Anonymous Tip: In Which Dr. McGuire Cackles

If Farris wanted to present this story that could happen “to anyone,” he would have been better off leaving out the bribery and over-the-top corruption. He could have made this book much more powerful by focusing on the ways good intentions held by good people can go wrong. Or he could have had the psychologist object to Gwen’s spanking and parenting patterns, but without the bribery. But a cackling psychologist who takes bribes? That feels much more like the subject of a book than the subject of real life. Read more

Evangelical Author Shaunti Feldhahn’s Misleading Work on Marriage and Divorce

The issue is not that divorce rates were never close to 50% but rather that they’ve come down, thanks to feminism (or rather, thanks to changing patterns and approaches to marriage). But you’re not going to see that in Feldhahn’s book. There is a lot of really good really interesting sociological research out there on marriage and divorce, but the Christian press’s misleading portrayal of Feldhahn’s book as authoritative because it’s written by a Harvard-trained expert will make evangelicals only less likely read any of that. Read more

When Positive Parenting Doesn’t “Work”

If all you’re after is obedience, corporal punishment is probably your best bet. But if your goal centers more on acting with compassion, kindness, and understanding, and on teaching those traits to your children, obedience becomes less important. Don’t get me wrong, this can make parenting frustrating—sometimes very frustrating. I really wanted that nap the other weekend. But when it comes down to it, I would rather treat my child with kindness and miss a much-desired nap than use force to bend my child to my will and get that sleep. Read more

No, the African American Womb Is Not More Dangerous Today than during Slavery

This entire conversation ignores the fact that it is absurd to compare abortion and child fatality, because aborted fetuses (remember that the vast majority of abortions occur during the first trimester) never have a conscious thought and thus don’t know what is lost, and women who have abortions do not typically suffer the heartrending horror of losing a child. Any attempt to compare abortion today to the absolute horror of antebellum slavery is absurd to the extreme. The only reason I took the time to lay out the numbers in this post is that I wanted to show that Wilson loses even on the terrain he has set up. Read more

Lesbian Duplex 26: An Open Thread

Time for another Lesbian Duplex thread! Read more

Anonymous Tip: Questioning Officers and Selective Terror

At long last, it is now Thursday. As you will remember, the hearing at which Gwen lost custody of Casey took place on Tuesday morning. Gwen got a new lawyer, Peter, at midday, and Peter spent the rest of the day running around learning about the case. On Wednesday Peter called an ex parte hearing asking to have Casey examined by a second psychologist, one of his choice. This hearing was successful. And now it is Thursday. Read more

Ariel Bradley: Christian Homeschooler, ISIS Bride

Even the radicalization Ariel experienced doesn’t feel that unfamiliar. Ariel and her husband joined ISIS, which has gained followers by promising to create a truly Muslim caliphate. My involvement in conservative politics as a youth and young adult had similar motivations. I don’t want to overstate the similarities here—the radicalization that occurs within fundamentalist Christianity tends to be far less violent—but I do want to point out that the feelings are often similar. And it is perhaps because I remember those feelings that I feel like I understand Ariel, however much I may disagree with her. Read more

Dear Adam: Being Gay Is Not Just about Sex

There’s a comic going around titled “If you’re gay, I want you to know that I don’t hate you,” by comic artist Adam Ford. In it the author explains that everyone sins, and sexual sin of any sort keeps people from God, and actually he loves gay people and doesn’t hate them at all and that’s why he’s telling them this. I’m not going to go through the whole thing (it’s lengthy), but I do want to touch on a few points. Read more

Child Development, Jumping Frogs, and Evading Dinosaurs

We went camping earlier this year. You know, the lovely peaceful sort of camping at an out-of-the way campsite, with hikes, ‘smores, and afternoon naps in the tent. Well. Sort of. One afternoon as we all lay down in the tent for a nap, three-year-old Bobby decided he was a frog. He had walked quite a bit on our hike that morning and ought to have been tired out, but kids are nothing if not unpredictable. Six-year-old Sally decided she would… Read more

“Some Responsibility”: Evangelicals’ Shifting LGBT Rhetoric

In calling evangelicals to remember their homophobic past, Noble fails to grapple with evangelicals’ homophobic present. This problem is going to become only more common as an increasing number of evangelicals present themselves the way Noble does, insisting that they feel nothing but love and goodwill toward gay and lesbian individuals and acting shocked and incensed when they are accused of bigotry. Surely not, they say! Not us! We evangelicals love love love gay people and have not a single iota of ill will in our bones! First of all, no. And second of all, no. Read more

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