Anonymous Tip: Donna Gets a Lawyer (and Her Boyfriend Back)

WTF. This book really is turning into a long exercise in torturing Donna. I get that she messed up—and she did. She should not have lied about seeing bruises on Casey. Period. She should be punished for that, absolutely, but she should be punished under the law, not through this slow emotional torture Farris is bringing down on her. What exactly is the moral here? Don’t fabricate evidence or your boyfriend will cheat on you while gaslighting you like heck?

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The Business of LGBT Rights

I agree with some of Gattuso’s critique, but I think there’s a dimension that’s missing. While Levi may benefit financially off of its Pride line, this line also makes pride affirming clothing more available and, likely, more affordable for the average customer. Further, by simply having such a line, Levi contributes to our society’s further acceptance of queer identities, and to the normalization of gay rights. And there’s more, too.

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Courtship doesn’t save you heartache. It amplifies it.

I am not saying our current dating culture is perfect. I am saying that courtship is not the cure-all it is presented as. Indeed, it creates at least as many—and I would argue more—problems as it claims to solve, and some of the things it claims to fix it actually makes worse. I understand that there are parents concerned about protecting their children from harm, and that a lot of young people are worried and uncertain. I get it. But there is no perfect formula for avoiding pain.

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Samaritan’s Purse and the Borders of Belonging

I’ve long been fascinated by the idea that evangelicalism has “borders” that it enforces—beliefs that are considered required for membership. Every religion or belief system has such borders, they just define and defend them differently. What I find fascinating about watching the borders evangelicals draw is how drastically these borders have changed over time, and how very specific they can get. Fred Clark of the Slacktivist uses the term “tribal gatekeepers” to describe this phenomenon.

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The Family Research Council and the Politics of Exclusion

If the Family Research Council cared about rights, and about privacy, and about safety, they wouldn’t oppose anti-bullying efforts, they wouldn’t have opposed gay marriage, and they wouldn’t continue to portray LGBTQ people as child predators. If they cared about child sexual abuse, they would be leading an effort to inform their followers of where such abuse usually occurs—in the home—and who typically perpetrates it—a family member or close friend.

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Lesbian Duplex 69: An Open Thread

It’s time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here also. Enjoy! [Read more…]

Saturday Link Love: AIDS, Exotic Problems, and the Satanic Panic

Saturday Link Love is a new feature where I collect and post links to various articles I’ve come upon over the past week. Feel free to share any interesting articles you’ve come along as well! The more the merrier.

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Anonymous Tip: Stephen and Donna Have It Out

Ick. This was a weird section. I have no idea why Farris grouped Donna and Stephen’s conversation Sunday night together with this bit about Peter’s Monday morning, but so be it. Get ready for the ride!

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That Christian Man Selling Child-Training Whips Is Back

The above image is an advertisement that used to run in Christian homeschool magazines. “The ideal tool for child training,” reads the test below an image of a long, thin shaft with a handle, a rod intended for whipping children. “The means prescribed by God,” it reads. And there’s a poem: “Spoons are for cooking / Belts are for holding up pants / Hands are for loving / RODS are for chastening.” This “flexible nylon rod” with its “cushioned vinyl grip” was marketed by Steve Haymond, and was primarily purchased by Christian homeschooling families.

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I Don’t Want Obedient Children

When dropping me off at a friend’s house to play for the day, my mom would tell me to ‘be a good obeying girl.’ Mom would read aloud out of Proverbs, and remind us that children are to obey their parents. And if we didn’t obey? If we didn’t obey, there were consequences—consequences that frequently involved a wooden paddle. And yet, I realized recently that the word ‘obey’ plays literally no role in my own parenting.

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