Doug Wilson and the “Gaylag Archipelago”


When a federal judge struck down Idaho's gay marriage ban last week, fellow blogger Kathryn Elizabeth tweeted the news at Christian pastor and author Douglas Wilson. Wilson is well known for his anti-gay views, and he and Kathryn Elizabeth have sparred over the issue before. Wilson's response won't be a surprise to anyone familiar with his work, but it illustrates a problem among religious opponents of LGBTQ rights.Yes, you read that right---Wilson is worried about being sent off to "Gaylag … [Read more...]

Crosspost: A Letter to Our Parents


By DarcyOriginally posted on Darcy's Heart StirringsDear Parents,I'm in several online groups consisting of thousands of the homeschool alumni of my generation, the "Joshua Generation", the products of the Christian homeschooling pioneers. And one major theme going on in our conversations right now is an overwhelming frustration that we cannot talk to our parents. We cannot be real with you. We want a relationship but don't know how to get past the mental and emotional walls you have … [Read more...]

The Numbers on the Scale


I was incredulous as I stared down at the number. My brother-in-law's scale must be broken, I concluded. There was no way I weighed more now than I did when I was nine months pregnant with my son. A week later I found myself on a scale again, curious. This time it was a scale at my parents' house. And there they were---the same numbers.I weigh more today than I did before giving birth to Bobby two years ago. I got rid of my scale several years ago. In fact, until last week I hadn't been o … [Read more...]

The “United” Front?


One of the first parenting blogs I read was Dulce de Leche. Dulce also grew up homeschooled and had a similar transformation to my own. Her children are some years older than my own, and reading her positive parenting posts were transformative to me as a new and questioning mother. Since those early years, Dulce and I have become friends, and we now message each other now and again about this or that, and watch each other's children grow.Anyway, I've been wanting to write for a while about … [Read more...]



I suppose I should have expected this when I posted several days ago about seeing an offensive sexist shirt at my local YMCA. Some MRAs descended on the post's comment thread and everything went downhill from there. It's worth taking a moment to do some housekeeping and lay down a few ground rules.First, do not flag comments frivolously. If a commenter violates my comment policy, please inform them that they have done so and that further violations will be flagged and could lead to banning. … [Read more...]

Seven Phases of a Godly (Gothard) Courtship


So I'm going to dip my toes into Bill Gothard's Advanced Seminar Textbook once again, this time looking at a section titled "Seven Phases of a Godly Courtship" (pages 160---164). This, too, is a teaching I am unfamiliar with. Yes, I was taught courtship, but without specific "phases."Gothard uses the story of Ruth and Boaz to illustrate his seven phases, holding their story up as an example of a godly courtship. This seems odd, given that their story was a bit of a special circumstance. (If … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Speak No Evil of Anyone, Ever


Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 238---240This section, titled "Another Kind of Anger," is kind of all over the place. Remember that last week Debi told her readers that men are prone to sudden anger and that wives should take care not to provoke that anger in their husbands, and not to let it bother them when their husbands go off on them. In this section, Debi deals with what she calls "bitter" anger. However, as we shall see, this section is a bit confusing as she goes back and forth … [Read more...]