Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – How Do I Be A Friend?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Adopting To Fill Quiver?

by Bridget and Voddie Baucham at John Piper's Desiring God - Adoption Improved the Perfect Little FamilyEditor's note: Good example of someone doing kid collecting for quiverfull by using adoption. Guessing that perhaps Bridget had a tubal ligation after baby number two and wasn't a good candidate for the reversal surgery. Watching good trying to be quiverfull Christians struggle to fill their quiver and add children to the family can be as sad as what infertile couples go through. The pressure to conform is so strong in fundamentalist quiverfull churches and there are always people that will be either telling you that you're doing it wrong, or this is all due to some sin in your life if … [Read more...]

Humor: Duggar PR plan from Screwtape, Machiavelli and Bulth, Inc.

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideA bit of levity from Mel that might actually not be too far off target....Dear Mr. and Mrs. Jim Bob Duggar,Thank you for choosing Screwtape, Machiavelli and Bluth for your public relation needs.  Your family brand has taken a hit recently, but I think we've created a plan to get you back on your feet.Current Liabilities:Josh and Anna Duggar: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Society Thinks Men Are Pea Brains?

by Nicole Cook from Above Rubies Magazine - Raising Sons: Raising Godly Son in an Ungodly WorldEditor's note: It seems to me that much of what she is saying is exactly the opposite of what parents do in the Quiverfull realm. They DO go way out of their way to protect their children from so many things that many of those children emerge into adulthood with some serious gaps in their ability to navigate the world or be productive members of society at large. Plus this idea of men as 'pea brained' seems to only really exist in advertising and comedy. In a largely patriarchal society such as we live in, more men hold higher positions of responsibility, rebutting these worlds. … [Read more...]

Who Said It – Michael Pearl and Christian Grey Edition

Think you can tell the difference between things No Greater Joy's Michael Pearl says and the things said by Christian Grey in the book 'Fifty Shades of Gray'? Guess which below belongs to which man. Answers at the very bottom of the page. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Were Made For Men’s Sexual Pleasure?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - The Heresy of Skip Moen and His Book 'Guardian Angel' Part 2Editor's note: In BGR eagerness to debunk the assertion in Skip Moen's book that women exist to help keep their husbands on the straight and narrow road of life in Christ he goes to a place that Moen never mentioned in his book. The so-called 'natural use of women' in a marital relationship. BGR does not seem to realize that by reducing women to servants who put out sex and bear children he's missing out on some of the best parts of a marriage. How sad for his wife and he, much less anyone actually taking his words seriously. … [Read more...]

Understanding How Dysfunctional Families Prime Children For the Experience of Shame (Leading To Victimization)

by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization”There are many excellent Christian books concerning dysfunctional family dynamics -- that is besides the Book of Genesis which contains the best archetypal examples of how you should NOT relate to other family members! One of the most interesting families to draw out on a relationship diagram is that of Jacob, Esau and their parents, and some of the Christian self-help books in this genre look at many of the Old Testament patriarchs to explain how tri … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Not A “Real” Woman Unless You Bear Children?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender - The Heresy of Skip Moen and His Book 'Guardian Angel' Part 2Editor's note: Oh boy, now he thinks that all women secretly desire children and if you don't that you've bought some modern lie. In his simplistic and immature world all women should have children, or at least want children to validate their own roles as women. Funny how people with little to know experience in certain situations or roles always want to redefine those roles for others. … [Read more...]

Mythical Creation Science: Who Was Cain’s Wife?

by Mel cross posted from When Cows and Kids CollideA common problem pointed out by people who can read is that Cain's wife came out of the blue. Ken Ham himself decides to tackle this problem himself in Chapter 6 of The New Answers: Book 1.The Problem: In Genesis 4, Adam and Eve have sex and give birth to Cain and Abel.  They both offer sacrifices to God.  God likes Abel's sacrifice, but not Cain.  Cain gets mad and kills Abel.  God banishes Cain.  Cain has sex with his wife and they have kids.  Eventually, Adam and Eve have another son they name Seth. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Public School is Creating Indoctrinated Herd Mentality?

Ray E. Moore of Exodus Mandate as quoted by Raw Story - Christians Urge Parents to Save Their Kids From Indoctrination With an Exodus From Public SchoolsEditor's note: I don't think that our government is organized enough to have an actual agenda to turn all American children into an unquestioning herd of robots like Moore is claiming in the first part of his piece. While Common Core may not be the best thing for education, it remains to be seen, it's not trying to indoctrinate Christian kids to leave the church. Part martyrbating and part fear mongering. Every parent should be free to decide what type of education they want for their children and what will be best suited for each … [Read more...]