I’m Not Angry Anymore

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I used to be angry at my parents. As regular readers will know, when I started forging my own way while in college my parents responded in a way that completely ruined our relationship and sent me into therapy. They caused me incredible pain and treated me in ways no parent should treat their newly adult child. They forced me to choose between my family and my freedom. And for a while, I was angry---and I had good right to be angry! But I'm not angry anymore.People are fallible, and my … [Read more...]

I Am Not an Anti-Theist

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I may not believe in God, gods, or the supernatural, but I don't have a problem with other people doing so. It's funny, at some point I think I did have a problem with that. In the earlier days of blogging, even, I felt more opposed to theistic beliefs. Indeed, there are things I wrote several years ago that I might well not write today. Of course, I still am opposed to some religious beliefs. I am opposed to beliefs that hurt people, to beliefs that cause people to hurt others, and to beliefs … [Read more...]

TTUAC: In Which Michael Admits Children Have Feelings

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To Train Up A Child, chapter 4 part 2Sometimes I feel like Michael is this bizarre walking contradiction. THE THREE-YEAR-OLD TRUCKERAs my wife sat talking, an altercation developed between the young mother's two sons, one and three years old. They both began to scream while tugging at opposite ends of the same toy truck. The mother hollered, "What is wrong with you two?" "He is trying to take my truck," cried the older of the two. "Billy, give Johnny back his truck," she yelled. After … [Read more...]

The Daughters’ Role; Or, Enough with the Blame Already!

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I was thinking today about Doug Phillips' affair when something came to my mind that made me rather uncomfortable. It's fairly common in evangelical and fundamentalist circles to put at least some of the blame on a man's wife when he has an affair. After all, the logic goes, she clearly didn't keep him occupied and contented. But within Vision Forum circles, this has actually been taken a step further. A lot of men are leaving their wives for younger women because they yearn for attention from … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Look at Porn and Your Kids Will Die!

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 83---84We are still talking about Visionaries. In fact, today we are talking about idle Visionaries. And King David! The weird thing is, Michael never says David was a Visionary. I keep thinking of what I know about his story, and I would categorize him more as a Command Man, if I had to choose. Maybe a bit of steady thrown in, but not really a Visionary. But let's see where Michael goes with … [Read more...]

It depends upon what the meaning of the word “know” is

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This from Doug Phillips' original "Statement of resignation": There has been serious sin in my life for which God has graciously brought me to repentance. I have confessed my sin to my wife and family, my local church, and the board of Vision Forum Ministries.  I engaged in a lengthy, inappropriate relationship with a woman. While we did not “know” each other in a Biblical sense, it was nevertheless inappropriately romantic and affectionate. This from Doug Phillips' recent "Clarification on Res … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Praying Women and “Spiritual Masturbation”

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 180---182So, Debi gets mail. Or rather, Michael does, but whatever, it made into Debi's book. Dear Mr. Pearl,I am a busy mother whose children go to a Christian school. I am realizing that without another close female in my life who could share house duties, it is harder on me than it should be. Do you by any chance have a husband? Because believe it or not, they can help out with things like housework and childcare. I know, right? It's crazy! I meet … [Read more...]


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