Quoting Quiverfull: Submission Does Not Cause Abuse?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - What to do in Cases of Abuse or Emotional TurmoilEditor's note: While the steps to take if you are being abused in the original post that were written are mostly good and legitimate ways to respond to being abused by your spouse they weren't written by Lori Alexander. But this beginning bit was written by Lori Alexander and seems to say that she believes that very very few women are being truly abused at the hands of their husbands. Way to victim blame there... … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? Chapter 6 – All Girls Need Are Big Boobs?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerToday's chapter is oh so mercifully brief, like the madness that seizes me every time I go to the animal shelter and I contemplate adopting every animal there, a millisecond, reality intrudes and then it was GONE! It is under three pages and we are spared the pious pontifications of Sakal Davidson and the horny schoolboy actions of Andrew Adamson. My review is almost longer than the actual chapter!Too bad both Sakal and Andrew are being replaced by she of the ridiculous name Maydyn and Sakal's other half – Isha. Still in the park, but not at that blasted picnic table for once. Maydyn is sitting on a park bench when Isha rushes up, demands a hug and invades M … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Denigrate Needs and Call Them Choices?

by Tim Bayly from The Bayly Blog - Welcome to Fatherhood: You Are What You EatEditor's note: There's so much hateful shaming over possible allergies and food needs, which do vary wildly among people, in this sneeringly awful piece on Father's Day from Bayly. He uses this awkward, blaming and silly story on food allergies and needs to slide later in the piece into saying that you cannot pick a church based on what he thinks are silly things...the pastor having hipster eyeglass frames or the style of music. Do people really chose churches or their own eating needs in such a shallow ridiculous way? I think it's likely done in all seriousness and Bayly is disrespecting people for having … [Read more...]

A Virtuous Better Way? (QF: The View From Here)

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Redeeming DinahAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Redeeming Dinah and used with permission This series of posts results includes excerpts from information shared with a journalist in August of 2015 who had questions about the Quiverfull Movement as it related to the Duggar Family. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Negative Thoughts or Words Allowed?

by Kristin Eason from Nancy Campbell's Above Rubies - A House or a Home?Editor's note: She's been waiting to 'make a home' for a long time considering the author's eldest child is 15 years old, so no wonder she's having to tell herself not to be bitter and negative. One idea here that she doesn't explore is not a bad one - that it does not matter if you live in a rental house, apartment, trailer, hut, yurt, duplex or mansion. The structure does not matter because anywhere you are can be a 'home'. Instead the author chooses to focus on controlling your thoughts and words instead of simply being grateful for what you do have. She makes it all about attitude in a very wrong and controlling … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Are No Negative Emotions Allowed Because Circumstances Are So Dire?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One theme is very common in most of the female cultural enforcers writings - never complain, speak negative words, have negative thoughts about anything in your day to day life. Nancy Campbell is an expert on ringing that particular bell to control her followers. For a long time some assumed that Nancy did this for control, but several recent posts by her and others make one wonder if it's not because that the circumstances that many of these women have to live in would make a saint break down and cry. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Are Delicate Fainting Flowers?

by Lori Alexander from her blog Always Learning - Women are More DelicateEditor's note: Whenever I run across posts like this one about how powerless and delicate women are I think of all the awesome female firefighters, police, even UFC fighters and others in traditionally masculine positions I've known and realize what a lie it is. So, okay, women do not have as much muscle and/or brute strength as men but that's no reason to assume they should all be cowering in fear of every branch waving in the breeze next to a window in a house where a man is not at the moment. No matter how hard women try to be the same as men, they never will be since they were created female and are the weaker … [Read more...]

“Christians Are Intolerant Bigots”

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalNow that I've got your attention, let me ask you how that title made you feel? Are you angry? Do you feel like hitting out at me? Do you want to blast me to hell in the comments section for saying something so outrageous? Well before you completely write me off, please listen to what I have to share... … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Lori Alexander and ‘Fat Shaming’ Children?

by Lori Alexander from her blog Always Learning - Training Your Children Benefits Them For LifeEditor's note: Interesting and very telling bit of doubling down on the fat shaming that the Pearls have posted at their website. Recently Lori has been promoting the Pearl's child abuse training manual as fervently as someone who has a financial stake it in.  You have to wonder why. But this attitude of blaming people over their body size is disgraceful, hateful and not 'Christian' at all. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – 1 Peter 3?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]