SMM: Chapter 5—Daughters with less-than-perfect Fathers

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A Guest Post by KateOriginally posted Time To Live, FriendFinally, now that we’re on chapter 5, the Botkins admit that there will be exceptions to their way of life.  What’s a girl to do if she has a bad father or if her father is not onboard with the whole stay-at-home daughter thing? What if she doesn’t have a father? Unfortunately, the Botkins have answers for you. “All fathers are less than perfect. So are all daughters. We can’t wait for our fathers to be perfect before we become th … [Read more...]

TTUAC: Definitional Discussions and Pavlov’s Dog

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To Train Up A Child, pp. 4---5 TRAINING, NOT DISCIPLINE"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Prov. 22:6)." Train up, not beat up. Train up, not discipline up. Train up, not educate up. Train up, not "positive affirmation" up. Training is the most obvious missing element in child rearing. Training is not discipline. A child will need more than "obedience training," but without it everything else will be insufficient. With all of Michael's … [Read more...]

Then Why Didn’t You Tell Us That, Mom?

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"I want you to know that I never actually believed everything in those Above Rubies magazines," my mom told me when I was visiting home a while back."Then why didn't you tell us that, mom?" I asked. "I read every issue of that magazine cover to cover, and I always thought it was completely approved material."I don't know why my mother made that admission to me when she did. It was before the Mother Jones article about Kathryn Joyce's new book on evangelical adoption, which sheds light on … [Read more...]

CTNAHM: More About Women’s Nature

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A Guest Post by AlethaOriginally post on Yllom MormonCreated To Need A Help Meet, pp. 35---38Last time, I started on Chapter 4, which begins a huge list of the reasons men need their wives.  Sometimes the text makes good points, yet the theme of every section seems to be something along the lines of "your wife needs you to need her.  Your wife's womanly nature (from God) makes her want to meet your (as a man) needs.  Let her. If you don't let your wife meet your needs, bad things wil … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Talk To Your Husband about How You Feel? Ha!

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Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 147-148This chapter starts out fairly tame by Debi's standards . . . and then turns into a train reck before you have a chance to so much as blink. As a reminder, Debi is now going through the various character traits that Titus 2 instructs the older women to teach to the younger women. This installment begins Debi's chapter titled "To Be Sober." A sober wife is one who faces the fact that she is no longer a freewheeling individual, with time to do as she … [Read more...]

A Few Leave . . . but Others Stay

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I recently read a post by Lana that made me think about everyone I left behind when I left my conservative evangelical patriarchal homeschool upbringing. With all the [ex] conservative homeschooler blogs out there nowadays, people may be under the impression that homeschool fundamentalism has virtually disappeared among homeschool alumni. To be sure, this Christian movement among homeschool graduates is dying a very slow and painful death. But it is so far from over, and I have so many friends … [Read more...]

The Lesson of the 2013 MTV VMAs: Being Sexual While Female Is Worse Than Being Rapey or Racist

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So. Miley Cyrus. It seems she sang a song at the 2013 MTV VMAs.Mostly I've just been watching the multiple conversations going on about Miley's performance. But since the discussion hasn't shown any signs of letting up yet, I thought I'd dip my toe in. But since so much has been said already, I want to do so by highlighting some of the work of others, and also by opening the floor for commenters to post additional articles they thought were particularly thought-provoking---or particularly … [Read more...]


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