Quoting Quiverfull: ‘Suck It Up’ and Smile?

quotingquiverfullby JES from Strangers and Pilgrims on Earth – Thoughts on Strong and Courageous Women ~ Not Prone to ‘Fainting Fits’

Editor’s note: Continuing on from yesterday evening’s theme of what is a ‘strong woman’ this momma seems to think it’s the old ‘suck it up and smile’ thing that Nancy Campbell and others preach in Quiverfull. Deny your emotions and do what you need to do. While there are times when putting your own emotions on the shelf in order to deal with some in the moment situation it’s not very mentally healthy to do that as a life style. Eventually those suppressed emotions will bubble to the surface like so much hot lava and scorch everything in their path.

Dear reader, when I was but nineteen, my grandfather told me a sad story and I cried. To my surprise, he told me, “you gotta toughen up”.

Why I thought? — Just because tears flowed at his tragic tale? My young, tender heart thought him to be rough and I was hurt. However, throughout the years, his comment has haunted me…

When tough decisions were required that I just couldn’t “bear” to make, I thought of those words. When following my husband’s lead proved to be too hard for my “fragile heart”, I thought of those words. When I needed to correct or protect my children from worldly ways but felt “sorry to”, I thought of those words.

Perhaps what grandpa meant to say was “grow stronger”. Truth be known, many of us are in some dire situations where the raw and rough words “suck it up!” need to be said (forgive the crude language). In the heat of battle, we must march on! We must adorn ourselves with the sturdy armor of God, we will require skills in the weaponry of the Word and we will draw our power and strength from the Holy Spirit. We will choose to fight with all our might and valor against the forces of evil and we can prevail like the godly women before us!
For our husbands may simply need a smile and reassurance when all we want is to shed tears. Our children need endurance and stability when all we want is to give up. The sisterhood needs encouragement and support when all we want to do is hide ourselves away.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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