CTBHHM: Obey Your Husband so He Will Have Nothing to Beat Down

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 236---237I'll tell you right off that this section is a doozy. There is a lot to unpack here, and there are a lot of things that help explain where Debi is coming from when she writes what she does. This section may be triggering for survivors of abusive relationships. Dignity Befitting a QueenMy friend responded to her husband with dignity befitting a queen. He was proud of her beauty. He was proud of her dignity and poise. He was honored that such a … [Read more...]

On Masturbating without Lust

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Awkward as it may be, over the past several years I've written a number of posts on the impact of my upbringing, with its emphasis on sexual purity, on my sex life both past and present. This time I want to turn to a subject I don't believe I've explored yet, and that is my adolescent "struggles" and internal conflicts over masturbation.I've written before about the huge physical response physical touch evoked in my body when I first started dating. I've written, too, that early in my sex … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: The Most Difficult Review Yet

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By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 163---165Today's format is going to be slightly different. There are 2 letters, one from a "spotted bride", the other for her husband. Instead of going paragraph by paragraph and inserting commentary, I am going to type up the letters exactly how they appear in the book, and then talk about each one.I'm going to be honest, I had a hard, hard time writing this post, because it echoed my experience so … [Read more...]

Crosspost: What “Christian Patriarchy” Is Not

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By R.L. StollarOriginally posted on Homeschoolers Anonymous“Patriarchy” has suddenly become a dirty word in the homeschooling movement. Whereas a short while ago it was a badge of honor, a symbol of pure righteous manliness, now leaders are scrambling to distance themselves from this word. They are swearing left and right that they aren’t “it” and they never were “it” and gosh, why are people saying they are? They have been so gracious about “allowing” their daughters the privilege of wea … [Read more...]

In Which Christianity Today Goes Halfway (with gifs)

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A post about female masturbation recently appeared on Christianity Today's women's section. Christianity Today is generally more mainstream evangelical than my upbringing, so much so that I remember viewing it as somewhat liberal. This post, though, has had me questioning all of that.The basic gist is this---the author accepts that women are sexual and may turn to masturbation as an outlet for their sexual desire---something that is foreign to many evangelicals---but follows that up by … [Read more...]

Awesome Comment Award: “I Am Angry”

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From time to time, I try to post a comment I found particularly interesting, thought provoking, or meaningful. I haven't posted one in a while, but my readers leave so many insightful comments that I'm going to try to be more regular about it. Today's "awesome comment award" goes to Mythbri for a comment on the post where I shared my regrets about my teenage anti-equality activism. MythbriI'm sorry, too, Libby Anne, because I was raised to be a bigot, too, and I know that I hurt people … [Read more...]

I’m Sorry

These children remind me of me ten years ago.

I recently had occasion to visit my state's capital building. As I walked through those halls, with their pillars and arches, two thoughts burned themselves into my brain. First, the capital building seems smaller than it did the last time I was here, ten years ago. Second, I am sorry, so very sorry. Ten years ago I was a teenager, still in high school. Did I know what I was doing? We got up early that morning, that day ten years ago, and piled into our fifteen passenger van. My dad, five or … [Read more...]


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