My Healing Continues

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIn recent years, I've become accustomed to certain people pretending that I don't exist. If I won't shut up and go away or roll over and play dead, the only option left, apparently, is for them to refuse to acknowledge my existence.There was a time when it used to upset me. Eventually, I got to a place where it mostly amused me. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Moments of Frustration are ‘Temper Tantrums’?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - His Wife Had a Temper TantrumEditor's note: I don't know what's worse about this piece, the nasty abusive-looking graphic she uses of a woman with a raised fist, or the idea later in the unquoted bits of this piece that having a bad moment of frustration that boils out like this is somehow the same as a temper tantrum a child might throw. That graphic, I cannot get over it, feels abusive. Her advice that you should just put up with any old behavior from your husband without saying a word is equally toxic. In a good marriage there is room for disagreement and discussion and even grace for very bad moments when you lose it like this. … [Read More...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Question For Married Ladies

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Girls Should Be Meek, Mild and QUIET!?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Terrible Advice For GirlsEditor's note: Lori is reacting to a screen shot going around Facebook from Instagram that I have posted below. The advice given is pretty decent because it advises girls to have healthy boundaries, to say no when the situation warrants it, to get messy, dirty, loud, and to have some fun in this life. All the things that clearly would make Lori Alexander and all the other good female cultural enforcers lose their freaking minds. Cannot have girls speaking their minds, laughing loudly or wearing their hair as they please now can we? … [Read More...]

News: Jinger Duggar Officially Engaged

It's all over the internet, not just on the tabloid sites, that Jeremy Vuolo has asked Jinger Duggar to marry him and she has accepted his proposal. All wonderfully timed for the second season of the new Duggar television show 'Counting On'.More from USA Today: … [Read More...]

The Do-Nothing God

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserYesterday, a two-year-old (some reports say the child was three) boy died after his parents left him in the car while they attended an afternoon worship service at Rehoboth Praise Assembly in East Dallas, Texas. Forty-five minutes into the worship service, the boy’s parents realized that they had left him in the car. Sadly, it was too late. The one hundred degree Texas heat had rendered the boy unconscious. He was pronounced dead later that night at a local hospital. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Worship Your Husband?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - Should a Christian Wife Worship Her Husband?Editor's note: Part of me feels almost sorry for Larry because his constant harping on how wives are supposed to be ultra-submissive to their husbands and all his focus on worship and sex sounds more like bitter self justifications or perhaps the stuff of fantasies instead of his daily reality. Another case of a weak wimpy manboy perhaps instead of real advice from a patriarch? Respecting someone is vastly different than worshiping them. … [Read More...]

Redeeming Love Review – Introduction

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI had a root canal this morning and my copy of Francine River’s Redeeming Love hasn’t arrived yet, so today is just going to serve as an introduction. In case you’ve never heard of the book before I mentioned it as an option for me to review a while ago, here’s the summary from the back: … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Koran and the Bible Teach the Same Gender Roles?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles -Biblical Gender Roles Vs Quranic Gender RolesEditor's note: This is from the top most piece at Larry's site if you want to read it in it's entirety. To condense it down Larry spends many paragraphs trying to prove that the Quran is a false off shoot of the Bible, that Mohammad was wrong and every other horrible conclusion that Good Christian Patriarchs love to trot out about Islam and Muslims before saying that they did get the idea of gender roles 100% right. That's some mighty theological Twister playing there on Larry's behalf. … [Read More...]

If You Expect Real Respect

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The ShepherdIf you expect real respect, show your strength, not your power. Lead with your character, not your charisma.  Cultivate your inner integrity, not your outer image.  Admit your weaknesses; don't pretend perfection.  Be tender-hearted yet tough enough to endure; don't be bitter or brittle.  Motivate with inspiration, not manipulation.  Leaders listen. … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Listening to Adults Argue More Scarring Than Spankings?

by Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy - Yes! I Am NormalEditor's note: Michael and Debi Pearl trot out their daughter to defend them against critics who say their child training book 'To Train Up A Child" is toxic. Not realizing that grown ups married to one another can disagree seems pretty awful. Image the tension in any household where the parents are not free enough to not agree always. That cannot be emotionally healthy either. … [Read More...]

Examining ATI Wisdom Booklets: Part 2 Booklet 1 – Medical Portion – Fight or Flight

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThis post is seven pages long and graphics heavy:Today, we learn about the fight-or-flight response.  Well, kind of.I taught a basic (~9th grade) human anatomy course for 5 years in various formats.  ATI/ATIA has taken on a huge subject in this section.  To effectively describe how the adrenal glands work, the students need to have a solid understanding of the divisions of the nervous system, how different sections of the brain work, … [Read More...]