Quoting Quiverfull: Modesty Prayer?

by Stacy McDonald of Ladies Against Feminism and Your Sacred Calling  -  Living out Biblical Principles: A Young Woman’s Prayer of Chastity

I have made a covenant with my body to be discreet and chaste; why then should I flaunt myself before men? Does God not see my ways and count all my steps (Job 31:1,4)?

Has He not said that marriage is honorable among all (Hebrews 13:4) and that the woman who allures men even with her eyes is as a seductress (Proverbs 6:24-25)?

Help me, Lord, to honor marriage—my own, as well as the marriages of those around me. Help me to love my husband (or future husband) by remaining pure, by not revealing the intimate parts of my body to others (1 Cor. 7:2-4), and by saving my affections for him alone.

Help me to love my brother (by not secretly encouraging glances my way in an effort to feel good about myself). Help me to love his wife (by remembering that my vanity may contribute to her hurt). Help me to love their sons (by not adding to the struggles and temptations of their youth).

Help me not to use the young men in my life with words of flattery (Proverbs 6:24) or by wearing revealing clothes to gain attention. Help me to remember that true love, satisfaction, and acceptance come only from You. Remind me, Lord, that it’s not all about me.

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  • http://biblicalpersonhood.wordpress.com/ Retha Faurie

    That second-to-last-sentence look terribly out of place: “Help me to remember that true love, satisfaction, and acceptance come only from You.” I believe it, but how does it relate to the topic?

  • http://www.ericpazdziora.com/ Eric

    “Has He not said that [...] the woman who allures men even with her eyes is as a seductress (Proverbs 6:24-25)?”

    Let’s see:

    “Do not lust after her beauty in your heart,
    Nor let her allure you with her eyelids.” (Proverbs 6:25)

    …So, no, He has not said that; He’s said that men should take responsibility not to lust.

    (Also, if this applies to women, how come the “modesty” standards don’t include covering those alluring eyelids? Somebody might see you blink!)

  • http://www.ericpazdziora.com/ Eric

    Maybe because we’re not going to get any true love and acceptance from the people who judge by our clothes…

  • Hannah_Thomas

    Yikes! Sounds like she has some major internal LUST issues. (shivers)

  • Saraquill

    Why would anyone besides Cersei Lannister want their brother to look at them lustfully?

  • http://yllommormon.blogspot.com/ aletha

    Help me to learn to take responsibility only in my actions. Help me to realize that people are in charge of their own thoughts, actions, and feelings. Help me to know how to undo the harm I have caused myself and others by perpetuating this harmful doctrine.

  • http://biblicalpersonhood.wordpress.com/ Retha Faurie

    I found this on facebook, unattributed to a writer. It tackles the thorny issue of helping men with their lust problem:

    Ladies, men have come clean: they have a weakness and they need our help. They want us to make sure that they don’t attack an innocent person because of their inability to control themselves. So, here’s the plan.

    1. We have to make sure that men don’t see immodestly dressed women, and that means that we have to place them securely in the confinement of the home where they will run a very low risk of seeing women….

    2. If men must leave the house, we will make sure they wear a veil that will inhibit them seeing objects too closely. After all, we can’t be sure that a woman isn’t going to show up wearing something tight the moment a man leaves the home.

    3. Every man must have a female chaperon with him at all times to prevent him from going to any location that might cause him to stumble.

    4. We will restrict what men can watch on the TV and the internet to PG, since anything other can trigger an unwanted reaction.

    5. In every instance, we must insist a man ask a woman for permission if he wishes to do anything not already permitted, since a man cannot be trusted to act on his own.

  • aim2misbehave

    I find it interesting that the only part of this prayer that relates to other women is in the context of those women’s husbands – have I ever seen anyone making a “modesty” prayer asking for help other women by not providing anything for them to envy, for example?

  • Sara Lin Wilde

    My prayer, I think, would be more along the lines of “Help me to remember that all the women around me – self included – are valuable not because of how we look or how much attention we get from men, but because of our intelligence, kindness, creativity, hard work, activism, loyalty, wisdom, tolerance, clarity or whatever else it is we provide or do that makes the world a better place.”

    Honestly. We’re so bombarded with the idea that your external appearance is the most important thing. I would really like to see a change there, first and foremost.