Fear Factor

by Ellen cross posted from When Church HurtsMy friend, Rebekah Gilbert, has written a great blog post about Fear.  Her thoughts turned on a light bulb in my head because I realized just how true her words are.  You see, the spiritual abuse that was meted out to me had one purpose only:  to create fear in my heart and in my life.Perhaps the perpetrators’ ultimate goal was to get me to leave, but they did this in such a way that over the decade-plus years of spiritual abuse, I became terrorized.  And, just as my friend, Rebekah, realized, once I began to stand up to my abusers, the fear that they had placed on me returned to them.  Such great fear that their only recourse was to ban me … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Entire Identity Is As A Mother?

by Steven L Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - The Effects of Birth ControlEditor's note: So much ignorance and fear mongering in a few short paragraphs. That bit at the end about green plasma caused by birth control pills is especially ridiculous considering there are also other circumstances that cause green plasma - the coloration is completely harmless.  It's not 'poisoning' like Anderson claims. He doesn't seem to realize that not every woman is cut to be a stay at home mother. It does speak to the fear of everything outside the canon of fundamentalism that drives churches like the IFB. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Help! I Keep Getting Hit On!

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Birth Control Steals Your Joy?

by Steven L. Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - The Effects of Birth ControlEditor's note: That sermon transcript archive at Faithful Word Baptist Church is like Christian in July, a treasure trove of misspelled, grammar-mangling, bad ideas, bad Bible translations pile of crazy. There's nothing that exposes the under-educated belief system of a Independent  Fundamentalist Baptist Church. Another pastor doubling down on the message of no birth control ever, have as many kids as possible and women should always stay home. It's a good thing that the Marie Curies of this world didn't follow that advice or we'd have been deprived of many useful things, theories and science. … [Read more...]

“Lies Women Believe” Review: 215 – 242

by Samantha Field cross posted from Samantha P Field.comIf there’s one thing that doing all these reviews have taught me about writing non-fiction books, it’s to avoid getting repetitive in the last two chapters. A lot of what Nancy covers in this last part of Lies Women Believe she’s already been over in different ways before. However she’s not completely unoriginal, so let’s dive in. IF MY CIRCUMSTANCES WERE DIFFERENT, I WOULD BE DIFFERENT … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Wife Should Fear You?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles - Reverencing, Ravishing and RolloEditor's note: Last BGR for a while. His writings just infuriate me even worse than Michael Pearl's. Here he's answering the criticism of a Men's Rights Activist (MRA) over his last piece we quoted here on how to enjoy sex with a wife that will not cooperate the way you like. The MRA man said that BGR and other Christian Beta Men (his words, not mine) failed to use appropriate 'dread' in getting sex from their wives. BGR goes on to explain that dread shouldn't be used, but straight up fear should be used. … [Read more...]

News: Bill Gothard’s IBLP Sued

This is a trending topic today on Facebook and finally receiving the attention it deserves in the main stream media. Remember all those women who've come forward through the website Spiritual Sounding Board and other places alleging that the head of Institute of Basic Life Principles and Duggar friend Bill Gothard had behaved in an inappropriate sexual manner with them while they were interning at IBLP? Five of them have filed a law suit against the board of IBLP. You know who sits on the board for IBLP? Duggar friend and reality television patriarch Gil Bates. This is all so very incestuous in the weirdest way. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Lying is A-Okay Biblical?

by InsanityBytes22 (one of Biblical Gender Roles many honeybadgers: ie one of the female commenters that pops up in his comments approving of every female-hating idea he posts) at her blog Insanity Bytes 2 -It's Okay to Fake it (Do Not Link linked)Editor's note: I will agree with her that good manners should happen, but if you've contemplated smothering your husband in the middle of the night perhaps being mannerly is not what needs to happen. Perhaps you should consider why you're feeling homicidal towards your spouse and work through that, or leave for his safety. Covering your feel with mouthing polite words merely wallpapers over dangerous volcanic feelings. Get help. … [Read more...]

News: ABC’s ’20/20′ Tonight Will Feature Story On Justin Harris Rehomed Adoption

Remember the stories on Arkansas Representative we've featured here involving his rehomed adoptive daughters being sexually molested by their new adoptive father? The Harris', hard core Evangelical Christians that claimed that the children were possessed so they locked the girls into their rooms? We have covered the various and sundry sleazy doings of Justin Harris extensively here.  … [Read more...]

Law & Order: SVU Duggar Family Edition

This week the trailer dropped for the upcoming episode of NBC's hit show "Law & Order Special Victims Unit" with the storyline inspired by the the Duggar Family. It involves a storyline about a famous reality television Quiverfull family named the Bakers who number 13 - a 'Bakers Dozen' Everything that's been publicly released so far shows that the main story is that the 13 year old Baker daughter turns up pregnant. … [Read more...]