Whose Job Is It to Educate?


Last week a commenter asked a question about being transgender. Some commenters answered her question, but others took her to task for asking the question in the first place. And indeed, in her comment she said that transition seemed unnecessary because gender is a construct and because individuals with eating disorders are encouraged to learn to accept their bodies rather than to change them. But later, she explained that she was 17 and outside of her parents' internet surveillance for the … [Read more...]

You Are Not Entitled to My Life

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Ever since reading her post about parents being "involved" in their adult children's romantic relationships, I've been bothered by a comment blogger That Mom left in her own comment section. In that comment, she condemned the "hands off" approach as unhealthy. Note that she's not talking about young children. She's talking about young adults. She argues that parents should be involved in every area of their young adult children's lives from careers to marriages.The thing is, I remember what … [Read more...]

Abortion Debates: Post #1


In the past, abortion debates have eaten threads and swallowed up the posts they're attached to. This crowds out discussion that pertains to the specific post topic rather than abortion in general, and it also can result in long and unwieldy comment sections that are difficult to navigate. This feature is designed as a solution to this problem. In the future, comment sections attached to posts on abortion should stick to discussion of the specific angle of the post, and general debating over abo … [Read more...]

Strong-Willed Child: Siggie the Dachshund


By VictoriaOriginally posted on Healing Victoria StrongThe Strong-Willed Child, pp. 11-15Warning: this section contains stories of animal abuse!!!So Dobson starts telling us about the number of pets his family has, and then he gets to Siggie the dog. If you’re familiar with Dobson at all, you’re probably somewhat aware of this story. Here is how he describes his dachshund Siggie: “Siggie is not only stubborn, but he doesn’t pull his own weight in the family. He won’t bring in the … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: Obey vs. Submit


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need a Help Meet, pp. 180-182This chapter is called Obey, Indeed?, and there's been some confusion-mostly due to Michael's writing-about the difference between obeying and submitting. However, say what you will about Michael, he is decent at solving problems that he creates. So sit back, relax, and enjoy the stirring difference between obeying and submitting. Your Helper, Not Your SlaveThe people at No Greater Joy work for me. … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which Shannon Smashes Her Husband’s Computer


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 255-258We're in a new chapter! It's titled "To Obey or Not to Obey (That is the Question)." The chapter starts with a long letter. Dear Pearls,About 6 months ago, I noticed that every evening my husband started going to our spare room to "work" on his computer. One of our younger daughters often cried when he was around, and so he said he was giving her space and trying to avoid upsetting her. Besides, he was tired and wanted some peace after working all … [Read more...]

So This Is Love


I recently came upon an article on the Gospel Coalition. In the article, evangelical writer Josh Bishop adjusting to life with a transgender brother. Begin with love. A Christian response must be rooted in love (Galatians 5:14), and the first step is to affirm that love directly and unconditionally. My immediate response—even before the shock had worn off—was to fire off a quick e-mail: “Heard the news and wanted to let you know I love you.” Later, I told Jessah that whether she identified as a … [Read more...]