Strategic Wisdom, Cognitive Bias and Poker

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace used with permission.Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at stimulating thought and self awareness as tools to help those in recovery from trauma learn how to make safer choices. To make the discussion more jocular, we've defined Cognitive Biases as “CranioRectal Inversions” (CRI). … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Men Need to Help Women?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Appreciating Your HusbandEditor's note: This is a good example of thinking your way is the only right way. In the unquoted bit Lori starts off with a story about the television show 'Candid Camera' before awkwardly seguing into men going to war, her bad neck and lifting up that case of Costco toilet paper. Some women can pick up things just as heavy as men and it does not make them any less women. Some men cannot do that. Again, it does not affect their status as men. Ridiculous point here. … [Read More...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I’ve Made Mistakes But Can’t Get Past Them

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Any Teaching Woman Not Lori Alexander is a Jezebel?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - The Jezebels Among UsEditor's note: I am starting to wonder if Ms. Alexander is going into NLQ to read daily because the last three or four postings of hers sound very much like responses to something posted earlier than week. Example: Remember the long series last week when her idol Debi Pearl explained her thoughts on Jezebel women? This is the result. … [Read More...]

News: Josh Duggar Lawsuit Update

Remember those photos that Josh Duggar used in his Ashley Madison account and his other online dating sites that were not him? The owner of the photos has been reported months ago that he was filing a law suit against Josh because he has been harassed and lost jobs since the scandal emerged. Matt McCarthy did finally file and Josh was served at his employer - a used car dealership on March 13th. In Touch has copies of the filing. This mess goes to trial on May 15, 2017.It will be interesting to see if this suddenly all goes away without a court case, like it did with Danica Dillon suing Josh for sexual abuse. What are the odds on a payoff before trial date?Stay in touch! Like No … [Read More...]

Bruce, You Were No Good as a Pastor and You Hurt Our Family

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Sharing this because it's healing to see someone who held a position of spiritual authority who is actually open to saying how sorry they are for the damage they caused, either directly or inadvertently. Most of us will never receive that 'Sorry' that we're owed by the one person that was charged with being out shepherd and with our care. Kudos to you. Bruce!Today, a man who says his name is Andrew Beltz, left a troubling comment on the Why I Hate Jesus post. Beltz wrote: … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Treat Women Like Guns?

by Sundance at I Want You To Be Andrew Breitbart - Yes Hillary, and Democrats, Our Children Are Watching....Editor's note: Found this when I was taking a look at disgusting semi-perv Minthegap's various sites. Remember Min, the man that had all those revealing photos of teenage girls at his site No idea if this guy he's quoted is QF or not, but this is exactly the type of thinking rife in the Christian Patriarch Movement. Worth a reminder of what they want of women. He's riffing on a sign carried by one of the women at the Woman's March that calls for women to have as many rights as guns. … [Read More...]

Encouraging Your Husband – Part 3 Respect

This is a series looking at the marriage advice given in Nancy Campbell’s book ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’.While packing for a move I have turned up are books, terrible idiotic books filled with toxic advice. One of those books is by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies ‘How to Encourage Your Husband’. I think I ended up with this book in the aftermath of leaving my old church, given to me by one of my former friends that thought it would ‘help’ my marriage since in her eyes my husband leaving our old church meant that I wasn’t doing my job of wife well enough. Reading through this book now I cannot help but laugh at some of the suggestions. The book is entirely written by commenters and co … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Weddings Are the Pinnacle of a Christian Girl’s Achievements?

by Unknown at Crown of Beauty Magazine - Altogether LovelyEditor's note: This one was hard to figure out what to quote. The beginning where the author calls blogging 'edgy'. Blogging has been going on since the beginning of the internet, so it's old hat now. Her gushing over the quicky engagement and marriage of Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard. Or her calling Taylor Swift's music 'Old School' and saying it put her in a 'nastalic' mood. But the most disturbing part of this piece that sounds like it was written by a giggling twelve year old is her insistence that getting married is the BIG GOAL of every girl's life. This is what happens when you isolate a homeschooled girl severely, you … [Read More...]

When Love Isn’t Enough: DYI RAD Treatment Part 1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideEditor's note: Remember the Musser family and the death of their severely disabled adopted son Tommy while they were collecting disabled children via adoption? This seems to be a common theme in both Quiverfull and Evangelical worlds - not wishing to accept established science and medicine advice and coming up with your own dangerous non-helpful ideas. Mel has taken a look at mother Susanna Musser's ideas of RAD treatment for another child in that home.Quotes are in blue text.My little guy had his first at-home physical therapy (PT) appointment last Monday.  Lisa, his PT, examined his muscle tone and strength.  At the e … [Read More...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Selfish Mothers Abandon Their Kids to Daycare?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - InseparableEditor's note: Nancy wants to throw shame at those mothers that do anything other than hold their new babies and breastfeed them. What is wrong with reading a book or listening to music while holding your newborn as they sleep? What's wrong with allowing others to care for your child as you need? … [Read More...]

Before You Meet Prince Charming – Part 1 Chapter 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide All quotes from the book are in blue text. Images from When Cows and Kids Collide and used with permission. This chapter pertains to the evils of dating. Because of that, I assumed that the allegory would show the dangers of dating.Silly me. … [Read More...]