Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – 1 Peter 3?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Paypal Antihomophobia Violates Right to be Homophobic?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - Paypal is Not our PalEditor's note: Do you remember all the hateful screeds and attention that Pastor Steven Anderson was both issuing and getting over the nightclub shooting deaths of 49 innocent people in Orlando Florida? Anderson is having to learn the hard way that actions do have consequences and the consequence of all the horrible words he's spewed celebrating the deaths of people either gay or gay-friendly is that Paypal is no longer allowing him to use their services. He's not the only one having to face up to the reality of the horrible things they've said, his pal Pastor Jimenez is losing the lease on the building their … [Read more...]

Tabloid News: Jinger Duggar Gets Pre-Licked Candy Bar Courtship?

A  couple of days ago the Duggar family announced in their favorite sycophantic mouth piece, People magazine, that daughter Jinger was courting. They gave the courtee's name, Jeremy Vuolo and stated that the courtship would be shown in season two of their new television show, 'Counting On' on The Learning Channel.Up until that moment no one knew what the fate of the television show was. What was known was that the ratings were rather lackluster as the show continued to air and many former advertisers from their previous show … [Read more...]

Help! I am a Believer, but my Husband is Not

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Reposting this piece because I believe it's valuable advice for many leaving Quiverfull as well. My mailbox regularly fills up with more emails that I can possibly answer from people wanting to know how to help a brother/husband/daughter/son/cousin who is stuck in a toxic religious environment or from someone trying to hang onto their faith as they are leaving a toxic church. I think much of Bruce's advice here could be useful for many situations.Recently, a new reader sent me several questions she would like me to answer. Her questions and my answers follow. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 8 – Pornographers and Queers Want to Molest Your Children?

by Rebekah Pearl Anast and Gabriel Anast from No Greater Joy – Safeguarding Your ChildrenEditor's note: Okay, we're back in sick victim-blaming/shaming territory again, this time with Gabriel Anast standing in for Michael Pearl. He seems to think he can read the minds of all the homeschooled kids he's met and tell who would have had sex had they been presented with the opportunity. I hate to pop her little hate bubble but a kid that wants to have sex will usually find a way, even if the parents are watching them most of the time. It's not that hard. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 6 Obey Indeed? (Obey Vs. Submit)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonpp 180-182This chapter is called Obey, Indeed?, and there's been some confusion-mostly due to Michael's writing-about the difference between obeying and submitting. However, say what you will about Michael, he is decent at solving problems that he creates. So sit back, relax, and enjoy the stirring difference between obeying and submitting. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 7 – Pornographers and Queers Want to Molest Your Children?

by Rebekah Pearl Anast and Gabriel Anast from No Greater Joy – Safeguarding Your ChildrenEditor's note: Then this entire contradictory hot mess takes an entirely different turn, away from porn and towards not giving in sexual temptation. Which is way different than avoiding being molested or having your mind sullied by a Victoria's Secret or International Male catalog. Theme of the next three bits is: 'wait for your wedding night to have sex and you'll be blessed' with the usual high amount of slut shaming thrown. … [Read more...]

Shackled Girl: Part 8 – What Happens When Mother Leaves

by PropinquaEditor’s note: “So where was the mother?” is another question people keep asking. Stafonda Hawkins is the mother of the 13-year-old girl who escaped alleged abuse by Timothy Ciboro and his son Esten. Hawkins and the elder Ciboro are parents of a girl, 10, and a boy, 9. All three children remain in foster care.Had the girl not fled the Ciboros, her mother would still be free in Vegas. There’s just no way that Stafonda Hawkins, a fugitive, was surprised to be cuffed and jailed after the long bus trip back to Toledo. But she came home anyway. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 6 – Pornographers and Queers Want to Molest Your Children?

by Rebekah Pearl Anast and Gabriel Anast from No Greater Joy – Safeguarding Your ChildrenEditor's note: Now Anast takes it to some really crazy contradictory levels, making judgements about porn buyers before the internet and then claiming that the internet created this huge overwhelming wave of porn addicts. Sprinkle in some shelter your children and ending by claiming if you just believe enough in God the RIGHT way pornography will never be a problem. These people are some sort of sick, a new religion-linked mental illness needs to be named after this family. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 6 – The Boys

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue text.There are just a handful of quotes left from the Boys in Chapter Nine.  What I can't get over is how similar each of the guys' complaints about women is. … [Read more...]