Does God Approve of Kitchen Countertops?

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeI've had a hard time keeping my mouth shut lately in regards to the total and complete hypocrisy of Quiverful/Evangelical female cultural enforcer Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife.Lori has recently been martyrbating over the fact that many of us resist her theology, mistakenly claiming that anyone not lining up with her claims hates her. … [Read More...]

Don’t Sleep With Men to Keep Their Sperm Out of Your Brain?

This was just so bizarre a claim and attempted shaming of any woman that has had sex outside of marriage that I had to share it here. Not sure if the author is religious or Quiverfull. Clearly the site Your News Wire.com is a click-baity fake news site, but I find it interesting that they would attempt to push a lie that I feel pretty certain that Tim Bayly, Doug Wilson et al will attempt to latch on to  justify their slut-shaming words. This has very important ramifications for women. Every male you absorb spermatazoa from becomes a living part of you for life. The women autopsied in this study were elderly. Some had been carrying the living male DNA inside them for well over 50 y … [Read More...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – What To Do In An Awkward Situation?

This letter is another one of those problems that oh so rarely occur with people outside of cult isolation. Usually people get plenty of time to learn how to deal with crushes, interacting with a former curse and how to navigate gracefully those awkward situations. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Build a Good Relationship With Your Child Before Abuse?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Two-Brained KidEditor's note: Oddly enough in the last bit of this of mules and children Michael never goes to his obvious usual solution - beating the mule/child to make them behave. This is one of those rare Pearl pieces where Michael gives non-toxic advice. Yes, it is important to establish a good relationship with your children, but that does not include physical violence, the thing lurking just below the surface in Pearlworld. … [Read More...]

Jodi Heckert Pledged to Protect His Daughter’s Virginity, Now in Prison for Child Molestation

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserJodi Heckert and his daughter appeared in a June 14, 2014 Slate Magazine article titled “Striking Portraits of Fathers and the Daughters Whose Virginity They’ve Pledged to Protect.” (While Heckert’s daughter is now an adult, I have decided to not publish her name.) The story features the photography of David Magnusson. As a photographer, I found Magnusson’s work to be stunning (and creepily disturbing), but I do wonder, based on several of his quotes in the article, if Magnusson really understands the American purity culture. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Michael Pearl Confuses Mules and Children?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Two-Brained KidEditor's note: Michael Pearl shows that he knows as much about mules as he does about children in this confusing piece where he equates mule training and child training as one in the same and does injustice to the nature of both. I hope he has no access to poor mules! … [Read More...]

Questioning the Pearls – Modesty is Everyone’s Issue

This may well be another of those faux Pearl letters just written to make a point. The letter writer says that if a man has lust problems, that they are his problems. A 'ministry supporter' claims that it's everyone elses responsibility to make sure men aren't tempted with the penis-demon. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sexual Abuse Victims – Final Advice

by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog - When Your Kayak is SmallEditor's note: More Doug Wilson word salad that makes zero sense in light of the life of recovery from sexual abuse. I think, I hope at least, that this might be the final episode of Wilson's toxic advice. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hated For Speaking ‘The Truth’?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - My Viral PostEditor's note: Hola! I'm now in the tiny town of Copey Costa Rica, in the mountains south of San Jose. I haven't thought about Lori's nonsense for days now, except when snickering imagining just how hard and quick she would abandon the idea of total complete submission if her husband Ken were to order her to join him in a Peace Corp installation in a third world country like I have done. I'm betting that where the rubber meets the road she'd abandon her principles. … [Read More...]

Questioning the Pearls: Gender Role Reversals?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull – Wives Throw Temper Tantrums?

by Ken Alexander on his wife Lori's blog The Transformed Wife - One Long Temper TantrumEditor's note: Notice as he speaks about counseling the husband of a 'bitter' wife that not once does he say one thing about how the husband might possibly be failing in his job of being a husband. Oh no, it's all about demonizing the wife and coming up with dehumanizing phrasing to reduce women to something less than men, less human and more child like. Hate just drips off both Lori and Ken, certainly no love, mercy or compassion. Toxic advice from toxic people just leads to the creation of more toxic people. … [Read More...]

Part 1 Chapter 7 – Before You Meet Prince Charming

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotations from the book in blue text.This chapter promises to show us how parents can help young women during their wait for Prince Charming.  I'm skeptical about this chapter since the King and Queen have provided precious little support or help to their daughter so far in the book. … [Read More...]