Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Talk To Anyone But Your Husband And Be A Woman?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – 10 Reasons Christian Couples Should NOT See Marriage Counselors as always linked through Do Not Link for your safety and the admin’s sanity.Editor's note: While Larry claims that a husband not talking to a wife is wrong he doesn't put it on the same level of offense that he claims when the shoe is on the other foot. He claims that wives that give their husbands the silent treatment are in rebellion. And you know what these types think about rebellion, that it is the same as witchcraft. You just cannot win with this guy. … [Read more...]

Religious Child Abuse: An Unending Source of Sadness

by M. Dolon Hickmon author of the book '13:24 - A Story of Faith and Obsession'In addition to supernatural benefits, religions often promise what amounts to a program of self-improvement. Ingredients may include prayer, studying scripture and attending regular meetings. Such paths often also call for personal sacrifice, whether in the form of tithes and offerings or through performing unpaid labor such as proselytizing door-to-door. For their efforts, the faithful are promised an array of tangible and intangible remunerations: health and wealth, relief of depression or anxiety, eternal life and so forth. For many, one particularly alluring promise is that of a fool-proof formula for … [Read more...]

Answering Quiverfull: Childbearing Kinder to a Woman’s Body Than Menstruation?

Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies as quoted and answered by Bruce Gerencser of The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser on FacebookNancy Campbell is a preacher of the old time gospel of perpetual pregnancy. Recently, Campbell wrote: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Man Controls EVERYTHING!

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – 10 Reasons Christian Couples Should NOT See Marriage Counselors as always linked through Do Not Link for your safety and the admin’s sanity.Editor's note: We're continuing down Larry Solomon's countdown of irrational toxic reasons why marriage counseling is not needed. Today it's all about the man being God and deciding every thing. … [Read more...]

Vyckie Garrison on Al Jazeera ‘America Tonight’ Tomorrow

Al Jazeera America ... tomorrow evening: Quiverfull Movement featuring Vyckie Garrison and Nancy Campbell.AMERICA TONIGHTAmerica Tonight investigates the controversial Quiverfull movement, considered cultish and repressive by critics, profiling two families happily "quivering" and one woman who escaped an abusive marriage. (30 minutes)The show runs at 9:30 pm on the East Coast so check your local listings. Here's the page for America Tonight … [Read more...]

Dear Family, Friends and Former Parishioners

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Posting this because sometimes it's a good idea to stop and look back to measure just how far we've come from our old life.What follows is the letter I sent in April 2009 to my family, friends and former parishioners. This letter came after Polly and I attended church for the 2008 Sunday before Thanksgiving. I am republishing it here so it is part of the historical narrative of my life. I know many of you have read this before but I hope you will read it again. As I reread this, I am reminded that what I wrote here is still, almost 6 years later, the motivating factor of my life.  The … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If Your Husband Is A Yeller Just Suck It Up With No Complaining?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 10 Reasons Christian Couples Should NOT See Marriage Counselors as always linked through Do Not Link for your safety and the admin's sanity.Editor's note: This piece is just a buffet of crazy toxic marriage advice it's going to take a few days to unpack the most harmful nonsensical bits. Today he's claiming that a husband that yells at you is no reason to run to the counselor at all. I don't know, sounds pretty abusive to me. One of my cats cannot stand anyone raising their voices around him, he was abused as a kitten and at 7 years old still reacts. It's abusive to him. How can it not also be abusive to a child or a woman? We'll be posting … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 4 Contrasting The Types (Every Man Will Lose His Wife–Unless He Follows Michael’s Advice)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 131-132We are still contrasting the three types of men. Today, though, we're going into depth about the weaknesses and strengths of Mr. Command, the Visionary, and Mr. Steady. Michael even makes some decent points. Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Man Can Correct Another Man In Front Of His Family?

by Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles - 10 Reasons Christian Couples Should NOT See Marriage Counselors and as always safely linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: In this bit it seems like Larry thinks that any other man correcting a man in front of his wife and family is somehow cutting off the scoldee's testicles if I'm parsing this right. I don't know, if you were doing something so toxic that it was having a deleterious affect on your family wouldn't you want the opinion of a highly trained professional so that you could make needed adjustments to stop hurting your family? … [Read more...]

Part 6: Building on Emotional Self Regulation – Adventures in Ambiguity

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace In the previous post, we explored the challenge of developing a healthy sense of personal power that we encounter when we exit a high demand group. How on earth can we get through life with a faulty set of coping tools, where do we go to learn them, and how can we figure out how to be balanced when all we've seen modeled for us is extremes of power and of emotion?   This topic is a huge one, but a person can do a lot of good work on their own to develop healthy Emotional Self-Regulation after exiting.REMEMBER:  As with all things that make generalizations about groups of people, if this doesn't describe your experience after … [Read more...]