The “Real Men” of Evangelical Christianity

If you’re like me, your social media feeds are probably filled with discussions of ISIS and refugees and epic battles between conservative friends and progressive friends. So today, let me offer you a break, such as it is. Let’s look at some of the “real men” memes I found, and I’ll take this opportunity to discuss some of the problematic aspects in evangelicals’ approach to male-female relationships. Let’s get started! Read more

When Courtship Means Regret

Regret is a part of life. If we spend our entire lives fleeing it, we’re not truly living. We shouldn’t center our approach to relationships around never regretting anything. There’s no failsafe way to do that, and focusing on it like a laser is stress inducing. Instead of centering decisions on avoiding regret, we would be better off focusing on healthy relationship skills, informed choices, and tools for recognizing and avoiding abusive partners and relationship patterns. And, too, we need to give our young people tools for handling regret. Read more

Michael Farris Calls for Closing Doors to Syrian Refugees

Today, I am sad. I am sad for France, and I am sad for the backwardness of responses like this. And I worry. Where will this lead? Where will it end? I don’t have the answer. I wish I did. Instead, all I have is a strong sense of foreboding. Read more

Please Don’t Deny Our Agency

Yes, children who grow up in Christian homeschooling families are often more sheltered than other children. We may study out of textbooks that are extremely limited in ideological scope. We may not have any friends whose beliefs differ from ours. But the entire premise of this blog and so many others is that Christian homeschooling does not work. Children are wildcards, not robots waiting for programming. Regardless of how controlling our parents may be during our childhoods, once we turn 18 we make our own decisions. Please do not deny us that. Read more

Lesbian Duplex 42: An Open Thread

It’s time for another chatter thread! Read more

Anonymous Tip: The Smoking Gun(s)?

Actually, this is fairly par for the course for the author, Michael Farris, and his organization, HSLDA. Farris routinely calls attention to cases where (he believes) CPS has overstepped, but he frames it in terms of parents’ rights, not children’s rights. Read more

Coming Full Circle

In a way, some things in my life have come full circle. Jared was the first openly gay person I knew—the person who forced me to completely rethink my views on homosexuality—and now I have seen him happily married. I campaigned against marriage equality in high school, and now I have celebrated both Obergefell but the also the marriage of a good friend. Today, I am content. Read more

A Fundamental Misunderstanding of Ex-Fundamentalists

Do we need to tell ex-fundamentalists that they have to spend more time with fundamentalists or they’re just “re-formed” fundamentalists? I’m sorry, but no. We don’t. We also don’t need to tell them that the pain or anger they may feel is illegitimate, or that if they don’t see fundamentalist positions as as valid or as just as theirs they’re still fundamentalists. And if not being a relativist makes me a fundamentalist, so be it. Read more

One Million Moms Declares War on Children of Gay Parents

This “war” rhetoric may appear bombastic, but the rights of children of gay parents are an emerging frontier in the battle over gay rights nonetheless. No longer content to take aim at gay and lesbian couples, conservatives have put their children in the crosshairs. Read more

Starbucks’ Red Cup and the Evangelicals Who Cried Wolf

Starbucks’ holiday marketing is about as Christmas-centric as you can get, and even that is not enough for evangelicals. Starbucks fails to put a Christmas tree or ornaments on their holiday cup this year, and conservatives call it a “war on Christmas” and “emblematic of the Christian culture cleansing of the West.” Read more

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