CTNAHM: You’re Valuable, but Nobody Cares or Notices

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 99---101I've made mention of this earlier, but this section is more pronounced. It seems that Michael has very little respect for a Mr. Steady. Possibly because he views himself as Command/Visionary? I'm not sure, but the more I read in this chapter, the stronger that feeling gets. Let me know if you agree/disagree. Your Role as a Steady/Priestly ManIn the church, Steady/Priestly men are very … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Debi Speaks on Ruth’s Sex Life (and a Stove)

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 192---194In this section we get a letter from a woman named Ruth, and Debi's response to it. Remember that we are in the section on being "discreet," so presumably this relates (somehow). Dear Mrs. Pearl,I know that joy comes from complete submission to God and to your husband. Does that mean I should not be frustrated and just plain tired? I have a question. Should one be quiet when you know your husband is making a poor decision? Doesn't being a helper … [Read more...]

I Am Not a Child

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Over Thanksgiving we got together with some relatives on Sean's side of the family. One of his cousins, whom I will call Hillary, is about ten years older than Sean and I, and watching her interact with her mother (Sean's aunt) was fascinating. Her mother, you see, can be a bit overbearing. Hillary, don't you think this, and Hillary, don't you think that, and so on. But that didn't phase Hillary. Hillary obviously loves her mom and vice versa and they appear to have a strong and healthy … [Read more...]

Charting Your (Wife’s) Monthly Cycle

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If you're reading the reviews of Michael Pearl's Created To Need A Help Meet, you will know that he recently advised young husbands to track their wives' cycles so they would know in advance when their wives were going to go all hormonal and ballistic on them---when it was their time of the month. Most of those who commented responded in horror to Michael's suggestion, and I was horrified too---but in my case I was also struck by the familiarity.My father tracks my mother's cycle on his own … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Give Your Ornamental Wife a Purpose

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 98---99This section is interesting to me. In fact, I think it is one of the more intriguing sections I've read. Mostly because Michael comes dangerously close to saying women have needs and desires of their own. Yeah, I was shocked, too. Read on! Your Wife's Greatest NeedIn good economic times the vast majority of letters our office receives are from women criticizing their laid-back, quiet, … [Read more...]

Sally, Sean’s Wallet, and Moral Ethics

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When we go grocery shopping, I generally let Sally choose something small for herself. On a recent trip, Sally made a choice that was more expensive than the price range I generally ask her to stick to. I could have had her put it back, but I could see she was entranced, so instead I put back the little marshmallows for hot chocolate and a few other things."Sally, since you wanted that little doll, I had to put some things back," I told her in the car. "So we didn't get the little … [Read more...]

Let It Go

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This song from Disney's Frozen just reduced me to tears.I may gripe about the pinkification of the Disney princesses, but I've got to hand it to them here. Tangled was much the same, but this? Wow. This is amazing. I haven't even seen the movie, I've only seen this one song, and already the tears are flowing. Such catharsis.Here are the lyrics: The snow glows white on the mountain tonight Not a footprint to be seen A kingdom of isolation And it looks like I'm the queenThe … [Read more...]


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