When Punitive Childrearing Creates Deceptive Children

My parents believed their parenting would ensure that we children would learn to be truthful, obedient, and hard working, but in practice their focus on taking punitive action for any wrongdoing gave us incentive to do whatever we had to to get out punishment.

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Silence Does Not Communicate Inclusivity: On Lesbian Christian Teen Lizzie Lowe’s “Misplaced” Suicide

I recently came upon this headline: Christian teenager takes own life over misplaced fears about telling family she is a lesbian. I immediately wondered—what does “misguided” mean? Many Christians believe that gay and lesbian identities and relationships are perverse, and I have a hard time imagining how a child with LGBT-inclusive Christian parents would not realize they would be accepting. I skimmed the article looking for answers.

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Lesbian Duplex 82: An Open Thread

It’s time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! If you have a link or article or interesting thought that’s not relevant to an ongoing thread, you can share it here. If a conversation on another post has turned entirely off topic, you can bring it here also.

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Saturday Link Love: Family Detention, Ole Miss, and Poverty

Saturday Link Love is a new feature where I collect and post links to various articles I’ve come upon over the past week. Feel free to share any interesting articles you’ve come along as well! The more the merrier.

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Anonymous Tip: Late Night Tears

Look, it is only natural and normal for people to question or rethink a belief when that belief has real world consequences that don’t make sense, or are bad, or when confronted with new information. I’ve done this myself, many times. Beliefs are not supposed to be frozen and unchanging. Underlying values, sure, but there are a huge variety of beliefs that can be formed and reformed, thought and rethought, within a similar ethic. But the evangelical idea that changing a belief based on changed or new circumstances is always always always wrong circumvents that very natural process.

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“Burkini” Bans Shut Women out of Public Space

What I’m trying to get at is this—banning burkinis won’t change what burkini-inclined women wear to the beach, it will just prevent them from going to the beach. It will shut them out of a public space they could otherwise have access to and deprive them of opportunities they might otherwise have had. And for what? To make the local government feel like they’ve struck a blow against repression and “the enslavement of women”? They haven’t.

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Women Who Murder Their Husbands Are “Wicked” While Men Who Do the Same Are Ordinary Blokes

After writing yesterday’s post, I came upon something very interesting. A study by Australian researchers published last year evaluated judges’ sentencing remarks in 72 cases of domestic murder—67 involving male perpetrators and 5 involving female perpetrators—and found stark differences between the way the judges talked about men who murdered their domestic partners and women who murdered their domestic partners.

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Why Is the NRA Ignoring This 14-Year-Old Girl Jailed for Shooting Her Abusive Father?

So, guns. Gun rights advocates argue that protecting private gun ownership is important, because it is important to ensure that private citizens are able to protect themselves against threats. Except—wait a minute—what’s that?

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Why This Simone Biles Homeschool Success Meme is Disrespectful to Homeschool Alumni (and Simone Biles)

For years now, I and other alumni have been calling attention to problems in the homeschool world—children left unprepared, young adults struggling—and for years we’ve been poo-pooed and talked over by homeschool parents who would prefer to share self-righteous memes like the one above than to talk about the actual issues homeschool alumni face. You know what? I’m not letting this one slide.

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Which God Is Looking Out for Them?

And so it has begun. Evangelicals on my Facebook feed are praising the Christian faith of various of the five female gymnasts representing the United States in Rio, sharing articles and images. That’s why they can keep going, they’re saying. That’s why they never give up. I grew up in an evangelical home, so this is familiar. We heard stories of Scottish athlete Eric Liddell, who put his faith ahead of everything still set a world record at the 1924 Olympics.

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