What Heather Suffered at Bill Gothard’s Hands

I recently read what is I think the most moving story I have read yet on the Bill Gothard scandal. In it a young woman, who goes by Heather, tells her story, written in the form of a letter to Gothard. Gothard began an inappropriate physical relationship with her when she was eleven---eleven---but that was really only the beginning. Honestly, from reading Heather's story, I get the feeling that she doesn't feel that the footsie at age 11 or the caressing and feeling-up at age 15 was the worst … [Read more...]

In Defense of Theistic Evolution

Last week, Greta Christina wrote a post titled "Why You Can't Reconcile God and Evolution." It was this piece that inspired yesterday's post, in which I argued that Christianity is a complex and varied tradition that does in fact leave room for reconciling God and evolution, Christian faith and feminism, and the Bible and LGTBTQ rights. I also argued that trying to winnow away at that middle ground---those who embrace faith but also acceptance, equality, and the scientific method---runs the risk … [Read more...]

On Creation, Evolution, and Criticizing Progressive Christianity

From time to time, I hear other atheists saying that cannot reconcile God and evolution, or Christianity and feminism, or the Bible and gay rights. Now first of all, I actually think you can do all of those things. I worry that atheists sometimes read fundamentalists' approach to the Bible onto all Christians when in practice there are a variety of ways of approaching, understanding, and interpreting the Bible. In fact, the fundamentalist approach to the Bible is actually fairly new to the … [Read more...]

Israel Wayne on the (Patriarchal) Father’s Role

Israel Wayne is supposed to be a voice of reason in the Christian homeschooling community. A homeschool graduate himself, and now a homeschool father, he travels the convention circuit and has written blog posts criticizing various patriarchal homeschool leaders. It's a pity he's unaware that he is himself one of those patriarchal homeschool leaders.Unless you’ve been living under a rock lately, you’ve heard the smash pop hit, “Rude” by the group Magic!. It speaks about a young man, seeking p … [Read more...]

Guest Post: I Am Not Planning on Being a Stay-at-Home Mom (part I)

Originally posted on I Turn and Burn I was never planning on being a stay at home mom. When I was a kid, the thing I wanted to be when I grow up changed almost daily and there were so many possibilities, so many dreams that I had and I always just assumed that I would become everything. When my gymnastics coaches were mean to me, I would think “when I’m a gymnastics coach, I’m not going to act like that.” When I had to sit in the waiting room at the doctor’s office, I would think “when I’m a doc … [Read more...]

Strong-Willed Child: Comically Absurd Examples of “Willful Defiance”

By VictoriaOriginally posted on Saving Victoria StrongThe Strong-Willed Child, chapter 1, pp. 18-19And now Dobson shall whine about “the experts” again. “Let me repeat my observation that the most popular textbooks for parents and teachers fail even to acknowledge that parenthood involves a struggle or contest of wills.” And let me repeat my observations that parenthood doesn’t involve a contest of wills unless you want it to. You do have the option to accept your child for who they … [Read more...]

Protecting Your Marriage from Adultery

Guest Post by MeganOriginally posted on Public QuestionI feel the need to respond to something that’s popped up in my newsfeed several times. Before I launch into my response, I want to clarify some things: This is not an attack on Danielle, who seems to make people happy with her writing. This is not an attack on Christianity.This is an attack on the insidious way patriarchy—a human-made system & an ideology that is unbelievably insidious, invading even our most intimate act … [Read more...]