by Alexis Rowe at No Greater Joy Magazine – Managing vs. Leadership
Editor’s note: Another version of ‘Control your emotions or else’ fear-mongering that so many in the Quiverfull movement labor under. It always revolves around be cheerful or lose your family and/or salvation. What a sad scary way to live your life.
During our conversation, I recalled a chat I’d recently had with my husband. He had mentioned that our house wasn’t “homey.” I asked what he meant, but he couldn’t put his finger on it. It dawned on me later that I was making him miserable!
My spotless, “you could eat off the floors” home was no longer inviting or relaxing to him. Not only did I get stressed out about cleaning up all his “messes,” but I stressed him out by griping and complaining. The to-do list that was supposed to help life run smoothly and organized was a source of bondage. I was dealing with depression and getting worse every day! When I couldn’t manage my life, I would break down with anxiety attacks and anger. What a crazy cycle!
The more we talked, the more I saw these negative consequences unfolding before me. If I stayed my course, I could lose my daughter—because who wants to be around “mad mama”—and I could lose my husband. To top it off, I could lose my sanity and health! All by managing, or making everything look right on the outside without investing on the inside.
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