CTBHHM: (Misplaced) Hope for an Abused Woman


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 232---236Remember that we are in the chapter on wives being "obedient" to their husbands. This section is titled "How to Win Your Lost Husband," and begins by quoting a letter she received. Dear Pearls, My husband is lost. He is full of anger. I feel hopeless of ever having a heavenly marriage. Has anyone ever emerged from the gloom and doom I am now in and achieved a heavenly marriage? Does God in his grace and mercy have a plan and promise on how to … [Read more...]

Help Sharon Win a Scholarship!


I recently received an email from Sharon, who has a request. She would like you to vote for her in order to help her win a scholarship. It's easy---just click through and vote for her essay. Below is Sharon's email. Hi Libby Anne! I'm an ATI student survivor.  I didn't attend college back when I was 18 because it was all but forbidden by Gothard.  I'm finally out of the cult (as I now realize it is) and working hard at putting my life together.  College is something I know I need to do, so I … [Read more...]

Why Does Purity Culture Leave out Consent?


Samantha Field recently wrote two posts on consent on her blog, Defeating the Dragons. She was seeking to answer a question: Why evangelical purity advocates seem unable to talk about consent except to mock it. I found her insights incredibly insightful. (And this isn't an aberration for Samantha---she's brilliant and has an incredibly moving story and you should all read her blog.)In her first post, Samantha wrote that: They don’t teach consent because teaching consent would undermine one o … [Read more...]

In Which I Explain Easter to Sally


We saw my family over the Easter holiday, and in preparation I wanted to make sure Sally knew the Easter story. She already knew pieces, and as I helped pull it together I was trying to figure out how to bridge fact and fiction, or at least what scholars think happen historically and what exists in the grey area beyond that."These stories were all written down a very long time ago," I told her. "Sometimes with things written a long time ago it can be had to tell what part happened and what … [Read more...]

I Just Wanted Someone to Take Care of Me

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I remember feeling very sorry for my brothers as a child. They would have to grow up to work a job and support a family. They would have to be the one in front with the baseball bat if there was a home intrusion. They would have to make the big, scary decisions. Not me. I would be taken care of. I would stay at home and read books to my children, plant an herb garden and sew new dresses, read my Bible in the early morning and obey my husband. Unlike them, you see, I was a girl.I liked the … [Read more...]

Is the Christian Homeschool World Really Changing?

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Things are changing in the Christian homeschooling world. Vision Forum has fallen and ATI is shaken. People are talking, really talking, and the narratives are shifting.Some are still resisting this conversation. They claim that Doug Phillips' fall had nothing to do with his patriarchal ideology. With both Phillips and Gothard, they argue, the problem was with the leader, not the belief system. These claims are dispiriting, because in some sense these leaders are interchangeable. Old ones … [Read more...]

Upworthy, Duke, and Ableist Slurs

Gay and Stupid

I recently came upon an Upworthy article that asked the following question: Which one of these is not like the others: 1. That's so dumb. 2. That's so stupid. 3. That's so annoying. 4. That's so gay.To me the answer was obvious: The first two are ableist slurs and the last one is a homophobic slur. Only the third one does not personal characteristics like sexual orientation or physical or mental normatively as derogatory slurs. Given this introduction, I assumed the article as going to … [Read more...]