Sunday Shout Out: If I Love My Husband…

Back in May of this year we posted the thoughts of Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies Magazine and her followers on what ladies that love their husbands do for their husband to concretely express that love. Not that the list was entirely bad, but much of it was silly over the top actions and filled with empty insincerity. There were things on the list that could potentially not be good for your husband or significant other over the long run.

But if  you deeply love someone are you really demonstrating your love for them or exposing your own insecurities towards the relationship by following this list? What would a better list look like? You can sound off below in our comments or send NLQ your thoughts at CaluluNLQ(at)gmail(dot)com.

If I love my husband I will…

Love to serve him.
Love to cook his meals.
Love to have a wholesome meal prepared for him when he comes home in the evening.
Love him to come home to a clean and fresh smelling house.
Love to keep an orderly home for him.
Love to make sure he always has clean laundry.
Love to make him coffee.
Love to make his lunch to take to work.
Love to purchase special goodies for him that he loves.
Love to buy him his favorite dark chocolate.
Love to do nice things for him.
Love to satisfy him sexually.
Love to follow him even though I may not agree with him.
Love to praise him instead of criticize him.
Love to wake up and cuddle with him.
Love to greet him passionately when he comes home from work.
Love to run a bath for him.
Love to encourage and compliment him with my words.
Love to make him smile and laugh.
Love to tell him that he is the best.
Love to text him during the day to remind him how much I love and appreciate him.
Love to speak well of him to my friends and to praise him in front of others.
Love to be his BEST and closest friend.
Love to be his only confidante.
Love to pray with him.
Love to respect him and his decisions.
Love to pay attention to him when he talks to me.
Love to help the children do special things for him.
Love to give him massages.
Love to softly tickle him.
Love to rub his back, shoulders, legs and feet.
Love to be with him while he works.
Love to do what he asks me with a smile and cheerful attitude.
Love to listen to his dreams and ideas and support them.
Love to raise the children in the way that pleases him.
Love to take an interest in his passions.
Love to do everything I can to keep him healthy.
Love to give him surprises.
Love to appreciate him for working hard so I can stay home with our children.
I love to hold hands with him.
Love to admire and adore him.

Comments open below

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  • Independent Thinker

    If I love my husband I will………………
    Leave the house to run errands, Christmas shop, or get my hair done during all Green Bay Packer games that do not fall on a holiday so my husband can watch the game in peace.
    I will not text him at work because he has a real job that requires him to go to all day conferences or sit thru five hour meetings. My text messaging would effect his job performance and he needs to be focused at work most of the day.
    I will prioritize taking care of my health because I don’t want to burden him with preventable health problems that could have been addressed before they got seriously bad.
    I will be his wife not his mom.
    Not feel insecure when he wants to go do something without his wife. I will instead fill that time pursuing my own interests so when he gets home I will have something to talk about other than kids, cooking, or cleaning which seems to bore him in most conversations.

  • LoriVK

    If I love my husband I will…
    Not cook for him, because neither of us enjoy that.
    Make sure he has clean socks and underwear.
    Learn about NFL football, teach him about NHL hockey
    Have my own interests and my own friends, and not be at all concerned that he has his own thing and his own friends.
    Laugh, a lot, and be silly.
    Be grateful every day that he didn’t want children as much as I didn’t want children, and remembering that common life goals is what brought us together in the first place.
    Never say “I told you so”.
    Never say anything mean, just to hurt.
    Be his biggest fan and staunchest supporter, but also tell him when he’s acting like an ass.
    Teach him about feminism, and learn from him about political and public policy.
    Remember that we’re a team, and we’re better together than battling this world as individuals.

  • AlisonCummins

    Be honest and trustworthy.

    Not burden him with the expectation that he must meet all my needs, even sexual ones.

  • Saraquill

    If I love my husband I will…
    Be honest with him.
    Hug him.
    Treat him as a person and not as an idol or an incompetent being.
    Maintain open communication.
    Discuss the important things that we disagree upon, rather than bottle them up.
    Not make him play into other people’s idea of a husband.

  • bekabot

    Love to buy him his favorite dark chocolate.

    Men eat dark chocolate? This is the first I’ve heard of it. In the land of gender roles, aren’t women supposed to eat the dark chocolate while men eat hamburgers (with no lettuce on top)? I’m so confused now. Please instruct…