Christian Patriarchy to Men: You don’t have to grow up!

What are the qualities we generally associate with maturity? The ability to see things from others’ perspectives? The ability to accept that the world doesn’t revolve around you, and that things don’t always go the way you want them to, and that you just have to deal with that? The ability to cooperate with others, to communicate and find compromises that everyone can be happy with? Yeah, under Christian Patriarchy, a man doesn’t have to do any of that. Because he’s… Read more

Aurora and the fundamentalist response to tragedy

When I heard about what happened in Aurora, Colorado, last night, I couldn’t help but think about how I would have responded to a tragedy like this in the past. First, I would have seen it as evidence of sin and evil in the world. I would have imagined the presence of pure evil that must have pervaded that movie theater as demons and perhaps even the devil himself goaded the perpetrator on. The presence of evil so dare you… Read more

Oh, for heaven’s sake!

Doug Wilson’s daughters have joined in the fray, defending their father against the recent outcry of the blogosphere (see my last post for more on that). I just read their defenses, and I just can’t even. I’m sitting here bone tired from a day of blogging and dissertation writing and baby watching, and there’s no way I want to write a whole post responding to their defenses. Fortunately, I don’t have to. Sierra has already replied to their posts, saying… Read more

Marital Rape? Doug Wilson on Dominance and Submission in the Marriage Bed

*Trigger warning for survivors of sexual or domestic violence* The blogosphere I follow has lit up in horror over the last day or so in reaction to a blog post which makes a connection between the prevalence of rape in our society and sex as practiced in the marriage bed today, and, some have argued, responds by endorsing marital rape. This post, which contained a lengthy quotation by prominent conservative evangelical reformed pastor and leader Doug Wilson, was posted by Jared Wilson of… Read more

Raised Quiverfull: Skarlet’s Story

“My parents were both christians before they got married, but after five years of attending a church which taught that they should not have any children at all, so that they could better witness to the lost (based on their interpretation of verses like “he who has a wife should be as though he has none..), my parents reacted against that teaching and felt that children are a gift from God. From that point on, they did not ever use birth control.” Read more

More Raised Quiverfull Posts Coming

I’m going to post two more Raised Quiverfull stories in the next two weeks: Skarlet’s story and Anne’s story. Each story will be posted individually, with each of the nine sections of questions as an individual post. One thing I have found interesting about the Raised Quiverfull Project is how individual the experiences are – and how different. Some stories, like Joe’s, have parents who would have been abusive inside or outside of the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements. Other… Read more

Kids need rules! Right?

I am constantly surprised by how much I was taught as common sense child rearing growing up is completely turned on its head by positive parenting. For example, one huge emphasis growing up is that children need rules, limits, and boundaries. Having boundaries, I was taught, makes children happy and secure. This from James Dobson of Focus on the Family: You have discussed the need for establishing boundaries within the home. Do children really want limits set on their behavior? Most… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: A random assortment

I love hearing Lisa’s excitement as she sets about fulfilling her dreams in Germany after growing up in a particularly oppressive (American) Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull home.  A few days ago Daniel’s Mom invited us over for afternoon coffee and cake in her garden. It’s actually a very common thing to go for coffee and cake at 4 PM. Many do it every day. Mrs Daniel’s neighbor was working in her garden and came over for a quick chat. Daniel’s Mom introduced me… Read more

Staying together “for the children”?

Growing up, I believed that divorce was wrong and completely out of the question. Marriage was for life. Period. When I eventually stopped seeing divorce as a sin, though, I still felt for a long time that even if a marriage wasn’t working, if there were children involved the couple needed to stay together regardless. For the children, right? Over the last few years, though, my thinking on this has changed, and I want to take a moment to explain… Read more

Answers in Genesis: Are we more moral than God?

This week a read an article in Answers in Genesis’ Answers Magazine asserting that if you think God’s cruel for sending people to eternal torture in hell, well, you just don’t truly understand God’s goodness (yes, yes that is indeed their argument), and a post by the Slacktivist in which muses that it must be awful to believe that God isn’t as loving as you want him to be. Reading these two in tandem brought to mind the “wager” I… Read more

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