Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Far is Too Far?

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

On to today’s question:

How far is too far?

First, I just want to say that I don’t care who you are, PLEASE COMMENT with your opinion, whatever that opinion may be! ;) Let’s get this post under the list of “Popular” posts! Let’s hear some responses, ladies! :D And thank you in advance!

Okay, so my question is this: Lately I’ve been hearing a lot about “guarding your heart” and not letting guys “know your heart” and not telling guys the “desires of your heart” and so on and so on. I totally agree with this, but I’m confused on how far is too far. For example: If I tell a guy that I enjoy riding horses, that’s obviously not “too far,” right? ( ;) ) But what IS “too far?” When ARE you telling too much of your desires, hopes, and dreams for the future?

Has anyone else asked themselves this question before?

Again, any and all comments will be appreciated. :)

Very odd that she is trying to get her post with enough answers to be listed as a ‘Popular’ post. What’s that all about?

In the secular world this question would likely mean how far sexually you might be willing to go on a date, but because everything in Quiverfull is so over-thought and obsessed over this young lady is speaking of emotional intimacy. Lots of different opinions on this when is it giving away your heart and most of the answers range on some version of would you be comfortable with others overhearing the conversation. What do you think?


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