children. If you haven't already, feel free to read either or both! … [Read more...]

Sex Ed for the Preschooler

My daughter Sally is only in preschool, but I don't want her to grow up to be as ignorant about her body or issues of sexuality as I was, and I want to lay a good foundation for information and understanding now. In other words, this is something I have already done a good bit of thinking about. So far, here is what I have come up with:1. Answer questions honestly and openlySally took me aback the other day by finding my vibrator. I had thought it was thoroughly put away, but apparently … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Marriage

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In many ways, every Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull couple has a different dynamic. What sort of a dynamic did your parents have? Was one more sold on the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology than the other? Or, if you grew up in a broken family, how did this affect your experience? Joe: When Mama discovered patriarchy, my parents were already divorced.  My dad had attended an IBLP Basic seminar as a young college student.  He brought the materials home to his dad who promptly threw it a … [Read more...]

Rebutting Ken Ham’s Response

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So you remember my Why I Am An Atheist post from last week? Apparently it came to the attention of Answers in Genesis researcher Dr. Georgia Purdom. She wrote a blog post bearing the title Answers in Genesis and Libby's Journey to Atheism in response, and then Ken Ham himself picked up my story and wrote his own response. I will respond to each, starting with Dr. Purdom's post since it came first.1. Creationism is only based on the Bible, physical evidence is irrelevant Libby seems to have … [Read more...]

Raised Quiverfull: Church


What sort of a church did your family go to while you were growing up? Were the other families who attended the church also involved in the Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull movement? Joe: Before my parents divorced in 1987, we attended an American Lutheran Church in Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA.  It was quite a liberal church.  They had a female pastor and preached about cultural issues with little Scripture, along with the typical Lutheran liturgical traditions. A highlight of my life there was … [Read more...]

The Purity Culture and Sexual Incompatibility

I was raised in what I call "the purity culture." I knew that some people argued that premarital sex was important in order to see if two people were sexually compatible. I'd heard the idea that you should "try a shoe on before you buy it." However, I was taught that those ideas were dead wrong.I don't remember the specific reason I was told that those arguments were wrong. There was the "why would you marry someone based on how the sex is" line and the "but you'd never know the difference … [Read more...]