Quoting Quiverfull: Taking The Cup?

A review of the “To Be One” DVD about Courtship/Betrothal/Marriage by The Old Schoolhouse Magazine

My only reservation in recommending this video is the Lindvall story. I want to be gracious to the Lindvalls, but I was quite troubled by their story. My first concern was the process of choosing a wife for Timothy. According to all the men in the story, the Lord had “told” each of them that Brittany was the one for Timothy. The process of winning Brittany seemed to lack any emotion or feeling on the part of the prospective bridegroom, because the Lindvalls believe love should follow commitment, not precede it. I had to wonder how honest it is that we believe we can truly guard our hearts from all feeling toward someone we are considering for marriage. I also question the decision making based on personal revelation not given in Scripture.

Next, according to Jonathan Lindvall, when Jesus gave the cup to His disciples at the Last Supper, this was a wedding proposal according to the custom of the day, and this act informed the church’s understanding of the marriage of Christ and His church. Therefore, when Timothy gave Brittany a cup at a family supper, everyone understood he was proposing. If she took the cup and drank from it, she would be accepting the proposal. Of course, she did accept, but I cannot help wondering how she could possibly refuse since the Lord had “told” all the men involved that she was the one for Timothy.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich

Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce


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