QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.
by Cindy at Get Along Home: August 20, 2012
Even worse, I can’t complain about it, not only because it’s a self-imposed rule (I hate complainers), but because the moment my self-restraint slips and I let out a sigh, someone will invariably blame my exhaustion or depression (and I do have a tendency to be melancholy when I’m worn out) on my “too many” children. And yeah, I work hard for this family, and that is why I am tired. There’s certainly no arguing with that. But I can’t help but notice that, when someone is exhausted from doing some other kind of work, she gets a pat on the back. “Congratulations, you earned a restful weekend!” But when a mom with “too many” kids gets to the limits of her strength, it’s because she’s either too stupid or too oppressed to stop having children.
Get Along Husband posed an interesting question to me a few weeks ago. He didn’t exactly ask the question, but it was implicit in the words he recounted to me. It seems he heard a woman on the radio talking about growing up in a large family, and why she wasn’t having many (or maybe any) children herself. You see, her mother “worked her life away” and the interviewee didn’t want to have to live like that—always having to make meals, clean spills, and wash faces. My husband’s unspoken question, of course, was “Are you working your life away, Cindy? Are these kids doing that to you?”
Well, yes. I am working my life away, as a matter of fact. What else was I supposed to do with it? Take a 60-year vacation after high school?
NLQ Recommended Reading …
‘Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich
‘Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland
‘Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce