Abortion, GLBT, the Bible, and Cloaking

I've written recently about conservative arguments that having abortions causes post traumatic stress disorder and ruins women's lives, and that being gay means leading a destructive "lifestyle" that elevates your risk of suicide and depression. In each case I've pointed to self-fulfilling prophesies - if you can convince women having abortions that they are murdering babies, then of course they'll have problems afterwards, and if you continually tell gay young people that homosexuality is an … [Read more...]

Anoka, Minnesota, and “Curing” the Gay


Many of you may already have read this piece on Rolling Stone about the rash of suicides in Minnesota's Anoka-Hennepin School District. In a nutshell, the districts "no homo promo" policy has resulted in a very negative school atmosphere for gay teens, a half a dozen of whom have taken their lives in response. The district is now reexamining its policies in this area. As it does so, the local Parents Action League has submitted its own proposal, urging the school to teach "ex-homosexual … [Read more...]

Abortion, “God’s Plan,” and “Selfish” Women

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I've often said that when I was pro-life it was because I honestly believed the embryo/fetus was a person with a soul. This is true, but there's something more. The reality is that I had no idea what women who found themselves with unplanned pregnancies faced. I had no understanding of the reasons someone would choose to end a pregnancy.I was raised by a stay at home mother who had baby after baby without ever a threat to her health or the family's finances. No pregnancy was planned, but … [Read more...]

On Weakness and Temptation: The Checkout Aisle and Me

I learned growing up that everyone has their own particular weaknesses, their own particular points of temptation. For men it might be porn, for women it might be gossip. In order to avoid your temptation you might have to avoid a particular store - like Victoria's Secret - or a particular activity - like watching chic flicks. Mine was the checkout aisle.Every time I approached the checkout aisle at the grocery, I knew I was in for a battle. It was the magazines, you see. The trouble w … [Read more...]

The Ability to Disagree

I've been thinking more and more about how much I appreciate being able to disagree - or, more specifically, being able to disagree without having people flip out.Growing up on the line between fundamentalism and evangelicalism, in a family influenced by the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements, disagreement was not allowed. Or to be more specific, disagreement simply did not happen. I have to be completely honest, the first time I learned that mainstream couples are okay with not … [Read more...]

Sex, Back Rubs, and Socially Constructed Value


In a comment on my Purity Myth post, I said the following in response to comment: "As to the "deeply physical, emotional, and spiritual act" you say sex is, I would just point out that there are a LOT of people disagree with you. I personally don't see anything spiritual about it at all, and I think the only emotional thing about it is what you choose to invest in it. As for it being "deeply physical," so is a back rub or playing football or wrestling." I have gotten a lot of flack for saying … [Read more...]


What I love best about my life today is the absolute freedom I feel. I can believe what I want. I can do what I want. I can wear what I want. I can say what I want. I can be who I want. I cannot emphasize how revolutionary this all is.  When you stop trying to shove yourself into a box, everything suddenly changes. When you allow yourself to ask questions, a whole new world opens up. I so often feel like I'm standing in the middle of a meadow in the spring, whirling in circles and … [Read more...]