Open Thread: Christmas Aftermath – Maintaining Healthy Emotional Boundaries in Family Dysfunction Post-Evangelicalism

Just wanted to throw open a discussion thread to discuss best ways to deal with the holidays and family after leaving your old faith. Or perhaps you've not left but a family member has. Or your family is filled with dysfunction, turmoil and trauma that has nothing to do with  religion at all. Do you struggle to maintain healthy emotional boundaries in the holidays? Did you have to fend off an over-eager fundamentalist relative wanting to issue some serious 'Come To Jesus' your way as recently described by Bruce Gerencser? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hospital Births Disgusting & Unsafe?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson of Are They All Yours? - Did I Already Mention I Hate IVF?Editor's note: Ironic that a woman that parades her brood of children internet-wide and even the ultrasound scans of her TTTS twins in utero to the entire world is going to complain about someone else having a token child to show around. Pot meet kettle. … [Read more...]

Confessing to That Which I Did Not Do

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsI was watching one of those real life crime drama shows recently.  I can’t remember if it was Dateline or 20/20 or 48 Hours, but the story was about a young woman who was interrogated bullied by the police for hours on end until she agreed with them that she had slammed a baby to the floor causing a head injury that led to his death.  She was convicted and in prison when the fact that the child had suffered a concussion weeks before that had caused his death.  Over and over, the reporter asked, “Why did you confess to something you didn’t do?”  And it was that question that brought revelation to me. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Combatting STDs Creates More STDs?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson wife of Steven L. Anderson pastor of Faithful Word Baptist Church and blogger at Are They All Yours?Editor's note: This is from a posting Zsuzanna made where she ranted about the evils of women using the IVF method of having children.  There's a lot to unpack in the posting, but this particular bit of racist assumptions of hers jumped out quickly as awful and so incredibly judgmental. How can providing education about STDs and responsible tools to avoid STDs, like condoms, be wrong in a place where you stand an incredibly high risk of infection be wrong? … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 11 Mr. Command (What Command Wives Want)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 125Today we finish up the chapter on Command Men. Like the previous 2 chapters, Michael ends this chapter with a wish list from the wives of Mr. C's. It's a short little section, Text is in purple … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Feminism Killing America?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Feminism Will Come To An End. as always linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry is blaming everything he does not like on the fact that women have the right to vote in our country and claiming dire future consequences if feminism is allowed to continue. Stay home, stay barefoot and pregnant, don't sass a man, don't divorce your man for any reason. Shut up and put out. … [Read more...]

Never Doubt Your Bible, No Matter How Far-Fetched it Seems

by Bruce Gerencser  cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserI received Michael and Debi Pearl’s No Greater Joy magazine in today’s mail. In an article titled, Watching Bible Prophecy Fulfilled, Michael Pearl details the so-called prophecies found in Ezekiel 38, 39. Evangelicals like the Pearls believe that this passage of Scripture predicts the establishment of the Jewish state and a war in the Middle East prior to the rapture of the church and the seven-year Tribulation.As Pearl was unpacking his theories about the future, he told the story of a Church of Christ preacher who had written a book in 1946 attacking the premillennial view of future events. The auth … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Men Are Logical, Women Are Emotional?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Feminism Will Come To An End. as always linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note: Larry is claiming that women are illogical and emotional and that's why they should always been ruled over by men. He's saying with with zero empirical evidence. There's no research to back up what he's saying and he doesn't bother to cite any studies or statistics. It's all pure Larry-assumptions. After hearing his 'logic' eviscerated by Alan Combs radio show it's pretty obvious he's more emotional than logical in his thinking.  … [Read more...]

Sarah Morehead Fundraiser

by No Longer Quivering founder Vyckie Garrison a plea to help out this holiday season.Sarah Morehead and her children need and deserve our support this Christmas! Sarah was one of the first ex-fundie moms to join the No Longer Quivering group way back when our spiritual abuse recovery support was just a tiny forum on Proboards.Over the years, I've been in awe of the incredible amount of dedicated work, work, work! which Sarah has devoted to the cause of exposing religious abuse and providing assistance to the community of folks who have the courage and integrity to walk away from toxic religion. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Surrogate, IVF or Which Way?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]