Womens Appearances Wreck Marital Romance?

According to Pat Robertson: If you are a woman and do not keep yourself looking 100% perfect then it is your fault if the marriage ends or isn’t good.  Huh?



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  • texcee

    Oh, dear, Pat is off his meds again.

  • Nightshade

    Yep, let’s alllllllways blame the woman, even when there is nothing whatsoever in the question to indicate that it’s her fault.

  • JetGirl

    Ever since his charming comments on Haiti being destroyed by the earthquake due to its people signing a contract with the devil, I hear everything this man says with a fart soundtrack.

  • At least the woman next to him obviously completely disagrees and seemed somewhat horrified by the words coming out of his mouth.

  • Phatchick

    {sigh} The Lawd’s favorite douchewad is talking again.

  • Red

    I agree with the first comment that Pat is off his meds. You can tell by the lady’s reaction that she is surprised and slightly horrified by what he’s saying. I would guess by her reaction that everyone in the room had a sort of “Oh….he’s gonna say THAT?” moment. She just doesn’t even know what to do by the end of the clip.

    I’ve had a theory for several years now that Pat is beginning to seriously suffer from dementia (which can cause people to react very strongly in ways they normally wouldn’t) and that his foundation is trying to save face by not admitting that this is going on.

  • Actually Pat Robertson seems to me to be just parroting the evangelical-patriarchal party line. He jumps from “dad isn’t paying attention to mom like he used to” to “the romance is out of the marriage” to “therefore the woman isn’t keeping herself pretty.” The only thing I can see about Pat Robertson is that instead of saying it just to other evangelicals, he says it on national TV.

  • And anyway, he did say one thing that is true. “It’s easy to blame the woman!” Preachers like him find it very easy because they have tons of practice.

  • Just so I have it right:

    To keep my man interested I have to keep myself perfectly. Eat right, exercise, dress attractively. Just not too attractively because that might attract the attention of another man who might lust because that would be my fault, too.

  • Phatchick

    That would explain a lot. And quite possible, given his age. Still doesn’t explain the last 20 years or so.

  • Nightshade

    According to Pat, yep. And of course your man has no responsibility whatsoever to keep himself attractive for you, because that would imply that a woman’s opinions and desires matter.

  • Sarah Morehouse

    Got to wonder why an omniscient, omnipotent, and loving god would 1. create something as venal and bestial as men, 2. put them in charge of women, and 3. still make women responsible for men’s behaviors.

  • Jenny Islander


    Also, if the man continually ignores, belittles, overworks, and/or hectors his “Biblically” submissive wife, and can’t even be bothered to give her good sex (assuming that he even knows what that is), and she falls into profound depression and can’t muster up the energy to exercise and self-medicates with food and stops caring about her appearance, is that also her fault?

    Oh, silly question. Of course it is.

  • texcee

    Hmm, let’s see … My husband hasn’t worked in 12 years because he got his doctor to declare him disabled, spends most of the day lying on his bed watching TV or sleeping. He weighs nearly 400 lbs, doesn’t bathe or wash his hair, doesn’t shave, doesn’t change his clothes or underwear for days on end (even sleeps in them), does almost nothing around the house, is vulgar, disagreeable, and just generally is a pain in the ass. (Let’s not go into why I didn’t leave him about two decades ago because that’s a whole book unto itself.) But according to the Rev. Pat, it’s my fault that our marriage is in name only (we stopped having sex over 15 years ago). Yeah, guilty as charged. Obviously I MADE my husband this way because I wasn’t attractive enough. …Right…

  • dawn

    Then Pat needs to explain Honey Boo Boo Child’s mom and her boyfriend because she doesn’t take good care of herself yet that man is oddly devoted to her.