Quoting Quiverfull: Do Not Report Child Sexual Abuse to Authorities?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater joy - Twelve Year Old MolesterEditor's note: A mother writes in about the molestation of her friend's child by another child and Michael says do not report this to law enforcement? He seems to be completely unaware that their pastor is a mandatory reporter under the law and that if the offender is doing this because she may have been molested in the past that by involving the law she might be able to receive treatment from a qualified childrens therapist to help her move past her problems. How is covering all this up helpful to anyone? … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Teaching or Giving Friendly Advice?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Always Spank a Screaming Child?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - 3 Year Old ScreamerEditor's note: I almost don't have words for how repugnant this idea is! Three year olds are toddlers and everyone knows that toddlers have very low frustration thresholds. Would it not be better to help a child learn to deal with their frustrations so that the screaming becomes a thing of the past? Just maybe the child needs a nap, or a snack or just some extra time with daddy or momma. Why is beating the child always the first answer in Pearl world? … [Read more...]

Part 5 – When Love Isn’t Enough – The Musser Family Tragedy

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideEditor's note: The original series on the Musser Family Tragedy by Mel Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4Last time we discussed the Musser family Quiverfull through adoption beliefs we got enormous push back by those that said we were only trying to 'shame' the Mussers. That is not the intent at all. The Mussers and other adoptee families are featured here to illustrate the problems and dangers when a family decides to fill their quiver by adoption as well as child birth. A cautionary tale. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Biblical Appeals to Your Husband?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles.com - How to Help Women Learn Their Place - Not linking to BGR because DoNotLink.com is down right now.Editor's note: Larry has written a list of all the good things his teenage daughter needs to know to be content in her place, to know her place. So much of this is so bad and offensive that it was difficult to simply pick out the most toxic part. This is the only bit I'll be posting from Larry's list. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 Chapter 3

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideThe Botkin sisters words are in indigo blueWhen I was teaching, I'd often be busy enough that I would be half-listening to a student talking about an interest of theirs while I was doing something fairly mindless like entering grades or double-checking chemistry worksheets to be sure the problems were solvable.  The problem with this method is that I found it hard to control my facial expression when a student-lead conversation took a strange turn.  For example, imagine listening to a student complain about how hard it is to get an after school job while you have an entire conversation in your head at the same time (italics) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Devil in Every Coloring Book?

by Anonymous posted at The Last Hiker - Adult Coloring Books and Mandalas: A Warning for ChristiansEditor's note:While there's no evidence that this particular blogger is Quiverfull she/he has managed to write something very common in both the world of Quiverfull and Fundamentalist/Evangelical Christian in general - fear mongering over so many common things in life. Though the years we've seen so many things decried as tools of the devil, simple things like pogs, children's trading cards, cartoons, you-name-it. Fear mongering isn't healthy and is it not the importance you give to things that determines if they are good or evil? Besides, if mandalas make you uncomfortable (and this … [Read more...]

Churches That Abuse: Part 3 – Why Good People Do Bad Things and Why Bad People Do Bad Things

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserIn my last post on this subject I wrote: In this post I want to deal with Churches that Abuse: Why Good People Do Bad Things. This post deals with a very difficult and controversial subject.  It is easy for us to understand evil actions in a church when they are committed by evil people: wolves in sheep clothing. It’s much harder for us to understand evil actions in the church when the evil is committed by individuals who are generally considered good people… … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Angelic Messenger?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - You Are An Angelic MessengerEditor's note: So now not only do the women in Nancy Campbell's quiverfull world have to do all the housework, all the schooling, all the child-rearing, suppress every negative emotion or thought, now they have to be 'angelic messengers' too? The demands on women in this movement are never ending without people like Nancy adding more 'to-do's. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Women Have Such Burdensome Roles?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One of the big things that jumps out at you from Nancy Campbell's Above Rubies 'daily encouragement' postings is the added burden on women in the Quiverfull world. Men are taxed with very little, bring home the bacon and be the family patriarch. But women are told to do every freaking thing in the world, do all the housework and cooking, raise the kids, homeschool their children, have a cottage industry to help with the family finances... you name it... What Nancy does is routinely add 'must do's to the very gendered roles of womanhood in the … [Read more...]