Double Standards and Responsibility: An FYI Roundup

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Both yesterday and today, I have come upon an ever-growing stream of responses to the viral blog post, FYI (if you're a teenage girl). Some of them were so good I just couldn't leave them be without sharing them. So here, in this post, I'm going to offer a roundup of responses of sorts. Feel free to post additional responses you've come across in the comments, and I may add them here.First, of course, is my own post, FYI (A letter to my daughter Sally): Dear Sally,I saw something today … [Read more...]

FYI (A Letter to My Daughter Sally)

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Dear Sally,I saw something today that made me think of you. It was a blog post addressed to teenage girls. Oh I know, you're only four, but in ten years you'll be fourteen. It was that fourteen-year-old you I couldn't help but think of when I read this post, and inside, my heart broke for you.There will be adults in your world who are very concerned about what you wear and how you carry your body and what you do with it. There will be adults in your life who care more about whether you … [Read more...]

Bottling Up Your Emotions, Children Edition

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Have a look at this FAQ from a quiverfull blogger: How do you deal with (1) whining/complaining, (2) arguing with parental directions, (3) poor attitudes (sulking, etc.) in response to chores, food, parental decisions, etc., (4) tantrums.All of the above are a lot easier to avoid, than to deal with. We do not permit whining, complaining, arguing, sulking, tantrums, sibling fighting, rudeness, etc. We avoid them by teaching why such attitudes and behaviors are wrong, and then punishing them … [Read more...]

SMM: Chapter 5—Daughters with less-than-perfect Fathers

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A Guest Post by KateOriginally posted Time To Live, FriendFinally, now that we’re on chapter 5, the Botkins admit that there will be exceptions to their way of life.  What’s a girl to do if she has a bad father or if her father is not onboard with the whole stay-at-home daughter thing? What if she doesn’t have a father? Unfortunately, the Botkins have answers for you. “All fathers are less than perfect. So are all daughters. We can’t wait for our fathers to be perfect before we become th … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Definitional Discussions and Pavlov’s Dog

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To Train Up A Child, pp. 4---5 TRAINING, NOT DISCIPLINE"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Prov. 22:6)." Train up, not beat up. Train up, not discipline up. Train up, not educate up. Train up, not "positive affirmation" up. Training is the most obvious missing element in child rearing. Training is not discipline. A child will need more than "obedience training," but without it everything else will be insufficient. With all of Michael's … [Read more...]

Then Why Didn’t You Tell Us That, Mom?

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"I want you to know that I never actually believed everything in those Above Rubies magazines," my mom told me when I was visiting home a while back."Then why didn't you tell us that, mom?" I asked. "I read every issue of that magazine cover to cover, and I always thought it was completely approved material."I don't know why my mother made that admission to me when she did. It was before the Mother Jones article about Kathryn Joyce's new book on evangelical adoption, which sheds light on … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: More About Women’s Nature

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally post on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 35---38Last time, I started on Chapter 4, which begins a huge list of the reasons men need their wives.  Sometimes the text makes good points, yet the theme of every section seems to be something along the lines of "your wife needs you to need her.  Your wife's womanly nature (from God) makes her want to meet your (as a man) needs.  Let her. If you don't let your wife meet your needs, bad things wil … [Read more...]


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