God, Humanity, Depravity, and Self Esteem

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The conservative evangelicalism in which I grew up requires that in order for people to be saved, they must admit that they are in and of themselves utterly lost and sinful and deserving of eternal torture. Within this conception, it's not surprising that the idea of "self esteem" should be suspect. I recently came upon a blog post by a conservative evangelical blogger arguing just that.God has created each individual to be exactly what he or she is: a marvelously-crafted bearer of … [Read more...]

Bearing Babies for God

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I was struck by a recent article in the conservative evangelical magazine Boundless. It was called Why Have Babies? What struck me were the reasons the author gave, and must how much these reasons undergird so much of what I saw growing up in a Christian homeschool family.Good Reasons to Have Babies The world says babies are expensive, that they diminish your happiness, and that they limit your spontaneity. They are, they do, and they will — just like a whole host of other things (some wor … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Only Ever Think Good

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 128-132In this section Debi goes into more depth about just what "reverencing" one's husband actually looks like in practice. Her focus in this section is on thought patterns---basically, she argues that women should brainwash themselves into only ever thinking good of their husbands. Debi starts by outlining what she argues is a common problem for her intended audience: In our own strength, we women tend to have minds like old LP records that are scratched. … [Read more...]

Homeschool Debate and Growing Up in a Conservative Bubble

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As I prepared my debate briefs, scouring the internet for evidence, there were two places I always looked first—the Cato Institute and the Heritage Foundation. A good quote or two that could be applied in argument against a given plan was generally sufficient for my purposes. I filed my briefs carefully in my box and prepared for competition.I honestly think my participation in NCFCA, known colloquially as “homeschool debate,” was the best thing about my high school years. I participated for … [Read more...]

Life Is a Journey; Or, How Beliefs Change

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I was struck recently by a post by Latebloomer of Past Tense Present Progressive. In that post she detailed her journey from fundamentalist Christian to agnostic, describing it as follows: For as long as I've had an identity, it has been wrapped up in the word "Christian", specifically the fundamentalist variety.  I wanted my relationship with Jesus to completely consume me and leave me with no other identity and no errant belief.  My entire life would be spent in gratitude to God for saving me … [Read more...]

A Mannequin Like Me

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I recently had a need for some new professional clothing, and I went from shop to shop in the local mall looking at my options. In every store window were mannequins, white and plastic and slender.Not like me. I'm big boned and curvy. Every time I would see a cute outfit, I would find that when I tried it on it looked nothing like it had on the mannequin.But then, I was so used to seeing mannequins like these---tall and skinny---that I directed my annoyance at my body, not at the … [Read more...]

Dear Abby Responds to an Isolated Homeschooler

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Here is an installment in Dear Abby column from last week: DEAR ABBY: I'm a 16-year-old girl. I am home-schooled with one friend. I'm lonely, sad, mad and depressed. I have always wanted to go to a real school, but it's not an option for me. My parents are against it.I am always lonely. I don't know where to turn. I want to meet new people, but I don't know how, or if my parents will let me do new things. I have been cutting myself for more than a year and have lost all motivation to do my … [Read more...]


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