Feeling Judgement

I just read an interesting post called The Impact on Our Kids: Internalizing Those Judging Eyes. Even though the situation discussed here was one experienced with Islam, I found it easy to identify with. I was walking outside with my daughter last week in a neighborhood we used to live in, back when we lived a conservative Muslim life. It was a hot sunny day, and she was wearing a sleeveless t-shirt and tight pants. There was nobody out on… Read more

New! The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blog Network!

Vyckie of No Longer Quivering has just announced the creation of the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! And guess what? Apparently I helped motivate her to start it! The network began when Vyckie noticed that NLQ forum member, Libby Anne, seemed to be doing a lot of processing of her quiverfull experience through frequent posts and comments. She encouraged Libby Anne to write her story for NLQ – which she did – and in the process, discovered that she loves blogging!… Read more

Raised Quiverfull: How Many Remained?

Among those you grew up around who were also raised with Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology, what proportion has remained in the movement and what proportion has left? Joe: The majority have left the movement and still cling to the religion.  I relate more to my new friends. Latebloomer: I am not really in contact with any of the parents of the movement; however, of the teens, I don’t know of anyone who remained in the movement in adulthood.  Today, they cover… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: Making up with your child

You remember when I talked recently about positive parenting and saying “I’m sorry?” Well, I recently came upon an excellent article on the same topic: “Eleven Steps for Healing and Restoring the Peace after Being Harsh with Your Child.” Here are the eleven steps (be sure to read the full article!): Calm yourself Accept your mistake Don’t make excuses Reflect on your triggers Work on self regulation Release Gratitude list Re-Connect and Comfort Promise to do better Take care Forgiveness Read more

Raised Quiverfull: Struggling with Questions

What did you struggle with most when you were in the midst of questioning and/or leaving Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology? What was the hardest part? Joe: Hell.  I struggled with that for all of five minutes.  Then, it didn’t matter anymore.  There was no proof of anything.  So, if a god required me to believe in what was not firmly believable, I couldn’t be required to get it right.  The other thing I struggled with was my guilt for having sex… Read more

Teaching Children about God: How to Get Started?

A couple of months ago I wrote a post called “Are You Teaching Her about Jesus?” I wrote about how a relative had put this question to me in a letter, clearly concerned about my daughter Sally’s spiritual well-being. And I wrote about how I’m still not sure how to respond to such questions given that we’re not “out” as atheists to our relatives at this point. One of my readers left this comment: There is teaching “about” and there… Read more

Raised Quiverfull: Asking the First Question

What first made you question the beliefs you were raised with? Was this initial questioning a frightening or liberating experience? Joe: I can’t put a finger on one experience that made me question my beliefs.  When I mention my beliefs, I must say that I have rejected everything from quiverful and fundamentalist Christianity, all the way to a belief in god.  I reject it all now.  But, with no further ado, I will construct a list of a few happenings… Read more

Sierra’s Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project

Sierra has just announced that she is starting a project on religious fundamentalism and sexuality, and she’s looking for participants. Here is what she has to say about it: If you are interested in participating in a blog series on religious fundamentalism and sexuality, read on! Below are the questions and the guidelines for the project.  Borrowing the format of Libby Anne’s Raised Quiverfull project, I’ll be posting each question and its set of answers multiple times a week, starting June… Read more

Raised Quiverfull: Mainstream Culture

How were you first exposed to “mainstream” American culture? What were your first impressions? Joe: I was public schooled all my life and so lived in this “mainstream” culture first hand.  I say “lived in” because it was beaten into us that my siblings and I were sojourners in a foreign country.  Martyrs for the cause of patriarchal Christianity.  The only reason we had to be in this culture was because our evil father had forced it upon us. But… Read more

In God We Teach: A Documentary

Thought you all might find this interesting. It’s a documentary about a court case over a history teacher’s proselytizing in the classroom. [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wP6B4gpgyRI[/youtube]   Read more

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