About a month ago, I came across this article: How To Keep Someone With You Foreverfrom Issendai’s Superhero Training Journal. The message has been haunting me ever since because I believe it is so true of abusive, patriarchal relationships ~ and it was certainly the case in my own marriage.
You create a sick system.
A sick system has four basic rules:
Rule 1: Keep them too busy to think.
Rule 2: Keep them tired.
Rule 3: Keep them emotionally involved.
Rule 4: Reward intermittently.
I would love to post the entire article here as the author goes on to explain exactly how to set up such a system ~ and so much of it sounded all too familiar to me.
Keep the crises rolling.
Things will be better when…
Establish one small semi-occasional success.
Etc. ~ you get the idea.
In the time since I first read it, this article has “gone viral” ~ and for good reason. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to follow the link and read the article in its entirety. If a QF/P leader were looking for a step-by-step instruction manual in how to entice, capture and trap women and their families in their own sick system ~ it’s all spelled out here in simple-to-follow detail.
I know we discussed this already on the NLQ forum ~ but I can’t find the link, so I’ve started a new one. Comments are also open here below.