Quoting Quiverfull: Mothers Must Give All?

by Abigail Dodds of John Piper's The Counsel for Biblical Manhood and Womanhood - 5 Truth For Our DaughtersEditor's note: This is a not a completely toxic ideas article. In some of the unquoted parts it talks about accepting your looks and body as they are and that not every woman will marry and have children. But this part could have been written by any other typical Quiverfull female cultural enforcer, like Nancy Campbell or Debi Pearl. The idea that if you do manage to marry you must only be a wife and mother to exclusion of all else. It's simply not that black and white. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Far is Too Far?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Submitting Even Unto Rinsing Dishes His Way?

by Martha Peace from John Piper's The Counsel on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood - Soap Bubble SubmissionEditor's note: Here's a piece by another woman in Quiverfull that seems to think that rational discussion of problems with the males in your life over mundane and petty irritations isn't to be done. Instead smile and submit. This is one of the many reasons a lot of women love their automatic dishwashers. Why are simple problems treated like something big and no one is ever willing to discuss things in this world? … [Read more...]

Choosing my Future

by Vyckie Garrison cross posted from Secular Woman as part of the Women's History Month SeriesFifth article in Secular Woman's Women's History Month Series.by Vyckie Garrison, No Longer QuiveringLife without choices is simple. As a young woman, when faced with what seemed to me to be an overwhelming question: What am I going to do with my life? — although I knew that the possibilities were practically unlimited, I made the choice to narrow my options by devoting my life to Jesus as an evangelical Christian. Why? Because it was the simple thing to do. Notice I didn't say it was easy. In fact, my 25+ years as a fundamentalist Christian woman were exceedingly demanding and I paid a h … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Change Your Mindset or Lose Your Husband?

by Alexis Rowe from No Greater Joy Magazine - Managing vs. LeadershipEditor's note: Don't you dare stress out your poor weak Christian man in any way. It's okay to get up at the crack of dawn to do your chores so you don't stress out your big man. How is that joyful living at all? … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 4 Washing of the Word (Share My Yoke By Doing What I Say!)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 156-157We are still talking about Michael's idea that wives need sanctification and cleansing. Why? Because Christ and the Church is the same as husband and wife! Because...Bible? Oh, and I hope you're ready to really dive into the Bible, because this section is chock full of scripture. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Change Your Mindset or Lose Your Husband?

by Alexis Rowe at No Greater Joy Magazine - Managing vs. LeadershipEditor's note: Another version of 'Control your emotions or else' fear-mongering that so many in the Quiverfull movement labor under. It always revolves around be cheerful or lose your family and/or salvation. What a sad scary way to live your life. … [Read more...]

Girls Interrupted: First Act

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding FundamentalHow many times have we heard it?“Women are the cause of most of the problems in the church.”Women have been the brunt of such jabs-however jokingly, by preachers from their pulpit perches-so frequently and for so long- that they just laugh right along. But backhanded levity aside, most preachers didn't really mean it as a joke…. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Better Start Fearing?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Are We Willing?Editor's note: One thing you can count on is that Nancy pushes the fear and guilt button repeatedly in most of her posts. It's all about how you cannot possibly be doing things right. Where's all the joy and happiness she keeps saying that is everywhere in Quiverfull? All I'm seeing is some world class fear mongering. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated – The Boys Interlude #1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDirect quotes from the book are in blueLike "Preparing to Be a Helpmeet" by Debi Pearl, "It's Not That Complicated" includes random side notes from young men.  Honestly, I have no idea why these are included except to pad the length of the book.  There are 14 guys who are quoted.  Five of them are the Botkin Brothers.  Of the five Botkin Brothers, only Ben uses his actual name.  Rather than try to fit the boy quotes into the chapters, I'm going to insert chunks of them every so often. … [Read more...]