Quoting Quiverfull: The Groom’s View

by Joshua Ohlman at his father Vaughn Ohlman’s site True Love Doesn’t Wait – Betrothal Announcement

Here is the announcement  that Joshua sent to his home church in Lubbock:

Proverbs 18:22
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”

I would like to praise God for making me a recipient of the blessings found in the verse above. A week ago Friday I had the incredible blessing of flying to Michigan and meeting and betrothing to myself a wonderful woman who had been known as Laura Camp, and who we now call Laura Ohlman (betrothed).

When my family decided to go the betrothal route in the path to marriage, a decision I fully supported, I was forced to put my faith in God that my father would find me a Godly wife, and that He would bless us with an abiding love for each other. That faith has been rewarded with a measure filled to the brim, pressed down and overflowing. Although I met Laura only two hours before we were bound in our betrothal covenant I could not be more happy with her as God’s gift to me. Our love for each other grows daily (indeed hourly) and we and our families have all been greatly blessed by the betrothal process.

God’s hand has been clearly evident throughout this process. We are working on a story that lays out many of the details, but suffice it for now to say that without the Lord’s hand I would not be betrothed to my wonderful Laura.

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  • http://falynes.blogspot.com Falyne

    Stooooockholllllllm….. O_O

  • Saraquill

    The word “forced” did not escape my notice. Neither did the mechanical style of writing. It sounds like he’s writing what he’s expected to say, not how he feels.

  • https://www.facebook.com/jean.hoehn/info?collection_token=1524166867%3A2327158227%3A35 Phatchick

    I find myself wondering wether the parents of this young couple would’ve been as happy as their children appear (operative word, appear) to be. Would they have been equally accepting of the idea of someone else choosing a life partner for them? Somehow, I have a hard time imagining Mr. Ohlman greeting the same news from his father with any pleasure. Then, I suspect, he would be quoting the verse about how husbands and wives are supposed to separate from their parents. The man is a total hypocrite and I feel sorry for these two kids who are about to have their lives messed up by his ego.

  • Erika Diegel Martin

    There’s lots of stuff in his post about the wife’s duty, but not really anything about the husband’s duty except being head of the wife. Where’s the accountability here??

    Also, most of that covenant is about sex, procreation, and everyone obeying the man. Typical, coming from a mindset that really is all about sex and power.

  • Trollface McGee

    I have no idea how old he is, I assume and hope he (and his fiancée) are adults, so I’m going to presume competence. Also, betrothal isn’t something that’s recognised by the law so that’s good. Parents making major life decisions for their adult kids that their kids don’t have time to adequately process that may result in permanent consequences, is horrendous. Even with most arranged marriages, the couple has a change to get to know each other through the years and most parents will call it off if the kids decide they aren’t compatible.

  • Cathy W

    Josh is 22. I haven’t seen any indication of how old Laura is.

  • teaisbetterthanthis

    TWO HOURS??? He’d met her TWO HOURS before his father claimed her as his daughter-in-law???

    I can’t.

  • Vaughn Ohlman

    Ummm… would I have been happy if my father found me a wife at 22? Thrilled!! Seriously.

  • Kristen Rosser

    You know, Jesus talked about a thing called “counting the cost.” He actually said that it’s a good thing, before you commit yourself to doing something, to carefully gather the facts and assess yourself and your prospective decision, to be acquainted with what you’re getting yourself into. Since betrothal is apparently a solemn contract, since you’re considered as good as married just without the physical relationship– I think it would be a good idea to get to know your partner for more than 2 hours before you sign.

  • BitByAGod

    “A wife”, but not *your* wife?