Raised Quiverfull: Advice for Others

What advice do you have for other young adults currently questioning or leaving Christian Patriarchy/Quiverfull ideology? Joe: Coming soon. Latebloomer: Your questions are there, deep down: be honest with God and yourself and acknowledge them.  God is big enough to handle your questions.  Then try to find answers for those questions with the mind that God gave you.  It can be a scary journey but life is much richer and more interesting when you venture out of the box that… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: Positive Parenting

As a young mother who was raised on authoritarian parenting but now practices positive parenting, articles like these are like water to my soul. Avoiding Conflict through Playfulness and Connection With three little ones and two dogs, there is never a dull moment in our house…truth is at every junction there is a possibility of chaos and conflict. To my rescue I sometimes turn to playfulness and connection. Over the years, I have found that taking just five minutes to… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: Parenting, Happiness, and Bodily Ownership

I Don’t Own My Child’s Body, on CNN “When we force children to submit to unwanted affection in order not to offend a relative or hurt a friend’s feelings, we teach them that their bodies do not really belong to them because they have to push aside their own feelings about what feels right to them,” said Irene van der Zande, co-founder and executive director of Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International, a nonprofit specializing in teaching personal safety and violence prevention. “This… Read more

On Modesty and Peer Pressure

Even though I was not technically required to, I only wore skirts. Even though my mother had good fashion sense and enjoyed buying a new dress, I wore baggy homemade dresses or oversized T-shirts with shapeless skirts (much to her consternation, I think). Why? Because doing so made me feel oh so much holier and more virtuous than everyone else. I’ve written before about how my friends and I drove each other to be more extreme in our desire to… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: Another Look at Abortion

What the Right Gets about Abortion and the Left Doesn’t Get, on Away Point Reproductive rights leaders are worried about an intensity gap between Millennials who support and oppose abortion. Frankly, we deserve it. For the past twenty years, while pro-choice advocates muttered about statistics and privacy and tested make-nice language like “nobody is pro-abortion” or “let’s make it safe, legal and rare,” anti-choice advocates have created a gut-level aversion to abortion in a whole generation of young Americans. Most… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: “Why I Am A Christian Feminist”

Katy-Anne, a former quiverfull adherent who has left fundamentalism but not Christianity, recently wrote an interesting series called “Why I Am a Christian Feminist”: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Read more

Raised Quiverfull: Adjusting Complete

The Adjusting section of the Raised Quiverfull project is now completed and posted. Next week we’ll move on to the Helping Others section. In case you missed any of the posts for last week, here are some ways to view them: For a summary of this section with links to each question, click here. For the questions and answers for this section on a single page, click here.   Read more

Courtship, Part 3: They Said He Would Leave Me

The whole reason I was sold on the idea of participating in a parent-guided courtship in the first place was my fear that if I chose my own husband I would be blinded by love or manipulated by an unscrupulous young man and thus end up in a hellish marriage. Following a parent-guided courtship was the safe thing to do. My father would protect me by vetting my suitors and choosing a good husband for me when I could not… Read more

Worthwhile Reads: Religious Homophobia

Sierra just finished a series on Christian fundamentalist homophobia: It Really Is about Fear Generalized Anxiety and Images of Depravity The Argument Is in the Eyebrows Finding Unconditional Love outside the Church See also: Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner? by Melissa “Hate the Sin, Love the Sinner,” by Katy-Anne Read more

Courtship, Part 2: What’s Important and What Isn’t

I explained in Part 1 why the idea of a parent-guided courtship was appealing to me. In that post I described the courtship process that I grew up expecting. Here I am going to focus on one aspect of that: the process by which the father vets his daughter’s prospective suitors. This is, after all, how the father is supposed to protect his daughter from a disastrous match by helping her choose a husband. My father made a list, a… Read more

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