Strong-Willed Child: Comically Absurd Examples of “Willful Defiance”


By VictoriaOriginally posted on Saving Victoria StrongThe Strong-Willed Child, chapter 1, pp. 18-19And now Dobson shall whine about “the experts” again. “Let me repeat my observation that the most popular textbooks for parents and teachers fail even to acknowledge that parenthood involves a struggle or contest of wills.” And let me repeat my observations that parenthood doesn’t involve a contest of wills unless you want it to. You do have the option to accept your child for who they … [Read more...]

Protecting Your Marriage from Adultery

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Guest Post by MeganOriginally posted on Public QuestionI feel the need to respond to something that’s popped up in my newsfeed several times. Before I launch into my response, I want to clarify some things: This is not an attack on Danielle, who seems to make people happy with her writing. This is not an attack on Christianity.This is an attack on the insidious way patriarchy—a human-made system & an ideology that is unbelievably insidious, invading even our most intimate act … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Sodomite Predator


Created To Be His Help Meet, p. 266Now that we've finished with Michael's lengthy exposition, we're back to Debi. Practical ExamplesYou may still be confused as to when you are to obey and when not. We will list some of the questions and issues we receive in the mail and discuss them one by one. In this post, we'll look at her first example. Sodomite Predator(E-mail that was answered immediately)Dear Pearls,Something terrible is happening, and we do not have any friends … [Read more...]

Richard Dawkins and Rape Rape

Description=Richard Dawkins Photograph: Jeremy Young 05-12-2006

I have a friend who was raped by a friend of hers---someone she had had sex with before. It's just that this time, she said no, she wasn't up for it at the moment, and he didn't stop. It wasn't "violent"---she basically disassociated and laid there in shock that this was happening to her. He was someone she had trusted. This experience led my friend into some risky behavior---she figured there wasn't any point in keeping herself safe, as there was no "safe"---and ultimately put her into therapy … [Read more...]

Both Children and Parents Are Demanding


Sometimes, when we are on a road trip to visit relatives, we stop at a drive through on the way. Last week was one of those times. Then comes the flurry of passing out fries and figuring out whose shake is whose and everything that goes along with that---straws, napkins, ketchup, the works. Sean was driving and I was passing things every which way, the children and Sean simultaneously putting in bids for their food. I was on sensory overload and feeling frazzled and finally, in exasperation, I … [Read more...]

What If My Children Adopted My Parents’ Beliefs?


Every so often, I get a comment like this on my blog: Dear Libby Anne,You state that you are an atheist. What would you do if one of your children choose the lifestyle your parents have---if he/she states that you are totally wrong in not believing in god? Would you support or accept his/ her choices? Would you feel betrayed in everything you taught them (e.g. critical thinking) because they don't think it to be the right way for them? What if he/she decides to leave the decision of family … [Read more...]

“And How Many Daddies?”

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I recently ran into my friend Amy and her son Joey when I was downtown for an event with my daughter Sally. Amy had a similar evangelical upbringing to mine, and is today happily married to her partner of fifteen years, Kate. Their son Joey is two. I've gotten together with Amy for lunch on occasion, and when we ran into each other again last week we repeated, again, that we should get out families together sometime---when we weren't so busy. I introduced Sally to Amy and Joey and then we parted … [Read more...]