Quoting Quiverfull: Using Each Other For Pleasure?

Quoting Quiverfull: Using Each Other For Pleasure? March 31, 2013

by Joseph Scheidler of the Pro-Life Action League

“I would like to outlaw contraception…contraception is disgusting – people using each other for pleasure.”

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  • Pleasure is disgusting?

  • Andrew

    I’ve heard of forced birthers but that is a little bit extreme.

  • Nea

    Using. Not offering, not sharing, not enjoying… Using.

  • Logically, where would that leave people like me? I am not sexually active, but use something usually used as contraceptives for medical reasons.

    A couple using each other for pleasure are also using themselves to give pleasure – is that as bad to him?

  • Evelyn

    I don’t know exactly what the writer is referring to, but I do believe that my ex husband would not have been so free to use my body over my protests, for his own pleasure, had it been possible that such abuse could have led to conception.

  • Cathy W

    I’m sorry you went through this experience, and I’m glad to hear that your ex-husband is, in fact, your ex-husband. But I’m not sure it’s something that can be generalized into “Contraceptives should be banned for everyone, under all circumstances.”

  • saraquill

    Mutually consensual pleasure is bad, why?

  • newcomer

    So what about couples where at least one person is infertile or sterile? Are they just ‘using’ each other for pleasure, too?

  • Sure seems to me like the couple in Song of Solomon were having mutual exchanges of pleasure and weren’t thinking about babies at all. “Using”? Hardly.

  • Sex is so awesome it should be saved for marriage. It’s so sacred that it’s god’s gift to faithful, married couples. Except when you don’t want babies. That makes you a filthy whore. /sarcasm

  • madame

    With or without contraception, sex is mainly about pleasure.

  • I prefer to think of it as people sharing pleasure with each other. If you’re doing it right, nothing’s getting *used* except the condoms, the lube, and the toys.

    I wonder what it is that changes an orgasm from the will of his god to something disgusting, just because there’s a pill or a slip of latex involved? Is an orgasm in the half of a woman’s cycle between her ovulation and her menstruation disgusting? She can’t conceive then, either, for much the same reason she can’t conceive on the pill. Is an orgasm involving a post-menopausal woman disgusting? Really, what’s the difference?

  • Sarah-Sophia

    I’m surprised he’s acknowledging that women can even feel pleasure.

  • Rae

    Or couples where the woman is already pregnant, or breastfeeding, or menopausal?

    Or, for that matter, any sexual acts that aren’t PIV? (Well, if this is from a Catholic viewpoint, that would fit in with their disgust for contraception)

  • Mayara

    I’m guessing that the person means that, well, if a WOMAN is using a man same as a man is using a woman (for pleasure) is wrong. If it’s just the man feeling pleasure, that’s ok. Women have to do it for the baybeez…

  • thalwen

    In their thinking, women don’t want/like sex, the only reason they do it is because of baybees and duty to the husband. So if a woman is on birth control, she’s being used because obviously she can’t like it.

  • newcomer

    The guy sounds like he’s just paraphrasing Robert Mitchum’s preacher-character from ‘Night of the Hunter’- the one which we’re all SUPPOSED recognize as a sociopathic wackjob.

  • Where does this leave shared, pleasurable activities that aren’t sex? Is all shared time digusting?

  • Theo

    Gawd, that is a beautiful film.