SMM: Chapter 3—What Our Fathers Do for Us

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A Guest Post by KateOriginally posted Time To Live, Friend.I think the Botkin sisters introduce this chapter best: “Because the Bible doesn’t give a huge amount of instruction exclusively to fathers and daughters, most of what we have to work from are the passages setting the patterns for men and women in general” (23).Hm, maybe the fact that the bible doesn’t have a “huge amount of instruction” about fathers and daughters is a sign that they should stop making up stuff that the Bible does … [Read more...]

Abstinence: A Birth Control Method That Is 100% Effective?

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My viral post, How I Lost Faith in the Pro-Life Movement, is still generating regular new comments. Just the other week I got this line, for instance: The only birth control that's 100% effective? Abstinence. This is something I've run into a lot, and something I used to think myself. But it's wrong---and on several levels.First off, abstinence is not a birth control method. Let's start with an analogy. Imagine if you asked your friend told your friend you were going to be doing some … [Read more...]

Under Her Father’s Authority

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In many ways, my upbringing and background isn't that weird. Yes, I had twice as many siblings as most people have cousins, but in general my upbringing was very normal---for the evangelical subculture, that is. But when I tell people about my background, the thing that always trips them up is the part about unmarried adult daughters being under their fathers' authority, to the point of requiring complete submission and obedience. This is . . . weird, even for the evangelical world. But in the … [Read more...]

Guest Post: “You Are Not Your Own”: Unmarried Women Belong To Their Parents?

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A Guest Post by Sarah MoonOriginally posted on Sarah over the Moon, an awesome blog full of feminist analysis of evangelical culture***Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault***In case you haven’t been following my You Are Not Your Own series (you can catch up here), I analyzed four Christian dating books (Real Marriage, When God Writes Your Love Story, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, and Dateable) and I came up with four significant findings related to the area of rape and sexual a … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: In Which a Woman Dares to Assert Agency

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 138-139In this section, Debi tells a story. A few years ago, I attended a meeting with my husband where a group of leading men were discussing grave matters, trying to come to a conclusion as to what course of action they should take. The men sat in a circle, with their wives sitting beside or right behind them. Remember, in Debi's world the men do all the discussing and make all the decisions while the women sit quietly by smiling and nodding. Sitting across … [Read more...]

Because We Thought HSLDA Cared about Us

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A recent comment by J on Homeschoolers Anonymous' crosspost of my post about the Josh Powell story caught my eye. In general, I appreciate your efforts to lobby HSLDA to be more sensitive to issues like this, but I think it’s important to remember that HSLDA provides legal services and is bound by certain ethical and legal duties that could prevent it from expressing sympathy for Josh Powell. If HSLDA represents a party involved, they have an ethical responsibility not to make public statements … [Read more...]

Where Is Your Sense of Compassion, HSLDA?

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Josh Powell wanted to go to school so badly that he pleaded with local officials to let him enroll. He didn’t know exactly what students were learning at Buckingham County High School, in rural central Virginia, but he had the sense that he was missing something fundamental.By the time he was 16, he had never written an essay. He didn’t know South Africa was a country. He couldn’t solve basic algebra problems. So starts a recent Washington Post article about Virginia's religious exempt … [Read more...]


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