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Part 2 – Call Me Crazy: the Gaslighting of Homeschool Abuse Survivors

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by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyPart Two of her post on the subject of Gaslighting. Continuing on from Part One Me: Why don’t you just admit that he’s at home with you all day in isolation and you’re probably ignoring him most of the time and calling him stupid and telling him to shut up and threatening to give him spankings, Dad? We’re all your children, know how you are and what you really do. I wish [youngest son] the best and I wish you’d go get a paying job to support your remaining minor children and let [youngest son] have a normal life in school with his peers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Going To A Quiverfull Church While Infertile Why?

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by Jennifer from her blog A Home With A Purpose - When Being At Church Hurts: InfertilityEditor's note: This is truly heartbreaking, being a member of a church that embraces Quiverfull yet unable to have any babies. Being tortured with frustration at the easy fecundity of others in your church isn't being 'sanctified', it is cruel, it would be cruel of any deity to demand you be constantly in the presence of your deepest desires with no way to obtain them. That's not a loving God. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've found two different types of toxic views in reading CP literature. The more common toxicity is "Do this or really bad things will happen to you!" Debi has given us plenty of these examples so far. This chapter is a different type of toxic. This is the "Do this and life will be magical!" toxicity.Personally, I think the second type is more pernicious than the first. With the first, once you've done the forbidden action, you can figure out pretty quickly if the predicted bad outcome happens. The second type, though, is hard to disprove because life isn't always magical. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Did Marriage Die in 2013?

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by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Marriage Died in 2013 This was written last year when gay marriage started to be legislated in many states.  Michael Pearl, among others, said that this would prove to be the end of marriage altogether. Here we are a year later and it looks like marriage is still going strong. Did legalizing gay marriage have any effect on marriage in general? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Nancy Steals Hanukkah Finis – Day 8

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by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Full Time Hanukkah ParentingNancy wraps up her hijacking of the minor Jewish holiday of Hanukkah by including every one of her fear tactics/phrases on how you must be ever on guard lest Satan seduce your child. … [Read more...]

Frozen

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsHas anyone else seen the parallels between Elsa and their own experience with spiritual abuse?I first saw the movie just days after being tossed out of our church and I sat there in tears and in awe as I watched Elsa make the “mistake” of hurting her sister while she was using her incredible gift to create joy and delight.She then is shut up, not allowed to use her gift any longer and she is told she cannot tell anyone what is happening to her. … [Read more...]

Day 17 of 21 Days of Healing: How To Respond

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsHis mercies are new every morning.  (Brain work.)Day 17A few days a go I attended a conference for teachers in my discipline – music. Of course, the first person I ran into is a life-long member of the church that tossed me out last December. In fact, because she divorced several years ago, she no longer serves in any capacity. (He had an affair and refused church or any other kind of counseling. The wife did everything she could to save their marriage. But I digress.) “I haven’t seen you in a long time!” she exclaimed. And because she was with another woman whom I did not know, I simply replied, “Oh, like all of us, I’ve been v … [Read more...]

Fundamentalist Homeschooling Christmas: A Video of What My Mom Gave Me For Christmas

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open Ground We never did much for Christmas as a kid, and in many ways, I’m glad. I’ve never felt that rushing around in mobs to buy gifts for western people who have it all is a particular worthy use of time and resources. I don’t have a problem with gifts, decorations, or good food, but right now, traffic is lethal in my town, enough to awaken me to the realization that my parents were at least partially correct. Instead of writing a post about what Christmas is like in a fundie family, I just made a short one-minute video of what my mom sent me for Christmas this year. It really says it all. Mom lives in her own homeschool world. Instead of se … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fashion is a Religious Statement of Worldview?

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by Kelly Reins from Ladies Against Feminism - Fashion Design, Intelligent DesignThe ladies of Ladies Against Feminism are giving the idea of clothing a great deal more meaning and power than the average person does.  … [Read more...]

How Fundamentalist Christians Ruin Christmas

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser on Dec. 20, 2014Now that I am no longer a Christian, I really enjoy Christmas. I know this might be hard for some to believe, but I enjoy Christmas now more than I ever did when I was a card-carrying member of Club Christian®. The reason is simple. From Thanksgiving to New Years, there were services to prepare, food drives to coördinate, and season-themed sermons to preach. Like the Easter season, Christmas was a high stress, lots of work, time for me. Quite frankly, I found it exhausting and rarely did I have time to enjoy Christmas.And of course, Christmas was that time of year when it was my duty to … [Read more...]


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