Talking to Our Sons—and Daughters—about Rape

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I just read an article by Carina Kolodny called The Conversations You Must Have with Your Sons. I found it so good that I wanted to excerpt it here and then open the floor. None of the ideas presented here are particularly new to me, but I thought Kolodny pulled them together quite well. To the Parents of U.S. Teenagers,(An open letter.)Remember that intimate conversation you had with your son? The one where you said, "I love you and I need you to know that no matter how a woman dresses … [Read more...]

Guest Post: A Courtship Story, Part 5: Will You Marry Me?

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A Guest Post by MelissaOriginally posted on Permission to LiveNote: I’m reposting Melissa’s series, originally written in February 2011, with her permission. Why now? Put simply, because it was one of the first things that came to my mind when I heard about Jessa Duggar courting. This is something I wish she could read. This is for Jessa. For all the posts in this series, click here.  Two days later, I was allowed to drive over to “Hunk’s” house for the first time (with a sister a … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Don’t Talk to Me about Pain!

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 168---170We're still in Debi's chapter on love sex, remember. In case you're wondering, there will be two more weeks of devoted to this chapter. Next week will cover a few more letters from fans, and the week after will cover "sexual perversions." So, let's get started on this week's section! Trigger warning for abuse and marital rape. In this section, Debi explains sex and men's need for it---and women's "duty" to provide it---and it's not pretty. God made … [Read more...]

About That Viral Modesty Video, “Virtue”

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As I watched the opening of this viral video, "Virtue," I was excited.Why was I excited? Well, the opening lines go like this: Dressing modest. We know it's rough. When the world's making it so tough. It was all guys! Finally, an equal opportunity video with guys singing about their personal challenges adhering to proper modest standards! Yes, I'm against modesty standards being applied to guys just as I'm against them being applied to girls, but I'm still excited when I actually see … [Read more...]

The Homosexual Deathstyle; or, A Fixation on Gay Sex

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A couple years back, I watched a documentary called For the Bible Tells Me So, which looks at five Christian families with gay or lesbian children. Something one of the mothers said really struck me. She said that after her daughter first came out, and introduced her girlfriend, all she could think about was her daughter and her girlfriend having sex, and how disgusting that was. She said that over time, she was able to make a sort of peace with her daughter because she began to see more than … [Read more...]

I Was Ugly (and I Knew It): Evangelical Beauty Standards

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I was ugly, and I knew it. I was chubby, I had dark hair growing on my upper lip and between my eyebrows, and my breasts were too big. I was only fifteen years old, but already I knew that I did not look pretty and feminine like Good Christian Women are supposed to look. I was told that outward appearances did not matter, that it was what was inside that mattered, but then the women who gave testimonials at church or were otherwise held up as examples of Good Christian Women all exuded a sort of … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: How Michael Turns Debi On

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally Posted on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 55---57Alrighty!  We are finally at the section we have all been waiting for.  I hope you guys are ready for this. I Need My Wife to Meet My Erotic DesiresI am not a sex therapist and don't want to be. So I'm not going to say all that needs to be said, not here and not in response to any letters you write.  But we are going to view the subject through a window of light and hope.  Read the scri … [Read more...]


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