It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog when Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the blue appear in blue text as alwaysChapter Six means we are halfway through this book!The chapter title is "Slaying the Inner Vamp: When the Female of the Species is More Deadly Than the Male." … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Nip What In The Bud?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Nip It In The BudEditor's note: So apparently the times the father tried to ask the kid to run along weren't good enough, even if this is part of what Debi is saying that the father should have done. And those strings she's referring to being tied at the end of this piece? Something called 'strings of fellowship' Bizarre. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Nip What in the Bud?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Nip It In The BudEditor's note: Another you're doing parenting wrong piece from the Pearls. In this one they condemn a man for beating his son. I cannot for the life of me figure out why the parent didn't diffuse the situation by taking an action like picking up the toddler after the first or second time he kicked the adult visitor, or by stopping to tell the child at that exact point to knock it off in a friendly manner. Why are all parenting interactions so extreme in Pearl world? I also question the validity of the story just from the physical difficulty of kicking and waving handfuls of rock in the air at the same time. That toddler must have had … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Biblical Divorce Because Of Abuse?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Thankfulness For the Little Things?

by Becky Thompson from Becky - An Honest Valentine For My HusbandEditor's note: Digging through the archive at Ms. Thompson's site brings up all sorts of other pieces on how marriage is a battlefield and other not so great ideas about marriage. Like this one, in which she manages to be thankful for some of the things her husband does that do not seem from here to be about her at all. Marriage really seems much more difficult, unpleasant and like a slave-master relationship inside Fundamentalist Evangelicalism. … [Read more...]

Open Thread – Easter Holidays

Open thread - Discuss whatever you'd like.Easter Question: How has Holy Week and Easter changed for you? Did you believe in your old faith community that chocolate bunnies and Easter baskets were sinful? Or did you celebrate Easter like everyone else? Celebrating in a special way this year? … [Read more...]

Trusting a Therapist in Stage One of Healing

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceAll images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission My husband and I once took in a few feral kittens. He says that it took three years before they would let him touch them. I saw this meme today and thought of the good therapists and the not so good ones that I've seen. It is no easy job to develop trust with a feral cat, and in many ways, I think that traumatized people have much in common with them.  We have forgotten how to trust, and we need someone with great patience to help us remember and learn if we ever knew how to have healthy trust to being with. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Has Sports Killed Church?

by Leslie from Growing 4 Life - The New ChurchEditor's note: While she might have a point about sports being worshiped in America this is no new thing and it's seriously doubtful it is the main reason people aren't going to church much any more. The NFL has had Sunday games for decades now. It has more to do with the leagues of people eager to abuse others or put them down with their tongues, the lack of relevance to their lives, and so many other things that nothing to do with sports at all. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 The Boys

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue text.Quick refresher before we hit the boys.  According to the Botkin Sisters, girls should:Treat all young guys as they would treat their brother...kind of. Don't flirt, joke, tease, or have deeply personal conversations with boys. Be more reserved around guys than girls. Realize guys are imperfect and treat them with understanding and charity. Have "family friends" rather than individual guy friends.Here are the guys: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of – Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger’s Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: This last bit makes me feel sad for the author. Marriage shouldn't be a battlefield that you're constantly having to toil at to make work. If it's that much work and stress it's not much of a marriage there to revive. Sometimes a kind comment has nothing to do with attempting to turn your heart towards anyone, it's a small thing done by someone that sees you're having some sort of issue that day, or senses you need a little bit of a lift to get through your day. … [Read more...]