Quoting Quiverfull: Tools For Daughters?

by Robin Brookshire from Ladies Against Feminism and her own blog Raising Homemakers

When our daughters were little they had way too many toys – too many to count, actually.  But that started to change as our ideas about family economy and industry in the home changed.  Instead of buying toys, we began to invest in tools for our daughters, even at their young ages – tools that would help them cultivate interests, develop skills, and hopefully be a blessing to the home and economies of their future families.

We began to value the family economy and to not simply accept what is now the status quo of women leaving the home to work.  I used to work full-time outside the home when our girls were very little, and this was something we did not want to see repeated in the next generation if at all possible.

What changed?  We realized that if we wanted our daughters to be able to work from home, we needed to equip them in developing marketable skills.  As they honed in on their serious interests, we wanted to help them get off on the right foot by giving them the tools of the trade.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • texcee

    Well, I suppose that’s marginally reasonable as long as kids have some options in the matter. I still have a little cooking set I got as a child as well as “My First Cookbook” that was put out by a sugar company back in the 60′s. (Actually, it contains THE best peanut butter cookie recipe I’ve ever found in my entire life!) Both boys AND girls should know how to keep house, cook, repair things, garden, do yardwork, even sew. But girls should also have the opportunity to learn skills with which they can make a living and support themselves. They may NEED to someday. Just training them to be housewives and mothers may not serve them well, if that’s all they know.

  • Nightshade

    Yep. Boys should learn to cook too, and at least basic sewing skills come in handy for anyone-who hasn’t had a button that needed reattached at some point in their adult lives? The assumption that boys don’t need to learn any household skills, and that girls don’t need to learn how to support themselves, is faulty. Parents can’t possibly know what their children may go through in life, and thus can’t teach them everything they may need, but the basics are a good start for boys AND girls.

  • http://yllommormon.blogspot.com/ aletha

    Off topic, but could you please share the cookie recipe?

  • 24fps

    I’m teaching my daughters how to use a screw gun, put together Ikea furniture, check the oil on the car and a variety of other things – so that they don’t need a man to do it for them. :)

  • persephone

    I second Aletha’s request.

  • texcee

    I’ll need to find the cookbook and copy the recipe. :)

  • Sarah Henderson

    My problem with this type of mini article is that it sounds like a good idea in theory, and it will likely be taken as teaching by searching young mothers. How many girls will be denied a childhood based on this article?

    There is more to life than the ability to work from home. The psychological cost is not being considered.

  • Lolly

    Yes, we’d all love to know exactly what kinds of “tools” will be valuable for the “future”. Yes, we are all concerned about our kids’ futures. Clearly what they will need to succeed is completely different from what I needed back in the day, for example. But thinking that you have all the answers now is absurd. So, how about now. How about just kicking back and having some laughs and not making every last moment in your life and your poor kids’ lives all about something that may or may not happen in 20 years.

    ” I used to work full-time outside the home when our girls were very little, and this was something we did not want to see repeated in the next generation if at all possible.”

    Yeah, yeah, yeah, don’t want them repeating the same mistakes blah blah blah. It’s so tiresome. You, at least, had the chance to make your own decision, go to school, earn a living and you want to take away all those choices from your children. You’re so blinded to the fact that you can plan all you want, buy all the “right” things it’s not going to make a difference. Look at you, you’re the living testament to that. Meanwhile, you have to drag your kids along for your lifelong journey on the control bus.

  • SJ Reidhead

    You just reminded me – the best fudge recipe I’ve ever used was in my 1st cookbook. I wonder where it is? I need to go find it. So much for keeping all those tools of the trade.

  • Madame

    ” I used to work full-time outside the home when our girls were very
    little, and this was something we did not want to see repeated in the
    next generation if at all possible.”

    That bothered me too.

    By all means, fuel your daughter’s passions, but don’t tell her that she can only use them in her home. What if she doesn’t want to marry? Or if it takes longer to find her life partner? What if she doesn’t want to have children?

    In my opinion, women who have a fulfilling career and a life outside of home are a lot happier and less desperate to find a man. They don’t see him as the way out of a situation they are unhappy in (home, with dad and mom breathing down her neck), and enjoy the freedom that comes with a good salary and being out there, where they discover who they are (vs. who mom and dad would have them be).

  • Lolly

    IKR as my kids would say??? I can say that here, they can’t hear me.

    And this “accepting what is now the status quo” thing, No. There is no “status quo” that you think fighting against, it’s only in your mind. Women are not just blindly following each other through the cattle chute. What a supercilious and asinine thing to write, this woman really believes she is swimming upstream? First of all, politicians who pay lip service for motherhood would hold her up as a shining example of holiness, so please, she has nothing but adoration, if anything, her lifestyle choice is quite publicly encouraged, practically sainthood. So how is that fighting the status quo. Women are constantly told by prominent blowhards to go home. Also, some of the most popular tv shows feature stay at home moms, one just won an Emmy for best comedy. Sorry lady, just not seeing this status quo thing.

    She’s living her life the way she wants, fine, but it seems the people who write on these blogs are incredibly self centered and self congratulatory, and always publicly seeking a pat on the back for the choices they’ve made, and needing to disparage the choices of others.

  • Trollface McGee

    I’m curious about these “tools” as well. I’m all for educational toys and teaching children (developmentally appropriate) skills. But part of the way kids learn is through play and toys – depriving them of that is not good for their brains which have a lot of developing to do.
    Working at home is very limiting – in this job market even more so. You don’t know what your kids will be like when they grow up – their dreams, their abilities – no matter how much you want them to go the way you want, they’re going to be adults and decide for themselves – sabotaging them is cruel and poor parenting.

  • texcee

    I’m reminded that John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making plans.” A truer statement was never uttered! God will throw you a curveball just when you think you’ve got it all figured out!

  • gimpi1

    I second Althea’s request, Texee. If you get the chance, thanks!

  • NeaDods

    I third that!