A Broken Father’s Day

Yesterday was Father’s Day. I didn’t call my dad. Part of me says I should have. He is my dad, and I do love him, after all. I could have called him. But the thing is, if I had called all that would have resulted is a strained conversation with a surface-level exchange. We would both have had to pretend that everything that happened between us several years ago didn’t. It would have been fake. Yesterday Sierra posted a song… Read more

Raised Quiverfull: On Sticking Out

Do you still feel as though you are “different” or that your past experiences emotionally isolate you from society? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: I definitely feel the effects of my past even today.  Because I was isolated from my peers in my formative years, social interaction takes a lot more concentration for me than for others.  In a way, it’s kind of like I’m operating in a foreign culture with different rules about what is acceptable and offensive.   Additionally, conversations… Read more

Another Documentary: “Daddy, I Do”

I just found another purity documentary. For a review, click here, and for the documentary’s website, click here. For the trailer, see below: [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5X4BO56waGg[/youtube]   Read more

Does the Bible make people atheists?

I’m often confused by two assumptions I have heard many atheists make: first, that Christians don’t actually read the Bible, and second, that if they did they couldn’t help but see the inconsistencies and atrocities and become atheists. Why am I confused? First, because while I’m sure there are plenty of Christians who don’t read the Bible, everyone in the evangelical community where I grew up read it on a daily basis, and not just the easier books like the… Read more

Raised Quiverfull: Relating to Family Complete

The Relating to Family section of the Raised Quiverfull project is now completed and posted. Next week we’ll move on to the Coping section. In case you missed any of the posts for last week, here are some ways to view them: For a summary of this section with links to each question, click here. For the questions and answers for this section on a single page, click here.   Read more

Latebloomer on “Bible Irony”

Latebloomer recently wrote about what she called “Bible Irony,” and it made me think of my own experiences. As a fundamentalist Christian, I was absolutely certain that the Bible was the inspired word of God, the only reliable source of truth.  I believed that the Old Testament existed to point ahead to Jesus, and that the New Testament revealed salvation through Jesus’ sacrifice.  Obviously, with such an important message, the New Testament must have had a beautiful, miraculous, clear, and… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: Purity Rings

This post is a little different. I just came upon a listing of three positive posts written by dads about giving their daughters purity rings. I obviously very much disagree with essentially everything involved in what I call “the purity culture,” but I thought these posts were interesting in that they give some insight into the minds of the fathers of the purity culture, especially as relates to their daughters and purity rings. Celebrating Another Milestone: Purity Ring for My Daughter Dads… Read more

You Will Be Hated: The Catch 22

I was taught that I would be hated. Why? Because I was a follower of Jesus. John 15:18-19 – “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.” Matthew 10:22 – “You will be hated by everyone because of me.”… Read more

“Different but Complementary” and “Separate but Equal”

I recently ran across a short post on Kaelee Bates, a blog run by a woman with previous experience with Christian Patriarchy. Here is an excerpt: “Different but Complimentary.” I cannot shake how similar that phrase is to, “separate but equal” I have attempted to write on this subject numerous times, but the truth is I am still too angry and raw. I just want to scream at everyone, “THIS IS NOT EQUALITY!” … There is no way for me to… Read more

Raised Quiverfull: Relationships with Siblings

Have any of your siblings (or perhaps even parents) left Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy ideology? How do you approach the relationships with siblings who have not? Joe: I would say half of my siblings have left and the other half still hang on to a little bit of the ideology or envelope themselves in it.  All I can do is communicate factual and logical information to them.  Recently, my brother left a Gothard law college because of facts I led him to… Read more