In Defense of Letting Kids Talk Back


I grew up in a family where "back talk" was not allowed. The result was that I often felt muzzled and suffocated. For example, when I was in trouble any attempt to explain what actually happened or to disagree with a selected punishment and suggest an alternative resulted in more "spanks" being added to my punishment total. I often felt compelled to say something---to speak out in the face of what appeared to me to be clear injustice---but any words I might say were silenced, replaced by incre … [Read more...]

Anonymous Tip: Papers, Please!


A review series of Anonymous Tip, by Michael FarrisPp. 148-155Let's see, where did we leave off? Oh yes, it's the Tuesday hearing and it's dashing lawyer Peter's turn to question Dr. McGuire, the psychologist the CPS office hired to fake his report and say that Gwen is an unfit mother.Let me start by noting something one of my readers pointed out last week. When Dr. McGuire used the existence of bruises as part of his reasoning for finding Gwen an unfit parent, Peter could have … [Read more...]

Why I Broke Up with Lenore Skenazy and Free Range Kids


I came upon the concept of free range parenting several years ago when I came upon Free Range Kids, a website run by author Lenore Skenazy (who authored a book with the same title). I was initially extremely attracted to the idea. The byline for both the website and the book is "How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children (Without Going Nuts with Worry)" and Skenazy seemed to focus on promoting children's rights. She argued that children are capable of much more than we give them credit for, and e … [Read more...]

No, Modesty Does Not “Empower” Women


I recently came upon an article via Ladies Against Feminism titled 4 Reasons Modesty Empowers Women (And Porn Does Not). Let's start with the title. The title contrasts "modesty" and "porn," seemingly unaware that the two are not the only options, or that there is a huge difference between porn on the one hand, and an ordinary person wearing "revealing" clothing she just happens to like on the other.Now let's move on to the post itself:Modern women everywhere are taught that it’s pe … [Read more...]

It’s Not Just a Guy Thing—Oh Wait, Yes It Is


When I saw that a prominent Christian blogger, Tim Challies, had posted an article about sinning with your eyes titled It's Not Just a Guy Thing, I was excited. Ever since the Victorian Era de-sexed women, evangelicals have generally positioned things the sin of lust squarely in male territory. Now to be clear, I have a problem with this entire construction, and I don't believe visual sexual enjoyment is wrong---though exploitation clearly is. But when I saw the article title, I expected to find … [Read more...]

Matt Walsh, Police Brutality, and Victim Blaming


We often talk about victim blaming as it relates to rape, but victim blaming plays a similar function when it comes to police brutality as well. In both cases, we as a society look for something the victim must have done wrong, some way that they surely must have brought what happened on themselves. In the case of rape, we as a society ask whether they drank too much or send the wrong message through their clothing or behavior? In the case of police brutality, we as a society ask whether they … [Read more...]

The Lesbian Duplex 39: An Open Thread


It’s time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here also. Every so often, as the number of comments on a given Lesbian Duplex post becomes unmanageable, I put up a fresh post. I’ve added a “chatter” tab under my blog banner that will direct readers to these discussion threads, so no one will have to wo … [Read more...]