CTNAHM: Love Never Enslaves!


By AlethaOriginally posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 177---178Today we're distinguishing between women being subservient to their husbands, and women being subservient to all men everywhere. Oh, and the fact that Michael thinks women and children deserve dignity. Cuz that was news to me. Domestic Subjection OnlyIn the Christian world there exists a general concept that women are privates walking among an equal number of generals, all of whom must be saluted … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: What about the Head Covering?

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 248---250Once again, Debi starts with a letter. Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,I wonder if you would explain to me just what it means when Scripture says that a woman should wear a covering. A good friend sent me a booklet called "Should She Be Veiled." God has convicted her about wearing a covering, and she wanted to share the joy of the covering with me. My husband things I am silly and refuses to even talk about the issue. He told me I could do what I … [Read more...]

Business as Usual for IBLP


Oh dear. The Board of Directors for the Institute for Basic Life Principles, formerly run by Bill Gothard, has released a statement, and it's not good. In fact, they can't even bring themselves to admit what happened---and nor can Gothard himself. Dear Friends and Supporters,We are grateful for your prayers and patience as we have all walked through these difficult months. As Board members, each of us has been positively impacted by the relationships, teachings, and opportunities available … [Read more...]

When Evangelicalism Makes Things Easy for Sexual Offenders—and Hard for Their Victims

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Evangelical teachings on repentance and forgiveness create a tremendous problem when it comes to rape or other forms of abuse. If you commit a sin and repent of it, God forgives you. I remember hearing Psalm 103:12 quoted constantly: "As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us." Of course, this was always said in a positive way---isn't it awesome that God forgives us no matter what? But it doesn't must mean God forgives us. It also means God forgives … [Read more...]

“Modest Is Hottest” and Girls’ Self-Confidence


By now, you've probably heard "modest is hottest" thrown around like a mantra. There are "modest is hottest" fashion shows and "modest is hottest" conferences for girls. It's about time I weighed in.Frankly, I'm conflicted. When I was a teen striving to dress modestly, I struggled with body image. I covered my body in baggy clothing. I felt unattractive, and that affected how I carried and viewed myself. So I like the idea that in many churches girls like I was are now being encouraged to … [Read more...]

The Female Body, a Source of Contamination


I recently came upon a blog post titled "How the Modesty Police Are Hurting My Son," in which blogger Ami writes about trying to teach her son that he is responsible for his own actions even as those around her tell him that girls are responsible for covering up so as to "protect" him. As I looked through the mostly positive comments on her post, I was struck by this one: I think it’s great that you teach your child all these things---and I think it’s great that parents teach their children mod … [Read more...]

The Other Stories


Have you ever read a books where each chapter is written from the perspective of a single character? Some of the ones that are most well written are such that you start to notice inconsistencies, things that don't quite fit, because what you are hearing is that character's spin. Gradually you start to get the hang of which characters are most trustworthy, and which characters you should suspect of spin from the first sentence.I was reminded of this genre when thinking once again over the … [Read more...]