I would like to take a moment to solicit questions from my readers. Do you have any questions about how I grew up? Or maybe questions about atheism? Or is there perhaps something I've written about that hasn't quite made sense to you, that you'd like me to explain further? Here's your chance to ask away! … [Read more...]

My Life, as told by Disney

My all time favorite Disney movie is Tangled. When I first watched it, I cried and cried. I couldn't understand how anyone could produce a movie like this without knowing about the stay at home daughter movement, because in my eyes, that's what this movie was about. Rapunzel has grown up in a tower, secluded from the world. She has now about to turn 18. The movie begins with Rapunzel's routine housework, which sounds exactly like the life of a stay at home daughter, minus the caring for … [Read more...]

God Says Yes, No, or Maybe Later?

Today, Young Mom wrote about how much more capable of caring for her children's sleeping trouble since she has stopped expecting God to step in and put them back to sleep. This made me think about my upbringing, and about my parents' approach to prayer, including with regards to issues of healing.My parents always prayed for healing when we were sick, and they believed that God could and did heal. However, they also gave us medicine. They didn't simply count on God to heal us. And thank … [Read more...]

Additional Update: Rethinking Vision Forum

Not to get repetitive, but I thought I'd take a moment to plug the Rethinking Vision Forum website again. Things to note:Rethinking Vision Forum has surpassed 10,000 page views. When you search for "Vision Forum" in google, Rethinking Vision Forum is now at the bottom of the first page. It is in the middle of the second page when you do the same on Yahoo or Bing. Rethinking Vision Forum now has twenty pages and forty-nine posts, with content neatly organized by means of a drop down … [Read more...]

Speaking Two Different Languages

On further reflection, I think I figured out why I was saddened by my class yesterday. For those of you who haven't read my previous post, here it is in a nutshell: when the professor asked a class of twenty-five undergraduates what evangelicalism was, the words that ended up on the board were ones like "extreme" and "pushy," not "Jesus," "the Bible," or "salvation."I understand the negative public image of evangelicals, who yes, are often quite pushy and judgmental (believe me, I know … [Read more...]

Attention Evangelicals: You Have A Problem

To everyone who claims the label "evangelical," I have something to tell you. You have a major public relations problem. I'm not sure what you're doing wrong, but it really does look like you're doing something wrong. Let me explain.When I grew up as an evangelical, I was taught that being an evangelical was about trusting Christ's sacrifice for salvation, about helping others have conversion experiences and pray the sinners prayer, about reading the Bible, about having a relationship with … [Read more...]

From Caterpillar to Butterfly

This story starts with a caterpillar.Just like other daughters of Christian Patriarchy / Quiverfull, I was born a caterpillar, surrounded by other caterpillars. We praised each other's identical coloring patterns and conformity. We stayed close to the ground and took pride in that. We looked up sometimes and saw butterflies flitting over our heads. We derided them for their gaudy colors and their selfishness for wanting to fly so high. We in contrast were content with the ground, for our … [Read more...]