Michael Pearl on CNN

CNN has investigated the case of Lydia Schatz, spanked to death by her parents following the Pearls’ methods. The Pearls defense is as follows (for full text see here): It has come to may attention that a vocal few are decrying our sensible application of the Biblical rod in training up our children. I laugh at my caustic critics, for our properly spanked and trained children grow to maturity in great peace and love. Numbered in the millions, these kids… Read more

A Transition in Motherhood

I’m thinking about starting a new series here on my blog consisting simply of snippits from my research and studies that I think my readers might find interesting. So today you get a section from Julia Grant’s Raising Baby by the Book (page 15) on the transition from extensive to intensive mothering: For seventeenth- and eighteenth-century colonial American women, child rearing was only one of a multitude of tasks shared by neighbors and kin. With the help of older children,… Read more

A Hole In Your Heart?

I was taught that every human has a hole in his or her heart that only Jesus can fill. My parents told me that everyone who wasn’t a Christian – a true Christian, that is – leads a miserable, unfulfilled life. The only thing that could make a person happy, I learned, was Jesus. I looked forward to ministering to those who didn’t understand the gospel message. How hard could it be to convert people, I wondered, when they led… Read more

Young Earth Creationism and Me

Realizing that Young Earth Creationism (YEC) was wrong was the first step on my journey out of my parents’ beliefs. My parents made YEC the center of their beliefs, and taught me that everything else rests upon it. I studied YEC in detail beginning when I was about twelve, and I was convinced of its truth and of the falsehood of evolution. When I came to college, however, I engaged in debate on this topic with other students I knew…. Read more

Uptate on website countering Vision Forum

First, Rethinking Vision Forum has moved from blogspot to wordpress and is now located at rethinkingvisionforum.wordpress.com. You should really go check it out, because it has lots of neatly organized information! Second, Rethinking Vision Forum has become even more collaborative as numerous individuals have been eager and enthusiastic about letting us republish their articles and posts. Several individuals have offered excellent ideas for the future and even offered to do future posts for the site. We are extremely thankful! Third,… Read more

An Atheist Homeschool Mom Comes Out

Kudos to blogger Leanna of Life on the Hill. She lives in Kentucky and homeschooles her children, and she has just come out as an atheist. Her story embodies so much of what I have thought and felt, as well as my philosophy on children and religion. Here are some excerpts from her coming out post: I have often tiptoed around stating my lack of religious beliefs because, like many people in a minority, I fear being shunned and judged…. Read more

Parenting Is Not A Contest

Last week my husband and I saw a movie on campus. As usual, we brought our little daughter Sally with us. She behaved very well, sometimes sitting beside me, sometimes nursing, sometimes walking up and down the stairs (we sat by the aisle). When the movie finished we got up and prepared to go. Sally, it’s time to go home now. No! Stairs, walk stairs! No Sally, it’s time to go home now. I was tired and wanted to get… Read more

A Trust Problem

My parents have a trust problem. I’ve said elsewhere that the parents of the Christian Patriarchy movement seem to be unable to trust their adult daughters. In fact, as I’ve already pointed out, they frequently don’t even trust their adult daughters to be able to think for themselves. Depending on the family, sons may face the same lack of trust as well. But I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not just their children that the parents of the Christian… Read more

New Website Addressing Vision Forum

We are pleased to announce the creation of a new website geared specifically to countering the teachings of Vision Forum.  I have been bothered for some time that while there are various articles on a variety of websites addressing the problems with the teachings of Vision Forum and its image of the “perfect godly family,” there was no website pulling all of this information together. And now there is. Here it is: Rethinking Vision Forum The site is meant to… Read more


I have made some changes to this blog today. First, I have changed the background and color scheme, etc. Second, I have changed the tabs. Now the tabs are divided by subject and provide listing of relevant blog posts. Third, I have changed the “my story” tab. Now rather than just containing my huge long story, it links to each part, all of which are now published on the blog separately. You can also make comments on each individual section… Read more

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